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Im also enjoying being single until it last. Yesterday a neighbor asked for my ex and I told her we broke up along time ago. She said I look so much better without him. That it was Gods plan to separate us. And just encouraged me to be single. She said now I have a chance at catching a better one lol. Its true too Im losing weight and my face looks so much better because I have no responsibility and stress. I feel relieved now that I don’t have him. I kinda like this life more. Foreal since I was 17 I was taken with him. Im finally free!
No contact is going great I don’t miss my ex. Im just to picky to date. I let men come in my life alone. I don’t do online dating. And the guys that go to my college are old men with children. 🙂
Did you ex waved back again? I hope he smiled.
Sallys,
There will be a point in your NC where you don’t care if they come back. It means you are making progress. I passed that phase a couple of weeks ago in my instance. Over the last week or so I’ve been keen on reconciliation. I guess what I would say is make sure you feel a certain way for a couple of weeks before acting on those feelings.
Sounds like you are young and in college though. Plenty of opportunities.
I think I’m at the point where I know I don’t need him, but I definitely want him back. However, I know that if he doesn’t want to get back together, then I will find someone just as good (if not better) for me in the future 🙂
The only thing that’s bothering me a little bit is that he’s always so sweet and that he’s still wearing/using gifts I gave him and he still contacts me from time to time. It just hurts to have to ignore him during no contact :/
Sally you must always think about yourself first. If he wanted you he would have apologized during the first week of the break up. Which he initiated. He didn’t do that and didn’t think of your feelings first. So just let him get through the break up as natural as possible. Don’t make anything easier. You know I read some post where the girls helped their ex get over them and in fact they wanted to win him back.
My ex whenever we met it was just like we were in the relationship. He stroke my hair he would kiss me so much and look into my eyes with love. He was super sweet. I thought that by now he would have apologized but look he hasn’t even tried to contact me. Right now Im wishing he would move on because I don’t plan to get back with him. There is a song in spanish that says “If you were my good luck, I lost it. If you were my bad luck, I saved myself, but now forget me because I have forgotten you forever.” Meaning not to get back with an ex. I like the thought of never getting back to an ex. No matter how sweet and loving they were.
Hope this helps. Im here for you. I swear life will continue no matter what and you will be happy.
Hi Leidy,
Thank you so much 🙂 I have to confess I broke no contact yesterday. I apologized that our relationship didn’t work out and asked if we could arrange to get our stuff from each other. He responded nicely but then he said something negative (along the lines of how BS is program is and hopes he graduates) and I sent a somewhat passive-aggressive response by saying he better graduate because he gave us up for it…I know it was a petty thing to say (even though it’s true), so I ended up apologizing. Of course, he didn’t respond.
I think I’m at the point where I don’t know if I even want him back. Every time I’ve broken no contact, the pain of knowing he doesn’t want me confirms that we shouldn’t be together right now. I’ve also started feeling things for another guy, who seems to reciprocate. But I still love and miss my ex. I honestly really wish I didn’t text my ex yesterday so we wouldn’t be doing the exchanging stuff next week and I could continue no contact, but I have to face the consequences of my actions :/ Anyway, things are messy but I’ll get through it. Hope you’re doing well!
Hi sallys, I’m glad you’re going to be exchanging things next week as it’s another next step in getting past the breakup. Then do no contact and stick to it! Glad to hear you’re starting to have feelings for the new guy and that he seems to have good feeling towards you too. Give him a chance and try not to compare him to your ex. Good luck:)
Sally Im glad that you saw hes not so sweet like you thought. Im also happy to read what contacting your ex feels like. Now no contact will be so much easier.
I don’t have any comments on the new guy because its too soon. Anything can happen.
Thank you so much, both of you! Honestly, everyday is different so I think I still need to wait until I stabilize before I jump into anything. For example, yesterday I thought I was over my ex but since texting him I have been a mess (crying and obsessing, etc.). But having a guy interest is nice and is forcing me to think about whether I really want my ex back. Hopefully I’ll be able to keep up no contact for more than two weeks this time around 🙂
Sally today is my 30th day no Contact and I miss my ex like crazy. There is no negative thought that will take this feeling off my chest. I guess I truly loved him.
Like I said its too soon for you to start a serious relationship with someone else. I think we should heal first. To not mess up again :(.Exactly! I think I will miss him for a long time, but even just texting him showed me that I have things I need to work on about myself before I can get into another relationship. Even though I’m still sad, I’m actually starting to feel thankful for the breakup because I can see things more clearly. I also know that if we really are meant for each other, we’ll come back together in the future 🙂
Thats how I feel too. Im glad I can find my old self again and make changes to me. Emotionally Im hurt but still happy with me. Im sure we will be so much better in the future even if it is with another man.
I agree. To be honest, I feel like I messed things up with my ex when I texted him on Friday and I’m realizing that I still have a long way to go before I’m over him. I miss him a lot now :/
You didn’t mess up. You did the right thing. He knows its truly over now. He might chase you soon if he wants you. Dont wait for him though. Keep enjoying yourself. Keep yourself busy to not think about the break up.
*oops, I meant @leidy1000
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