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If she is with another guy then you have to show her that you are a different person and wait for her to see it and if she does she will come back to you. If a woman is in a relationship with another guy then she has to want something else more or that relationship has to make her unhappy, that is really the only ways to get her away from him and possibly back to you.
If you guys have been in contact you should wait for her to message you right now. She has another guy in her life and if you go initiating all the conversations you will look needy and it will make him look even better. She needs to miss and wonder about you, you guys don’t have to stop talking but when your ex has another man I think you should do the “fake friendship”, act like you want to be friends but it is really to show her you have changed but don’t be the one always coming to her or it will look like you are just trying to get her back. She needs to see that you are fine on your own.
My ex I didn’t talk to her for 4 months and next time she talked to me I told her I didn’t need her to be happy my life was great and I was having a blast, her life was not so great and she told me she missed me and asked me to see her. If they broke up with you it was for a reason and they need to see that reason is gone but you can’t make them see it, they have to see it for themselves.
Stop over analyzing things, we do that in hard times. I broke up with a girl and looked at her FB page and she had a picture of her and her new guy and all these pictures of them doing stuff together and it hurt. I stopped looking and I was much better then, as it turned out she contacted me and basically told me she wasn’t happy and they had a bad relationship. So just because on social media everything looks good that many times isn’t the case.
You need to stop and evaluate all of those negatives she seen in you, if you guys didn’t do enough together show her that you like to go out and do things. If she thought you were a closed book work on your communication.
If your relationship was important to her when she sees these changes she will start to like them and obviously she liked and was attracted to you so it will help with her wanting you again. When a partner doesn’t like things they get unhappy and if they are unhappy they will start talking to someone that makes them happy so show her you can be that person that makes her happy.
I am the type of person that tells it like it is and gives it to people straight. What I am going to tell you is not meant to hurt you or make you loose hope but it is an honest assessment of the situation after reading your story…..
He is playing you, he is playing you both and will continue to do so as long as you guys let him. I know this because in my college days when I lost myself I did it to two girls and it did not stop until they put a stop to it. I know you love and care about him but what you are doing now is not working, being around him, spending time with him and having sex with him. He is the on that is controlling, he can date someone else but if you do then you guys are over. Anyone that truly loved you would never say that to you. Maybe he is at a bad time in his life or mixed up but as long as he is getting what he wants from both of you then he will never settle he will probably find someone else that isn’t either of you because he doesn’t have any respect for both of you and if someone doesn’t have respect for you then they will never commit to you.
You need to ask yourself do you want to keep doing what you are doing and feel like you are now for months and possibly years or do you want to cut contact with him and make him see what he has lost and have a possibility of reuniting? You can either feel the way you are now for a long time or change your actions and start to heal and get better.
Don’t let the facebook thing bother you, guys will do that for attention or to get under your skin to make you think they are moving on or you might lose them. If you respond to it then you are giving him exactly what he wants, keep doing what you are doing because it is working with him. He probably feels like he is losing you and trying to make you jealous, stick to your guns.
