She said she see's me in her mind & dreams!?!?

@Gingerone … This is just a guess/feeling, but to me she’s reaching out.

The basis of me saying this is the assumption that SHE contacted you first.

If she did, I’m almost 90% sure she’s implicitly A)Telling you she misses you and B)Is gauging your feelings.

In your place I would’ve said “Hey it’s nice to hear from you, I love to get together. When are you free?”.

It’s straight to the point, it tells her you’re interested and it’ll effectively put her on the spot in a “take it or leave it” situation.

If she’s looking for an ego boost and says “No, I’m too busy” just say “Well that’s a shame let me know when your schedule eases up” and go No Contact again.

IF she tells you when she’s free, you just set up a date at NIGHT.

Let me know how it goes, I’m interested in this one!

@Gingerone I somewhat agree with SolidTurd, however I still think that the meeting idea should come from her, unless you’re pretty sure that she won’t decline your offer. She should feel like it’s her idea to meet up. Maybe you can try talking with her about some place nice or bring up this topic casually and see how she responds, but without asking her directly. That why you’ll see if she’s interested. besides that if she keeps contacting you then it’s already a good sign especially with all these things she said.
It’s good that you are focusing on yourself and I’m glad that you feel better, keep doing what you’re doing. You have nothing to lose!

@Gingerone What she’s said is indeed confusing. But I believe that she wouldn’t say anything like that if she means it only in a friendly way. Obviously when someone tells you that they are dreaming and thinking about you and even shouting your name while asleep then it means something more to them. I think that she started to realize her feelings and maybe even figured out what she wants, which is you. However it won’t change anything if she wouldn’t act and decide to get back together. Maybe she figured out her feelings but still not ready for a relationship again. Maybe you can try talking with her on the phone for a few days and see how it goes. If it goes well then you can offer her to hang out together and see how she responds. How long had you been together?

We’ve met up 3 times since the break up. At first he was cold and distanced. But on our last meeting he was warmer and smiled a lot. We laughed and had a good time. He also seemed jealous when I talked about this guy I dated. Asked me questions about him and such.

Since then I’ve stopped contacting him and he started to initiate (It was a month ago) Before that I was the one initiating all the time. We agreed to stay friends so this could be the reason for him to initiate the meeting. But last time he said it bothers him that I still have feelings for him so why would he offer to meet up anyway? Also last time and the one before he called me at midnight, said that he worked till late. So I’m asking myself why would he think of calling me right after he gets home and probably tired from work? My parents think that maybe he’s trying to reach out or to start something again but I’m confused from all of this.

@Gingerone No one can forget someone after 5 years relationship with him, that’s for sure. It definitely seems like she still attached to you and has feelings. And you’re right she could have said nothing but instead she mentioned it twice, which obviously means something. I know that girls can be emotionally attached sometimes and still be confused about what they want. So I think her feelings might become clear when you two meet up. Don’t get your hopes up as you said, play it cool and wait for her to initiate the meeting.

My ex and I were together for 1.4 years.
I think the same, I know that he’s probably thinking about me if he’s calling me in these hours and right after work. But even if he wants something again I’m afraid that he won’t be the one to make the first move. His ego is too big. My friend keeps telling me that maybe his intentions are really just to stay friends, and that’s why he keeps in touch. However she doesn’t know him much, only from the things I’ve told her before. Also his behavior is too weird for just a “friend”. I guess I’ll figure out his true intentions next time we meet.