my "evil" plan….more like: what I did in NC and what I'll do to have him back

maybe someting like:

things Giulia shouldn’t to ruin everything she accomplished

or

things Giulia shuould do to improve of the 200% her chances

scenario :

what if I want to go out tonight and I casually send a text to my friend saying :

Hi! Have you made some plans for tonight? how about we go [place a bit far but near the house of one of our friends that I don’t see from some time] to drink something, ask [the friend from before] to come too,since it’s a lot that I don’t see him!
I’ll ask [name of my girl-friend] to come too if she can.

How about this?…I want to make it as innocent as I can

yes yes I know , I’m not gonna drop that.

But I need at least one or two nights out with everyone so that we can discuss that together as a group.
Mostly because we didn’t plan almost anything, and the only day that is more comfortable ( for one of us) is Saturday and I know them , if I don’t try to make them think about it everything would crumble.

I rarely was the decisive person, I prefered the other to do plans and I’ll would just go with them even if I wasn’t really happy, and my ex always hated that.
He loved when I was the one to make decisions, he really like that in a person,he hates insicure people.
In fact he always urged me to speak my mind,make decisions and stand on my opinios.

That’s why I want him to see that I’m the one making plans and decisions and urged the others to go out together

ehy!

didn’t do it in the end…I’ll try this night or at least before friday since we plan on going saturday.(If I actually manage to speak to them about it in time)

And friday is even midsummer so we all used to have a party, a barbecue or maybe going to the lake for a swim (we all live near it ). It’s like a festive day.

Since I’ve made clear to them and him that I’m ok with going out and that I just want to be friends and have fun, and since me and him agreed with that in front of everyone, there should be no problems .

I actually sent a message yesterday to my girl friend asking if his boyfriend was working on that day, because if not, we could make some plans on what to do on that day together.
She didn’t reply yet and I’m not sure why.

The important thing is that I’m not sending him texts or calls so that he doesn’t think I’m doing all of this just to go out with him, or that I’m using our friends.

I have this constant doubts sometimes, like my head made too much scenarios or I think and rethink about the last night out in searching for mistakes.

ehy!
everything still a bit stuck…I’m waiting and hoping for tomorrow.
But I have a doubt and I would like to have many respond from everyone! I know that A.Z will probably respond to this ( and I’m grateful) I hope to have a lot of answers and point of view.

So after the NCP and the contact again, wich went well and all…..is there a chance that seeing that I’m well,happy and confident my ex will think something like :

she’s ok, and I can see she’s enjoying life and all…..but what if I come back to her and she’s turn out to be like before? what if she come back to be like she was when things weren’t good between us? I like this her….but I don’t know if she’ll change again after….

so what to do if this are his thoughts ? what can I do to make him sure that this is the new me and not some sort of trick on him that I didn’t change at all,
without having me to directly tell him that..

I hope I was clear ^__^’

ehy! thanks…that was something that kept roaming in my head for some days.

so one of my friend called for tomorrow night! We’re going to have a barbecue at his house to celebrate.
So another meeting in group, do you know some sneaky moves that works on guys? ahahahahah

…. no ,really… I need to hit him hard in the feels ahhahah

Thank you sunshinegirl! Well I need to thank this site and all the people who spend their time giving hope and advices. If it wasn’t for them…well I don’t know, maybe I would be still in bed crying my heart out.
Thanks to all of this I’m such a better person, I’m still determinate to make him want to be with be so badly that I’m feeling like one of the villans in a disney movies with their plans, tactis and sneaky tricks to lure the hero in my web, mhuauahaha.

Even if it may seems that everything is going in the right direction I still feel like I’m swimming against the current, and it takes so much energy and determination. I don’t want to start feeling secure….I still need to fight…a lot to open his F******* eyes ahahah, he is so thick.

A.Z
I actually read it! but I don’t really understand in my case how to apply scarcity.
I mean…I don’t know people outside our circle…yes I know someone in university but they live in a different city(I go there by train during the day), and it’s pratically impossible to make them come in our city. I can’t even do ospitality for them because I still live with my parents ( in italy is pretty common to do this).
I’ve read that is it possible to apply scarcity even without bring some other people, but here I ask you some help….
I’m not sure that I understand it very well ( maybe some mistakes in my translation).

A note : I was actually the only girl in our little group (we’re in 5).
Yes there is my other girl-friend who is now with one of the friend (so those 5 plus these 2), but I bonded with the most important friends for my ex ( his bestfriend especially).
I know from his mother that they all care for me, in fact we get along really well and I’ve always felt at ease with them, I even went free camping with them
( the classic men’s bond activities ahahha ).

What do you suggest to have an effect of scarcity in my case?