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My birthday passed already haha. Thank you Patricia. My no contact was easy this time but now it brang some feelings back. Not negative ones. I think it worked on me too. It probably didn’t bring does feelings to him. Anyways Im hitting for 4 more weeks NC.
So I chickened out on texting him to get our stuff from each other, and he hasn’t said anything either (we were supposed to do it today). To be honest, this is what I was hoping for so I can continue no contact.
I also think I went through major withdrawals over the weekend because I cried a lot. But since then I’ve been focusing on achieving personal goals that I put aside during our relationship, which is actually helping me feel grateful for the breakup.
Although I thought I was starting to have feelings for other guys and have even dated since the breakup, it’s hard to go from someone so amazing and perfect (my ex) to another guy. My ex was everything I ever wanted and his breaking up with me is helping me understand him more. I’m also starting to feel more confident that he will come back eventually. All of my exes before him have come back at some point (usually within a few months), most of whom I treated a lot worse than I treated my ex. And when he does (whenever that is), I think I will know for sure whether or not I want him back. Here’s to staying strong! 🙂
Did he contact you since to get his stuff?
All through my break up my horoscope says stuff like my love will comeback to me. Still saying one ex is returning and I read his and it says that he will go back to his love. That is crazy lets see if its true.
Do you believe in horoscopes?
He didn’t contact me and I’m continuing no contact (so we haven’t exchanged our things), which is getting sooooo much easier. I think I’m actually getting over the breakup. I still love him and want him back, but my emotions are subsiding. One of my exes actually texted me yesterday about how cute I was to make a Valentine’s day card for him, which was encouraging because it shows that exes often come back with no shame. My relationship with him was not nearly as good as mine with my current ex, so I’m pretty confident that if I keep moving on, my current ex will come back at some point.
I don’t believe in horoscopes as truth, but I think they have a lot of power if we let them. For example, since your horoscope is saying your love will come back and you believe that means your ex will come back, it will motivate you to work harder to win him back. But horoscopes are also vague…meaning that your “love” might not be referring to your ex!
However, I do believe in some variant of the law of attraction. I think the universe responds to your vibe. So if you’re putting off this amazing, positive, loving vibe, the universe will send you love and positivity. If that’s your ex, so be it. If not, it will be something even better 🙂 This is what I’m trying to do right now – just be the best version of myself possible and then trust the universe <3
I wish everyone the best. Some days I say Im moving on but the next day I miss my ex so much. No contact gets easier as time goes on. When you don’t contact someone in a long time you will stop missing them and get used to not have them in your life.
I do believe in horoscopes but not everything goes to the same person. There are billions of people.
Im feeling much more positive. So much to have men after me. I love the attention Im getting. So its true what you said. If we keep negative life will only bring negative things.
Your ex is taking way to long to realize his loss. Maybe you should take him off the pedestal. He is a normal guy like anyother, and I wouldn’t recommend you to get back with an ex before him. You know that whatever happen will happen again. At least your current ex has a chance to change. I hope he does it before its too late.
I’m the same way but I can catch myself better now when I start missing him or feeling emotional. I feel more stable. I think I can start loving him again because my anger and sadness has subsided and instead I will respect his decision to breakup. Also envisioning myself becoming the woman he wanted me to be during the hard times helps because even if I never get back with him, I will have used this time for growth 🙂
I don’t put my former ex on a pedestal, but it’s hard to take my former ex off a pedestal because he is a really great man. The only thing I don’t like is that he broke up with me, but he told me from the beginning that he has commitment issues :/ so I can’t say he didn’t prepare me.
However, I know now that men like him exist, so if he’s not meant for me, another great guy is. Until I meet another one, I’m probably gonna have my ex on a pedestal just to keep my standards high.
Thats a good idea. I also have been working on changing the things he didn’t like. At least we will be new women in a future.
Hi Sallys!
I just read your post and caught up on updates in the comments. I think you’ve been really strong, and I admire a lot how honest you are about your feelings towards your ex. I feel like you are definitely doing the right thing! You are taking a step back (which is really really hard) and you’re dedicating this time to work on yourself and become stronger and happier. Trust me, I’m pretty sure that when he gets a chance to see how much you’ve changed for the best, he’ll realize he’s dumb for losing you. Exes sometimes tend to hold on to the negative aspects we have so they can feel more confident about their decision of breaking up, but if you constantly show him that you are bettering yourself and improving, there will be no negative aspect to hold on to!
And about you contacting him and the petty text- don’t stress. It was a mistake, but you can always start NC over and eventually prove to him that he’s missing on an amazing person.
Good luck! 🙂
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