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ahahah thank you a.z!
I had doubts, but I actually think I did well and your reply made me much more confident.
Yes I think that how I acted was not needy at all, in fact I was friendly and supportive about his damn motorbike ( I swear after he was robbed of his former motorbike a few years ago, to buy a new one was like his major thought he had in mind).
So tonight I’ll probably ask him if he heard any news about it and that’s it, if he’ll ask me to hang out with everyone I’ll go , but I’ll not ask him that.Tomorrow night is when I’m really sure that they’ll go out all togheter.
In that case I’m not sure what to do….if he’ll not say a single thing about it, should I call him and say:
Hi are you guys doing anything tonight? I’ve missed everyone and I would like to hang out. How about going **a place where we always hang out,wich is a bit like home for everyone**?I suggest you to wait for him to ask you out.and i’m sure he will.
Text him and ask about the motor bike tonight,thats a good idea and if your saying that the motor bike is something he really cares about,so show your support and be excited when you talk about it.
Wait a little while like 1 week and let him feel comfortable when he is talking to you.like friends.and when he sees no signs of neediness or interest in getting back in you,he will definitely ask you out.even you can ask him out after this week.just let him make sure that you are cool and there is no negative point in you.yeah sound logical.
I’ll send the text late this evening. Just one question, do you think I should let the cominucation go between text or to actually try to talk to him on the phone,so he can hear my voice being excited and friendly? because I know he don’t really like to text he always prefered to call people, but don’t know maybe I should just text….
sorry a little confused because I’m happy that I’ve see him and talked to him alone so I’m a bit excited, and I don’t want to make mistakesYou have already opened the lines of communication.in your situation,actually phone call is really a better option.i thought you weren’t comfortable otherwise i would have suggested it.only do it if you can control your act totally like friends.he doesn’t have to get any vibe of stress or anything.
HEY!!
so I know from his mother that he has finally his motorbike!!, so I’m thinking of call him and ask him if he get it.
Any advice of how to lead the conversation? and not making mistakes?
wow this is really important I need to do this rightok ok I called him….wow I’m out of energy now ahahahah.
so the conversation was not too long but not too short and dry. I had a great tone of voice , I was friendly, funny and happy.
I asked about the motorbike like…how was it,was it perfect,how many km ecc ecc.
Then we joked about the things he did to not let him be robbed again, like he locked it with three chains, we laugh a bit and then I said that I was happy for him for finally have it.
He said thanks and then I said somenthing general and harmless to end the conversation, so we greeted eachother and that was it.I’m proud that my voice wasn’t shaking, I’m shaking now but I think that’s for the tension.
I’ll probably rethink about every second of that conversation and I’ll be a little insicure….so let me know how you think that went….it would be a lot to meGuilia,
I feel like your situation is a lot like mine!!! Read my thread if you would! I plan on commenting on your thread later tonight!
well done !!! i think ur doing really great just don’t show him u want to get back with him badly 🙂
Now is the time to be patient Guilia and wait awhile. I think it went great.
First, what he’s most likely thinking.
1) He recognizes your being:
-friendly
-interested2) He’s feeling good and is left with a positive thought of you.
What not to do now
-Call him anytime soon. Wait at least a week with no contact unless he contacts you.
I wouldn’t want it to seem that your getting desperate and showering him with too much attention. A little void and mystery will be more attractive I think.
Picture this time as giving him water. He’s hydrated now. In time he’ll start to get a little thirsty. Then hand him a glass. But giving a glass after glass when he’s already “hydrated” now might be too much.
I’d be patient and wait a bit. In my opinion. Other than that its looking good in my opinion.
You all right….it’s just me the problem ahhaha I mean I’m so eager to start the false friendship.
The thing is…I know that I have to wait and all, but the problem is that with a little of summer left (I’m a university student, so apart from study I have free time) I think it’s the best period to let him see the new me.Another thing is that all our friends are mutual ( they’re no many, but we’are a great group), apart for two of my closest friend who are away now, so he gets to spend time with them and have fun, while I’m obliged to stay at home.
Do you see the problem? I want to go out with everyone, but I can’t because he’s with them most of the time….and I can’t do noting but wait, and it’s so unfair a stressful!
I have so many proposals for all of us for the rest of the summer and I know that if they accept we’ll have so much fun and he’ll see how much I’ve changed…but if I can’t even have the occasion to suggest them,then what I’m gonna do?I can’t wait forever…summer’s almost over, I don’t have much time , but as you says I need to wait for him because I can’t seems needy and desperate…
you see?….I’m stuck
Hey,
sorry for delay.
You were great and everything you are feeling right now,is normal.
now calm down,be patient and wait for him to contact you.
Don’t rush things and be cool and confident.sigh ….Deep down I know that I have to…
God it’s so hard ahahahahah, but I can’t trow away what I’ve done until now…uugh
Just something I’ve been thinking…
I remebered that just after he broke up with me, I asked him (crying) if we can still be friends at least,I didn’t want him out of my life and I know he didn’t want it either.
He answered : well yes we can…but what about if you see me with another girl? you’ll just feel bad and start crying again.ecc ecc.At the time I didn’t have the strenght to answer him , and I didn’t thought about it for some time after.
But now….what if I talk to him about staying friends ( false friendship) and he respond with the same topic?…..like what if you see me with another girl?
what would be the perfect answer to that?
You don’t need to say anything .for now,just act like friends.and when you are having a communication use the word friend or a word that you call your friends.or you can simply say that your glad your friends.
If he says anything like that again,be cool and say That you’r totally ok with that.also show that you are having a great time in your life.
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