RSepulveda

Hello a.z,
It’s been 3 months since my last post. I’m not sure if you’re still around but I do hope you are because your advice was very helpful back then and I hope you can help me one last time! My Ex has since moved to Virginia like I told you he would back at the beginning of October. He started contacting me daily. I’m not sure if it was due to him missing me or boredom but we started talking more. Long story short I’ve visited him twice already and will be going again this upcoming Friday. We’ve had an amazing time every time I’m up there with him and I’ve kept it cool with no pressure put on him to get back together. I just wanted to reconnect and take it slow and just let things flow naturally. While I’m up there we basically act as a couple. The problem is I just found out that the girl he had rebounded with after our breakup has be contacting him again and since they work for the same company she has requested a transfer and will be moving up there with his help. She’ll be working for him now. They’ll probably be together. I just don’t know what this means and were it came from.
He has still never mentioned her to me, ever! Has always said he’s single and not seeing anyone. And has told me that he likes having me around with him and enjoys my company and I’m welcomed to come see him anytime I want. How could he offer this and still be in plans to help this girl move up there? I’m just confused right now. I feel hurt all over again. He’s never mentioned her and doesn’t know that I had found out he was seeing someone after our break up. I always though if she was going to go away eventually then what was the point of me even bringing it up and I should focus on us and not worry about her. But now things are going to change. I’ll be states away while she’ll be right there with him again. Is it time to give up? I need advice!! I love him very much still. We were together for almost 5 years and we’ve been broken up a little over 7 months. I don’t know what to do, please help!!

Hi Az,
Thanks for the reply. Is this the best way to continue? Like I said he is moving out of state in about 3 weeks. I don’t think false friendship will work much with a few states in between. I’m so confused!

Anyone please I need advice??!

Hello A.z,
I need your advice again! So my ex came back from his business trip. He sent me a text saying ” hi. I’m back” so I called and he wanted me to come over so we could talk. He told me about the job offer in Virginia which he has since accepted. He’s moving on the 1st of October!! I told him congrats and that I was happy for him but in reality I feel awful inside. We were doing good and now it seems like I’ve ran out of time. I’m going to lose him for good once he’s gone. On another note this is were his rebound ends!

Hi a.z,

Hope you can reply because I’m freaking out right now and I was doing sooooo good lately. As you suggested last time, I went into LC with my ex. It was actually pretty easy since he’s out of state for work. A Few texts back and forth within the last 2 weeks to say happy birthday and see how he was doing which he replied to no problem. The thing is today I found out (not from him) that he’s taking this other girl he’s supposedly seeing away on vacation, they’ve only been together about 3 months, and also found out he got a very good job offer in Virginia and is seriously considering moving out of state! Is he really going to move just like that? Is he going to take some girl he just met and her baby and move?? I’m crushed, He still hasn’t even mentioned her to me! 25% of his belongings are here still in the apartment we shared for 4 years. I was just intimate with him 2 weeks ago! What should I do now?? Should I bring all of this up next time we meet up and see if he tells me everything? I’m so confused I don’t know what to do. We’ve been doing good, getting along great. This is so unlike him!

Hey A.Z,
Thanks for the reply. Yes I have read relationship rewind, and you’re right about sleeping with him. Just a few messages before yours Dara though intimacy wouldn’t be a problem for us and it could rekindle good memories but I don’t want to become a casual thing. We have been broken up about 2 1/2 months. We reconnected after NC and have been hanging out weekly for about 1 1/2 months now. How long do you think I should continue false friendship with him? He has been seeing someone from work from the minute he ended things with me and I’m afraid of making a move at the wrong time. I appreciate your input!

Hello Everyone,

It’s been about a week from my last post and I would like some advice from all you guys. I met up with my ex at his place like we do weekly. It was my birthday so we were celebrating, we had drinks and ended up in bed. The thing is he is still dating this girl and hasn’t mentioned her to me at all! Do you guys think it’s ok to continue a physical relationship? Would this increase or decrease my chances of getting him back? Should I continue the false friendship without sex? I don’t want to rush things and tell him I wanna get back together too soon and push him more towards the other girl. Please help!!

Ashley,
I hope things work out for you as well! The best advise I can give you right now since you are still within your 30 days is to really really work on yourself. I did everything as Kevin recommended. Focused in school, Bought new clothes, tanned. Got a haircut and even lost 8 lbs. by eating healthier. I Was very confident but the minute I saw him I melted! All those feelings came back and this is why I find myself a bit confused now as to how to proceed. Especially since he is seeing someone and won’t even mention her to me. Maybe I should back off for a bit now that we’ve reconnected and maybe see if he contacts me this time. Not sure. So, what I’m trying to say is maybe text/call him first and establish contact like that for a while. Start working on your “false friendship” before you ask him to meet up with you. I think if you make him comfortable in the fact that you are ok with things ending it’ll make it easier for him to meet you. And in the meantime continue to work on yourself until you are confident and open minded about the outcome.