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I was in your same shoes. My ex broke up with me for what seemed no reason and I waited a month then sent her a letter and then found out she had a new boyfriend. In my situation she responded to my letter saying it wasn’t a good idea to talk. I tried multiple times but she said no. Then waited another two months and tried again but she didn’t want to talk because she’s happy with her boyfriend and said in a kinda mean way that she doesn’t want me to contact her.
I hope your situation comes out differently! If I had to do everything again I would not have done no contact at all and would have told my ex everything that I felt before she met someone new. No contact should only be used to make yourself feel better
I would recommend to wait for her to text you and not text her. If you do though don’t have high hopes and only do it if you are okay with the possibile outcome that she doesn’t reply.
Good luck!
Ok so I stupidly didn’t listen to your advice and texted my ex today. I figured what did I have to loose.
I asked her how she was doing and then I said I was sorry for how I acted before. She said i needed to move on and I said I have (which I have some not completely) and she said I obviously haven’t because I texted her. I said I was just curious how she was doing because I care about how she’s doing and understand if she didn’t wanna talk.
Then the worse thing happened. Out of no where she blew up on me kinda. Im summarizing but she basically said I needed to move on. Shes really happy now with her relationship and she thinks it’s f***Ed up to text an ex while she’s in a relationship. And it’s disrespectful to him. And she shows screenshots of every text I send her to her boyfriend. And she’s fed up with it. She said she didn’t mean to be mean but she needed to get her point across and that she told me a thousand times she didn’t want to talk but I didn’t listen.
First of all I only texted her two or three times since we broke up and not at all in two months so idk where she got the thousand times from. And I didn’t really want to get back together. I wanted to be her friend
I just replied saying something like that I get it and didn’t know you felt this way. I didn’t mean any disrespect to your boyfriend and really just wanted to talk as friends. I kinda feel humiliated now and am sorry for everything.
She just replied saying she didn’t want any comtact. I feel like she over reacted but I guess it’s probably better in the long run cause now I know I gotta move on and have no shot at being able to talk to her again
I’m not sure why I didn’t listen to your advice in the first place
Yeah you’re right. Family and friends have helped but I’m not one to let my feelings out too much. I still have hope that I will be able to talk to my ex one day. I’m also trying to find someone new but it’s tough. Thank you for the kind words!
Thank you for the support. I really appreciate it. It feels like I have no one sometimes. But I don’t think I will send the birthday wish even though I really want to. I just feel bad not sending one even though I shouldn’t. I also try not to look at her social media. I only do it every couple weeks to see if she is still with the new guy. Ive been doing pretty good but today’s just been a bad day
Thanks for the advice, you are right. Im leaning towards not sending anything now. Ive been going back and forth all day. Sucks cause I really just wanna be her friend and know what shes been up to and how her family and all are doing
Hey so I need some advice. It’s been over a month of no contact with my ex and I wanna try to text her soon. I looked at her Facebook and she is still with her boyfriend so idk how she will react if I text her. I still love her and wanna be with her. No contact has helped but I still think about her everyday. Idk if I’m ready to talk to her but I feel like if I don’t then she will just get closer to her new boyfriend which I want her to be happy and all but I really believe that I can make her happier. I wanna text her apologising for being a little crazy and tell her that I am better now and would like to have her in my life even if it is just as a friend but understand if she doesn’t want to. I guess I’m just scared about how she will respond or if it’s the right time to talk to her
Thanks for any adviceThat’s good that you’re doing all that stuff. It’ll help without a doubt and things will get better. I lost 20 pounds since my break up and if anything I feel more healthy because of this. Also when you do talk to your ex don’t sound needy and don’t talk about the relationship. I made those two mistakes last month after trying to talk to my ex after my first round of no contact.
And yeah I’m pretty sure my ex is in a rebound but it’s still tough knowing she is doing all the relationship stuff that we did with someone else. I’ve been in no contact for over a month now and it has helped. I have good days and bad
I feel like my situation is exactly like yours. My ex broke up with me back in July after being together for 7 months. I didn’t see it coming at all. She said she didn’t feel as strongly as she should have. Also we didn’t communicate enough or something like that. I hold back on my emotions a lot too. But yeah I tried doing no contact and then talking to her but she didn’t wanna talk because she has a new boyfriend. I’m not sure what to do or what the right thing to do in your situation is. I just wanna let you know you’re not alone.
I’m talking to a therapist and it’s helping. I’m trying to become stronger because of this and you should too. I might reach out to my ex or maybe not idk stillYeah a couple weeks ago i was okay but since last week when i found out she has a new boyfriend I’ve been so down
Yeah exactly. Good luck with your situation. Who knows maybe we’ll find people better than our ex’s. I’m just having trouble finding people to date. I never really dated many people. It seems like no one I talk to really wants to talk to me.
