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Just chat, use this opportunity to make it all new.
Let the next date come from her.
@Gingerone I agree with ty10 on this. Remember to take it slow from here.
Also just something to take notice of, I think you shouldn’t talk about stuff from the previous relationship for now, take it as a new and fresh relationship and have fun 🙂
And yes I think the next meeting should come from her. Even if you want to talk to her and tell her stuff try to play it cool for now and see how things go.If I may ask for how long were you two broken up?
@oshi just a bit over 4 months since our break-up.
I know you all said wait till she got in contact to arrange something but I had a good feeling about it all. So I asked her to go with me on a hike on thur (ive got a day off) and she said yes! Funily enough she even said we could meet up on wed evening if I wanted. So double boues. But yes your right I should take it slow. But she’s willing to meet up and that can only be good 🙂
Do take it slow, because sometimes coming over strong may just lead to cracks opening again. Enjoy each others company and when the time comes, and it will, have the conversation to sort out the past issues but remember this is a new start/relationship. Be constructive and I’m sure all will end well for you.
Honestly, I’m really pleased for you. Keep us updated, because even though I gave up on any chance of getting my ex back week ago, let alone even getting answers, it really puts a smile on my face seeing people on here having to go through a hell of a lot of emotions come out on the other side with some positives.
Just don’t rush into anything!
I am also happy that this is happening for you. Just concerned at the you turn. Go knows I know how you feel after a night with her. It’s just all to easy to fall back in to old habits.
There is an element of you just doing what ever you want at the moment. Be sure that we are all trying to help. Take a step back and listen sometimes
It’s great that she’s willing to meet up again! I’m really happy for you! 🙂 I know you have a good feeling about this but anyway like we all said I think you should take it slow and don’t rush anything, because if it will be too much for her or too fast she may distance herself again. Keep yourself busy, play it cool, and just go with it for now.
So it’s about the same as mine. Almost 5 months now. I just didn’t believe that after that much time things could change. But I guess they can 🙂
I know guys, maybe it’s just out of friendship but at least it’s something. How is everyone? @oshi how are your exams going ?
@jburg32 how are u? Any news?
@gingerone yeh, ex has gone back to the UK for two weeks. So if all goes to plan with me I leave the country for food next week.
She keeps telling me it’s exciting and this is good for me etc.
I can feel myself getting sucked in to texting all the time. I hope she doesn’t go cold again.
I don’t get how I was ready to walk away to spending the night and saying I can’t say goodbye yet.
I wish it was mate, just think it was a game to stop me saying goodbye.
We have exchanged a few messages again. She said that now isn’t right she has just shut down and she doesn’t know if she can get passed the trust things.
We did no sex just held each other all night. Which she initiated.
@Gingerone I’m almost done with my exams. It’s a bit hard sometimes focusing on them with all the things going on but I’m doing my best 🙂
Why do you think it could be out of friendship? You said you talked all night and even been intimate a bit. I don’t see any reason for her to do so when she’s not interested or has feelings for you.
@oshi glad your exams are going well, must be hard to do with everything.
Not sure maybe I was over confident she says maybe she can’t come on the hike now but would still like to meet up tomorrow night. Not sure what to think I suppose I’ll find out more tomorow. Ye we were intimate but no love making. Kissing hugging she even initiated it. She kept feeling me and saying how good I looked. And what got me is when I woke up and she was just watching me sleep. I know there’s something there but it’s like she doesn’t want to admit it. Like I said I’ll know more tommorow.
@jburg32 it’s like we’re in the same situation. Very strange. How do u feel about it all after you stayed the night? Do u think u might get back together?You need to treat this as a new relationship, so act like you would at the start of a fresh one. Find a way of getting to know each other again if you know what I mean…
You need to play it cool, take it slow and see where the moments take you. Soon enough you will have that chat but in a way it has to come from her because she’s the one who appears confused. Trust your gut and after seeing each other a few more times you don’t know where you stand then that’s probably the time to bring everything up.
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