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@aryyan Well I don’t know if she will find the Christmas presents sweet or creepy, but to tell you the truth I’m expecting the worst, but like I said they ain’t for her benefit anyway, more for her daughter who I think has been messed about enough already.
She hasn’t responded yet no and I have been up all night wrapping presents to get them in the post today as the last post date for Christmas is on Saturday. I had 3 trips to the 24hr supermarket in one night to get various wrapping gear. It was a right pain up the ass lol.
I have no plans to meet up with her over Christmas or New Year. I did open up a little a few days ago and said that I may be in town to her and that I was open to meeting her if she wanted to and felt ready. She said the following morning that her and her daughter were going away for New Year and although I said ok and I haven’t made a big deal of it but our communication has felt a little more awkward since.
I got told that I always ask to meet up when she is busy which I think is rubbish as she could always ask me. I was getting the impression that she might have turned over a new leaf and realised that she is unlikely to find somebody with the connection that she has with me any time soon. She had given me several hints that she was heading in the direction of a possible reconciliation, or at least a meet up. Now I’m not so sure again after her comments about being scared of commitment right now the other day.
I am sure that your Ex is not as happy as he is making out either. I’ve had to cope with one certain rebound relationship that my Ex has had and I believe that was the 2nd rebound since we split in June. If he is still talking to you, or would do if you weren’t in NC while he is seeing somebody else then it usually points to the new relationship being nothing more than a rebound.
I think she is very confusing at this moment. I dont know. Its like something bothering her inside her head. Is she indecisive person? Or maybe she just want to be consistent with her decision to not be with u right now. But doesnt mean u dont have a chance. It takes time to work it out. I just feel that way. Because she gave u hints a lot and suddenly she became awkward and all. Is she getting serious with her rebound? Or any hint about her rebound?
Im mot sure anout that because she seems happy with my ex bf and pf course my ex bf too. They hang out frequently and text everyday. Talk to each other everyday. Im not sure sometimes. Well im still doing nc. Hopefully…i can give a shot and everything will be ok i hope so
Yeah I agree with you that she is very confused too @aryyan
I would say that she.likes to be decisive and puts on a tough face to most of the world. This is something that she feels uncomfortable that I have always been able to see straight through and see the girl underneath who is very soft and requires support.
Something went wrong with the first rebound (the one I wasn’t supposed to know too much about). I think that she liked this guy and had a good connection with him. That one seemed to go wrong just after my last visit to her when this guy seemed to get possessive and didn’t like her refusing to stop contacting me. This guy got very nasty towards her not long after that.
What I believe to be my Ex’s 2nd rebound since our split started in October and lasted about 6 weeks I think. I played it cool when she initially told me about him but went NC a couple of weeks later. She dumped this guy during my NC period. She always said to me that she doubted it would work out with him. She said although she liked him she felt that she didn’t have a full connection with him, like what she has with me. She said that she dumped this guy as she.couldn’t see the point in it anymore.
She got more and more open with me after I ended NC and so.I thought I had a chance at pushing for a possible casual New Years meeet up, as I said that I might be heading to London for New Year anyhow and so if she felt like it then we could meet up.
Perhaps I pushed too much too soon? I don’t know.
I do get the impression that she isn’t seeing anyone at the moment, but I’m not sure how long that will last. She has seemed a little incapable of being on her own until just recently. I thought that she was showing me signs that she wanted to perhaps spend some time with me again but perhaps I have confused that with she has now had enough of rebounds but wants to spend some time alone and sort her head out? She wants to keep in touch with me while she is doing this.
I just don’t want to offer too much support and take another kick in the teeth again. I’ve been unwell for most of this year and need to look out for myself when I feel unable to offer any support to others atm.
Does your Ex BF text you, or would he if you weren’t in NC and he thought that he was likely to get a response do you think?
Then i think u still have a chance to be close with her at least. Yes dont push too much. I know sometimes girls want the guys to make a move even they dont say directly. Just take it slow and just go with the flow. Wait for her to reply u. Yes she might be want to have some time for herself but doesnt mean she forget about u from whT i read about ur stories. She just confused and let her be ok first. U can send her a picture like quote or funny that can give her and make her feel better. Girls like that i think. Like random and funby and be there for her without bothering her that much. 🙂
Before i did the nc, yes he text me everyday even qe already broke up. Even once a day he will text me or i will text him. He will text me by giving me a quote to give me strength to face the hardest thing in life. He will ask me hows my day and situation because he knew that i do have so many problems after we broke up. Even the day before i did the nc he still text me to say hey u. But the fact that he has spmebody else and post it up in social media and its getting spread up their happiness make me want to do the nc. He once update this status before i shutting down my social media and he said “you cant change te past so make a great future”
Whats that suppose to mean? It means he doesnt want me back and focus on his new gf?
Hi @aryyan wow I can’t believe I still haven’t heard from her.
It’s Weds now that we last had a decent chat. She obviously got upset that I kept her waiting all day for a response to her Good Morning message on Thursday.
I thought that she might have missed me and messaged me when I was out drinking Friday night but I’ve had nothing and I’ve been quiet all day Saturday nursing a hangover.
I think that she has realised that I have been out and about again and depression has kicked in for her. It shows a lot when she doesn’t even go online I have noticed in the past. I went a little weak at the thought of that and sent her a message asking if she was ok.
I think that you should contact your Ex after you decide that you have done enough NC and feel strong enough in yourself. It sounds to me that your Ex is far from over you regardless of the front that he is putting on for your benefit. He’s playing an immature game and hurting others in the process.
“It sounds to me that your Ex is far from over you regardless of the front that he is putting on for your benefit. He’s playing an immature game and hurting others in the process.” Far from over me? Meaning? I dont understand this part 🙂
Wow she didnt text u at all? Did she read ur current text? She still hasnt online her chatt app yet? Perhaps she has problem or very busy since she didnt online or anything. I hope she is not LC with u.
@aryyan It’s simple. Your Ex still wants to contact you even though he is in another relationship. Therefore he is far from being over you and his current relationship is unlikely to last.
My Ex hasn’t been online and seen the last message that I sent a few hours ago NO. I am pretty sure that somebody saw a message I sent Thursday evening though, but I get the feeling that she wanted to keep me waiting on that one and see if I would send another message, as I didn’t respond to her Good Morning text on Thursday morning. Will see what the next few days bring. It will be interesting to say the least.
Hopefully my situation is like that. They seems very happy tho until now. So im not sure since im in Nc.
Ohhh u think so? But yah i think she will contact u later i mean u guys still act and contact like normal right? No argue pr fighting?
@aryyan Well we have had arguments and fallen out in the past. Something which I said had to end when we got speaking after the last NC period and that she agreed with.
I think both my emotions and hers got a bit raw on Weds/Thurs last week and I believe that it is better that we both have time to ourselves rather than argue with eachother. I am sure that we will be having a good convo with eachother again soon.
How many days NC have you done now @aryyan and how many were you planning on doing?
I do understand like i said and u agreed with it that she kinda confused with her own feelings. Maybe its too soon for her or she still afraid of being close with u since she with someone else but deep inside she eager to talk with u and she is fine to see u whenever she has chance. But there must be something that she limit herself from moving forward with u. But since she accept u as friend i think its good start either. Perhaps she a bit hurt for waiting for u to reply but i think its better if she understand u do have ur own time and no matter how late u reply u still reply her. But yah since she confused or maybe she has many things going on in her head, just see what happen soon. She will be mot houng to be like this forever right? Im sure she is mature enough 🙂
Its been 18 days im NC. He did asked about me twice. One was during my NC 11 he emailed me and asked where have i been and why i didnt reply him anything? The second was during 17 days nc, my bestfriend text him regarding about car and while they having conversation, he suddenly asked my bestfriend whether she have contact me and where am i? And my bestfriend she havent contact me for so long either and he said “its ok no worries”
My target is actually 21 days of nc. Is it ok? Because im not deaths dor stage right?
@aryyan So do you plan to make contact with your Ex over Christmas then?
Wow, it will be a tough time if you reach out then and he doesn’t respond. I wish you luck with that. A few short weeks back I was thinking of extending my NC period from the 35 days that I had initially planned up until New Years Eve. In the end I only managed 24 days of NC. The important thing is that you know that your Ex has already reached out for you twice. He is clearly missing you but as I have learnt this does not necessarily mean that your Ex will let their guard down and change their mind easily.
I have heard from my Ex today. She went out drinking on Saturday and said she was feeling a little worse for wear today. She also said that she had received my parcel and that she was waiting for Christmas Day to open it. She asked me “why didn’t you let me know that you were sending it?” I told her “because I wanted it to be a surprise” and she said “thank you”.
I am back to 3 kisses on each message she sends me. Not sure if that is a good sign or not, but it’s how we used to message when we were together and shortly after our split?
I’m worried about the comment she made regarding commitment last week though and that she sees commitment as a cause of headaches (or something along those lines). She said that she isn’t ready for that at the moment and asked me if that was selfish. To which I replied a little but I did understand.
I am hoping that what she told me about taking her daughter away over New Year to spend some time alone away together and try to get her head straight is true.
I’m very confused again at the moment. I want to hang in there and hope for the best but I’m fearing the worst too – I think you know what I’m saying here?
Yes i do understand
So do u think i should go 30 days? I mean im afraid he will not respond me after soooooo long. But im afraid the short too. But my target is during christmas so well im not sure but i have to be prepare for the worst too of course sigh
I honestly don’t know @aryyan You will have to judge what is best for your situation.
I think that I read somewhere on here before that around the 3 week stage is where a person usually misses you most, but of course all people are different.
The Christmas holidays make it even more of a difficult time for those who are missing people and I don’t know enough about your situation to comment. My family aren’t very close, but if you feel like you can spend time with family and friends without thinking of your Ex too much then perhaps a day or two after Christmas might be easier for both of you?
When I was thinking about extending my NC period to include Christmas I was thinking about making contact for New Year РNew Year/New Start clich̩s! lol
It’s a tough call to make. Being in NC is tough and anything other than a full reunion is tough too. I am very confused at the mixed signals I am currently getting and it sometimes makes me think that perhaps I ended NC too soon. I have thought about going NC again during the New Year but I dare not do it in Jan/Feb or March for certain reasons and by that time it will be 9 months almost since I dumped my Ex. I am thinking that my best option now is to take everything on the chin and wait until my Ex asks me to spend some time with her while I keep in touch but try to get on with my life.
Im not sure about that too @Sparky. Lol yah others told me that i should talk to him during new year because new year is new start lol. Cliche indeed. But its holiday season too of course. No matter how hard or how happy we will be during festival, we need to be appreciate every little things happen in our life. Well, i thought that i might try to contact him during christmas or after christmas. I hope my interesting text will make him wager to know. Well my life were so upside down and he knew it. I think he winder because i remain silence he probably think whether my problem is still there or not but i done so many things. I did manage so many things. Its really overwhelming but i just do hope that he will not thing negayively about me when i text him later
I think u can stop doing NC and focus on LC i think? Well since she might have very hard time, as a friend or false friend, if we really sincere care about someone, be there for them in many ways. She might not text u or cancel yours hang out but doesnnt mean u need to be away for so long. Since u been strong enough to live without her and i know in ur heart u still want her back. Its ok to start from scratch and it takes time. We never in the future. Just keep maintain what u doi. Be awesome, be interesting, be new but at the same be randomly care about her. Girls like random think. Its like a surprise. Give her a picture of quote. A very supportive quote or just simple quote that u feel she might be better
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