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Rihanna – Hearing you say that a guy cant maintain a relationship because he is financially unstable is just another Bullshit excuse in my mind. For the last 6000 years plus mankind have made relationships work if they wanted it too. Relationship were formed during the Great depression of 1929 that have last for years. Think about that where you literally had no money, no place to live and the only thing you could eat for days is turnips. Yet out that couples got together, made love and had happy relationships that lasted a life time. Even today there are many people who are in the financial shit and close to being bankrupt yet they are still in a happy relationship.
As far as my cynical mind thinks it comes down to this “If a guy or girl wants to be with their partner, than nothing on this earth will stop that from happening be it war, famine, distance, addictions, finances or alien invasion. If a guy or girl doesn’t want to be with another person then every single excuse will be used to ensure they breakup or not get back together, whether it be war, famine, distance, addictions, finances or alien invasion”
Your Ex doesn’t want to be with you right now and because he doesn’t want to be a complete dick he is using the excuse of being “Financially unstable”. If it wasn’t finances there will be some other excuse.
Look at me. My Ex told me she didn’t want to be in a serious relationship when she broke up with me, yet 4 months after that she is with another guy and 2 months after that she had moved in with him and they are still together. That is not the actions of a girl who doesn’t want to be in a serious relationship.
You could argue that your Ex is still ‘single’ and has been for a year. But how do you honestly know that. You live in different cities separated by a 3 hour plane flight. What do you know what he gets up to every Friday night? Very likely he is going to his Art shows and chatting up the girls that come to view his paintings. Then at the end of the night he is taking a new girl home every Friday and having sex with that girl the entire night. Sure he may be ‘single’ but he has a different girl every week. Girls go crazy over artist. Probably the reason he gets rude with you every now and then is because you text him when he is in the middle of having sex with a girl and it annoys him.
Robot and Raed – Manny Pacquiao should of won and I am starting to believe the conspiracy theories out there that the fight was rigged from the start.
I agree with Steve! It is somewhat funny that I was thinking of Rihanna’s case and when I checked my email, and there was Steve’s response. Even though I was single for a year so far but it is hard for me to think someone who attends more social events is single. Plus it was not that I didn’t want to be single, I did not have enough assets and I was depressed because I was dumped.
About Rihanna, I have started thinking that since you have started talking about going to Sydney (close to your ex), he is now trying to break it off. Previously, it was a matter of replying some texts for him.
Sorry for being rough Rihanna, but it is not fair to be in such a situation for a year. I know that you have had your first serious relationship very late and your mindset is different from people who get laid very often.
It is a long time that I have started thinking about my ex bullshitting too. Her flirty lusty change of tone that she was great in makes me think she probably has a great experience in seducing men. There was times that I thought she is so professional that she might have even worked in a strip club sometimes–that is serious but she kept saying that I am using her for sex as an excuse for making distance with me. She also claimed for being single for a long time since her last boyfriend but I have started to think she was bullshitting all the time.
Steve, I seriously feel the pain you had all the time! This fallacy was the roughest part to me! Thinking about her lies made me angry all the time. I hate this “its me–not you” thing! Anyway, I acted too clingy ignoring her rosy phrases! LOL!
Man conspiracy is a real thing! I did not believe in it until recently!
Rihanna
I second again to what Steve and Robot 3 has said. Being single doesn’t mean you don’t go out and date and have sex. He might be single because he is trying out all kinds of women.
And yeah, sorry for being rough too. But as a guy, if we badly so much wanted a girl no famine, apocalypse or invasion could have stopped us. Just as what Steve has said your ex was just trying to become a lesser dickhead by giving you bullshit reasons. We eould have to tell this to you no matter how rough it may sound because we wanted you to somehow finally open your eyes and see for yourself. It has been more than a year, honey.
When it’s gone, leave. Don’t continue waterung a dead flower 🙁
Haha, we are all on the same page peeps 🙂 I know it sounds harsh Rihanna what we are saying, but we are concerned about your well being. I have and still get in that mindset where I believe my Ex is the “One” and it will all work out in the end. Its not a healthy place to be. But I have you guys to correct any wrong thinking I have had in the past.
Robot: This weekend just gone was my one year anniversary since the breakup (May 2nd). I relate with you about the Ex bullshit. I was apparently the first boyfriend she had in a few years, or so she told me. Now I’m not too sure by the way she moved on and hooked up with another guy. What still gets me is all the Bullshit promises she made to me, the whole “I love you and want to spend the rest of my life with you”.
Then she changed her mind literally overnight. I got the full “its not you – it’s me” excuse as you know when she broke up with me. One year on and I have no clue as to the real reason she broke up with me…Not that it really matters any more. I still think I am 95% moved on.
Case in point, I went out to dinner at a friends place on Saturday night. I knew the girl who kissed me a couple of weeks ago was going also to this dinner. So I sent her a text in the morning to see if she wanted a ride. She replied straight away saying “Yes, as long as you don’t make me drive so I can have a few drinks (with a wink smile). For the rest of the day I was very happy and didn’t think about the Ex once. I picked her up and we went to the dinner. We had a fun night and played some board games/cards. I wasn’t drinking because I was driving. At the end of the night I drove this girl home and when we got back to her place we talked in the car for abit before she got out. Feeling a little bold I cheekily said “No goodbye kiss tonight?” She replied “Not tonight… we are just friends Steve” Then she poked her tongue at me and walked away to her door.
I got home and feeling a little lonely my thoughts went towards my Ex and how it had been exactly one year since I had last seen her. It had been 370 days since I have had sex too….not that I am counting.
But I feel like on the whole I have moved on, its really during those quiet late at night lonely times or first thing in the morning when I’m still laying in bed that I miss my Ex the most
I believe that she has crush on you but she is doubtful as most women are. I still bet on it.
I cleaned my closet today and discarded about 30 bottles of vodka and whiskey. I’m glad that I don’t need to drink to forget anymore. I have started seeing the future bright! Man I had great ego boosters lately! I know that my ex was not the best but my brain sometimes tends to trick me! I have got a response to this trick–if she was the best, I am okay with the second best! And yeah, 2nd best among 3 billion ladies outside more than wowwww!!
Peeps! I have discovered something!This semester I had a classmate who looked like my third last ex. I loved her face. She had a ring on her hand and once said that she has a boyfriend but our eye contacts was so often that I am sure that it was a mutual crush! But more importantly it made me think that there might be some kind of genetic makes up that we are more attracted to!
Also a jump at what my therapist said about my ex. I told him that she was great in mind games and she eventually won it. His reply was–she also did not win it because she also had a breakup and I felt like man why didn’t I ever think of this??!! Now I tend to think that it was painful for both of us!
Omg I heard you all! Thank you lol… My ex is almost always on Facebook now usually he NEVER goes on and the entire page is him spending almost every single day All day with his little sister! What the hell? Isn’t it bit weird? His little sister is married with two kids yet everyday she drives an hour to get to town and spend time with her brother! Pls explain that to me if you can.
I’m happy really without him and after reading your posts especially Steve, I know I’m not the first or only one who got lied to. That’s hurt me the most that he lied and still is probably. I’m so sorry for your past hurt Steve but I can see how you’re moving on to better things and that girl may be the cure to your lonely thoughts.
My ex watched the fight Friday night hehe… Usually when we talked he told me how he spent his day in details hehe… Notice how I’ve used the past tense about him. I’m not fussed whether he’ll call or not, there are better out there. I know he’ll never find someone like me cos women are very materialistic to say the least, pretty women want rich man. I’m not bad looking, educated, smart, have plans for my future perhaps I got too good for him.
I’m always thankful I have you guys in my life. My soul is hurting, my spirit wounded but after the pain comes healing…
PS: I’m learning hot stone massage treatment and really enjoying my course 🙂 … There’s an upside to my pain already … All my love xx
Robot, you make me wonder about the way men think. Have you ever fallen deeply in love with one girl that she’s always been the one for you no matter who you’ve dated before and after her? Have you ever had to measure other women against the one and only? Coos you seem to care a lot and not so much about all women hehehe… And for God sake, leave the girl who already has a boyfriend alone, I’m sure b you’re reading too much into that look… Do NC with me we both need it 🙂
Robot 3
Since last week Rihanna had been telling you to do NC with her! Ha ha ha! So cute. It’s as if she’s just asking you to go to the gym with her 😛
And about the mutual eye contacts, does that mean a mutual crush? Because the one I like right now, we often have eye contacts.
Rihanna
I can do NC with you, I just don’t know with whom. LolRaed, I’m not sure why I’m doing NC either or for how long lol.
At least I know that I’m moving to Sydney for myself not for my ex. But I still don’t know how complicated it’s gonna be. Do I have to make a special trip to see few places? Rent a car to house hunt? Or find one from here give a week and if I don’t like it move to another place once I’m there… This is getting harder to do by myself. How did you guys reach independence? How did you move on and away from your parents home?
RAED,
Of course when it is too much and every time you look around it is you two looking at each other–it is a mutual crush! It is funny that girls consider it as a signal and if you don’t approach (but you happen to talk about it sometime later), she will probably ask you about why didn’t you approach her.
Rihanna,
You are asking me to do NC on you? lol
If you think I am thinking obsessed with my ex, you are wrong! There is nothing that reminds me of her and I know her real personality! She was faking all the time and this is what pisses me off but I don’t want to see her again!
I feel a lot happier! I have even started feeling as happy as I was before meeting her. Sorry for not telling you guys how happy I feel. I thought it would sound extra bombastic if I told you guys how happy and sexy I feel! My ex is the biggest loser in losing me–no doubt!
Okay day before yesterday, I was at the library and I noticed that a girl with real short shorts, small top and extra huge boobs looking at me. Her body was big and sexy! Every time I raised my head, it was we looking at each other. At some point, she put her legs on the table and turned towards me! I’m damn sure that if I had talked to her, sex was the least thing we would have but you know what? First of all, it was library and I could see that people had noticed this weird thing and it was absolute silent zone! Plus, these are my finals days! I’m sure that I will find another like her soon! There are tones of sexy fish for me!
Steve,
This is a video supporting Rihanna’s talks about women loving money! It is somewhat true dude and that is unfortunate! About the depression time, I believe there was no rich men around and women (in general) had to compromise!
Watch this video about ladies, peeps! Hot crazy matrix!
Rihanna
I’m 22 so I still live with my parents. I was able to move on because 1.) I want to 2.) I need to. Just like how success happens when opportunity meets preparation. You must both need and want it. Because no matter how much you have the ability but you lack the enthusiasm to do so, then nothing will happen. Same with moving on. You have to want it and need it so bad.
Robot 3
Is that so?! As easy as that?! Well to tell you I started liking the woman I love because I’ve been noticing how often we exchange glances and eye gazing. And sometime even if I’m too busy at work, whenever she passes I always have eye contact with her, what a very funny coincidence. I am not just sure if she is so pursuant with eye contact just because she’s a boss. But I am hoping the case is same with you – that she likes me too.Steve
What country are you from?8*//But to be honest, I that my suffering was because I am extra kind! Just a couple of weeks after our breakup, a mutual friend of ours who lives in the same apartment asked me about my ex. and I said that she is no more there! Then she kissed me and hugged me and told me that she is always there! I had dated her once! I had this idea of dating her neighbor and our mutual friend but I thought, it would be mean!
Rihanna, this last ex made me look like a fool by telling her boss that I don’t leave her alone! That was disgusting and shows how cheap she was! If I think of her (which is rarely these days) its about her disgusting personality. If I think of her its about the lies she always told me! And every day, I discover a new lie from her! I discovered another lie about her 2 weeks about when my friend was talking about the culture of the country of her parents.
RAED, my experience with sexual partners is that you need to pin them down as soon as possible. Some people have this thing in their head–don’t take your honey to the place where you make money! She might love you but she may not be interested in having a relationship with her colleague. But it is all up to you! Different people have different approaches and no one is wrong!
Rihanna,
I think I got what you mean now! Thank you for your concern! I think this site was about how to get your ex back and I kept talk about my life issues in the context of my ex! The truth is that I have trouble with life! I had a talk with a friend 3 weeks ago! We had not talked for maybe 2 years. He said that I have changed! He said, he remembered me (about 7 years ago that we were colleagues), as someone who would keep saying others that I am a very lucky man but now I see negatives in life! My tone is negative! Since they I did my best to change to the person I was years ago! That was a great reminder!
To be honest, I don’t give any fuck about the ex and my issues with my life is in terms my assets. I don’t have a car and it really sucks to be in this town with now public transport system. I know that I am decently attractive to some girls but it sucks when I ask them for a ride. It especially sucks for the first dates. I have been told this several times in the last year that “she” feels awkward when they drive me especially in our first date! Most of them did not last, even though they claimed that they enjoyed it and that was real–no flattery or euphemism.
I thought it would be smart if I tried to find girls on internet. Then I got messages from real hot girls that if I can meet them and spend the night together and my response was, sugar–I have have no cars; can you give me ride and there was no replies (sorry Steve, women want men to dominate them, they like been driven–in bed and real life. The harder you fuck them, the more they love you). Yes! My problem is that I am working hard for my future but for the present, I should go through these circumstances.
About my ex. She turned out to be a super bitch but I appreciate the fact that she drove me to different places and helped me handle a lot of things. It is sad but I could see her friends making jokes on her taking care of her boyfriend–driving him to malls for shopping, doing his laundry while his role is to provide the dick (this is why I hated her friends which I used to talk about in my first days of breakup). There was a friend of her who would our weekend plans and would mention that blah blah blah are going to blah blah blah place and she does not understand our relationship. Even though my ex supported me on those instances, I knew that these jokes will have negative impact on her mind and it finally did! I don’t like my ex because she became super rough on me but whenever, I meet a girl who talks about the inconvenience that she might face in dating me, I feel like my ex was an angel and she deserved more care from me!!!
RAED, enjoy being in early 20s! Girls don’t expect you to have anything but to be fun but when you reach your 30s you hear them talking about assets you should have! They become fucking materialists!!
Hey guys
SO you have all been busy overnight and a little bit for me to catch up on. I’m still at work so I will quickly answer a couple of questions and go in detail when I get home.
Raed – I live in Auckland, New Zealand. Land of hobbits and bungy jumping 🙂
Rihanna – I grew up in a small town in the South Island with a population around 5000 people. There was no work there outside of farming. A career I cant stand. So when I left school it was either stay and hate my job or move to the city. Auckland is in the North Island. Luckily I had an uncle who live in Auckland. I stayed with him for about 2 months, until I got my first job. Then I moved out and started flatting with some random strangers, but the place was close to work. For the first couple of years of living in Auckland I didn’t have a car so needed to live close to wherever I worked.
Anyway chat more once I get home and I will watch that video you linked Robot
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