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Hi leidy1000,
I just wanted to pop in here because you have been helpful on my posts and I want to return the favor 🙂
First, I just want to say that you come across as an amazing, strong, and beautiful woman, and I am so proud of the work you’ve done. YOUR HAPPINESS should be your only priority right now, and I agree that your goal should be happy to be alone.
In my posts on here, I’ve only discussed my most recent relationship, which has been the best of my life. But my first serious relationship was extremely toxic and I acted out in anger against my then boyfriend in similar ways as you (numerous times, I hate to admit). I just want to say that since then, every relationship has been better. Hang in there – a relationship shouldn’t require you to behave that way in order for you to get what you want. Amazing men exist and would LOVE to give you what you want and need – I know because of my current ex, who is the most amazing man (person, in general) I’ve ever known 🙂
Thank you again for your advice. Please keep me updated on how you’re doing!
Yes, he waved back 🙂 He’s a sweetheart (which is one of the reasons I love him!).
I do want to date, if anything just to learn and grow as a person. I’ll continue to keep you updated. Thanks, leidy1000!
Update! I saw my ex today at school (bumped into him twice -_-). However, I felt strong and happy and just smiled and waved! I think this is getting easier. I still miss him (especially after I see him), but the emotions are not as strong.
I also want some advice on dating. I’ve read on multiple sites that I should date during no contact (for multiple reasons), and I’m becoming more open to dating. Do you think it’s okay if I make a profile on an online dating site?
Okay thanks! I’ve been planning on having one of my housemates let him in, so it’s nice to know that someone else agrees 🙂 Have a good day!
Thank you so much for the support 🙂 I have another question that maybe you can help me with. I have a feeling he’s going to contact me to come get his stuff before my 30 days of no contact is done. Do you think I should be there when he comes to get his stuff or should I have someone else let him in? Or leave it outside (although that seems cruel)?
Thanks so much you guys! And I hope things work out with you and either a new guy and your ex Amanda7714 🙂
leidy1000, I’m doing no contact because everywhere I look online says to do no contact and because my ex doesn’t seem interested right now. He’s also mentioned to me before that he never gets back with exes, which is way I’m hesitant to discuss the breakup.
Like I said, we have talked (through text and in person – we go to the same school) since the breakup, but we kept things casual. I gave him his stuff back already, but later found a few more things, but he’s been putting off coming to pick them up. Maybe this is a sign he regrets the breakup? He also hasn’t told any of his friends about the breakup because I’ve seen them in passing and they’ve asked me about him. He also still hasn’t changed his facebook profile picture(s) that have me in them…
My instincts are telling me to wait to talk to him until he wants to get his stuff. Like I said, he’s stressed with work and (in stereotypical male fashion) wants space when he’s stressed, so I’m trying to show that I respect his decision to breakup but at the same time I really think we have something special. Do you still have the same opinion knowing all this (that I shouldn’t do no contact)?
