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Hey Samuel, what do you think about my ex most likely being on tinder already, partying with friends and taking active steps to move on. I feel so stupid, like after a second chance it still didn’t work out.
Well he is trying to fill the void you left, if he is advertising his partying with his friends it could be that he is being competitive and trying to rub it in your face which is a sing he still loves you! The tinder app is mostly meet and fucks so no worries there haah also its only been a month so dont worry after 3 months then it could be threatning but your not there yet!
Well we’ve actually only been broken up a week but there has been no contact and he’s deleted me from all social media. He’s not rubbing anything in my face as we’ve had no contact but I know he’s trying to get our there. There’s this one chick im concerned about as last time we broke up his best mate who hates me tried to push him onto this girl who is younger (22) than me and he’s 31. I just feel like rubbish as I still haven’t heard from him and I thought he would care a little more
Can you reply to me please? 🙂
Sorry Samuel, i was out shopping lol. Trying to keep doing little menial jobs to keep me busy you know how it is lol. I was so paranoid though I may have driven past his house. Stupid i know cause that doesn’t help me. But it was just his car in the drive way :). But it still doesn’t make me feel any better. Like I know it hasn’t even been a week since he’s left me but he hasn’t even contacted me. Last time he messaged to check up on me which was nice but this time its the opposite making me wonder if it is over. I’ll respond now 🙂
If he gave you a chance before, there is still a chance.. He thought enough about it then to give it a shot.. Unfortunately, if he’s not a complete idiot, the things you did to get him back the first time may be all too familiar to him..
As far as social media is concerned, I did the same thing.. As soon as we decided to split, I un-friended Her and Her Family it wasn’t because I was mad, but it was because I couldn’t bear the thought of seeing things (Life) that I was missing out on.. I really didn’t have a family growing up, but they took me in for the last 6yrs and made me part of their’s.
When we split, we kept it really low key.. There are friends of ours that still ask us individually how the other is doing, we didn’t want to post our business all over social media. The close friends of ours that do know, are sad.. they expected us to be together forever..
As far as Tinder is concerned.. He’s more than likely trying to expedite the “process” of moving on.. even though we all know by what we have read that it will be a short term fix..
Thanks @JAM818, he is smart man and this is his 3rd relationship but first one that he broke off. I feel like there’s no hope as he hasn’t contacted me to even see how I am and so on. I also feel like he ended the relationship this time around too quickly without giving it a real chance and they has greatly disappointed me, especially after 2 weeks before we broke up we booked flights to hawaii indicating he was thinking about the future with me. He does have a few stresses such as joining the police force and he is slowly moving forward in the right direction to getting there however I was always there by his side supporting him so I don’t know if that could have played a factor though. He is 30 years old and only now just getting his career started. A couple of his really good friends also don’t like me which won’t help my situation will it.
Unlike you we don’t really have any close mutual friends. I could say some of his friends are aquitences of mine. Some of the things you say make me feel like this really isn’t going to wrk out in my favour again. Which i guess i will have to be ok with, its just hard when we had all these future plans right up until we broke up and now they all have to be cancelled.
Stay busy, become better and give both of you some time off for 30 days 🙂 everything will be alright!
Yeah, it sucks.. You see everybody on here just trying to get one “Shot” at fixing things with their significant other, it has to be even more disheartening to hope for a third chance.. 🙁
Stay positive, don’t let him see you down.. Find a girlfriend that wants to go to Hawaii with you, change the name on the ticket and tear it up!! Take a ton of pictures and post that ish all over Facebook!!
Yeah while i do feel like i’m to blame mostly, I think there is more we could have done and he could have done really. Like the moving back in again was silly but he didn’t have many other options at that point in time. I just feel dumb and hopeless.
I think he will have to contact me before then though if i don’t contact him, as he may have to move out of the house we shared if he can’t get a roommate cause he can’t afford it. I remembered after I left there were a few things I left behind which i just forgot cause i was in a hurry to get out. But i doubt that will mean much hey.
hey there, I’m having a really bad afternoon right now. I haven’t been able to get up and actually do anything important like my studies. I started crying for the first time in 3 days because I’m just feeling so down and lonely without him and without any contact from him.I just feel really worthless :/.
I feel ya.. I travel a lot for work, when I’m usually out of town I never really felt lonely.. Because I knew she was at home and I looked forward to seeing her when I got back.. Last night sitting in my hotel room I never felt more distraught, because I know that when I fly back she will not be there.. We did exchange texts lastnight, she’s currently living with her sister, but mentioned that they are looking for a bigger place, which makes me feel like her “Future” doesn’t include us, or even the hope for us.. How is it that every crappy relationship she’s had before, these guys get 2,3,4 chances.. And fail, I’m just asking for one.. I’ve been doing really good, lastnight was a set-back though.. In texting lastnight, she knows I’m not home.. I have a feeling when I get back tomorrow, more.. If not all of her things that are still at our place will be gone..
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