Recent break up after 5 years

Aussie_guy,

The gist is by what you’ve written is that you’re over analysing.
You’re looking into every possibility out of series of events that’s happened lately.
Nikki is contributing her thoughts too. It’s really complicated how you’ve written this so I’m just going to cut out what’s been said and done and just look at facts.

Whatever had been analysed you need to back off, Sarah doesn’t know what she wants. She’s at that age she needs to commit and it’s staring at her in the face. If she commits it’s the whole shebang, house, kids, marriage the lot and it sounds like she’s not ready yet by the way she’s acting. Her clock is ticking but she’s unsure so she’s freaking out.

Read that article I sent a link to. After reading it you will be much more peaceful in yourself!

Aussie guy,

It’s really hard to give advice or comment on someone else’s relationship because only you and her know really what happened. All I can say is that if she’s mad and upset giving her space and time to figure herself and the situation out. I’m sure she still cares about you and thinks about you. You guys spent a lot of time together and that just doesn’t go away. Ultimately you should give her time and then at some point reach out and ask the tough questions and see where your future stands. I know from my situation tho you may never get the answers you are looking for. All I ever got was I don’t know what will happen but I don’t want to lead you on. After getting that after the first 4 months when I asked twice I just stopped asking and just started being cordial. My ex is still very emotional as I’m sure yours will be for a long time. The only thing I can say that helped me is to get back to being the best version of yourself. Hopefully working on yourself will bring you happiness and one day you and your ex can reunite. You can’t reunite with the hope of ever going back to how it was. How it was didn’t work and I realized that. You have to hopefully get to a point where if you get back both of you are better and that will make your relationship better together. After a certain amount of time you have stop thinking about asking for her back because the reality is that it is her decision to make to reunite and not yours. I will never ask for my ex back directly and only hope I guess she makes the decision to try again and at that time who knows where I will be in life. People get back together after long break ups, sometimes it’s just how life works.