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What I can suggest is, go with NC first. Try to change for your own good. Learn how to respect so that you will gain respect in return. Always treat people the way you want to be treated.
Regarding the abortion, there’s a chance you won’t get pregnant, so let it aside for a moment. Right now focus on your self.
Take care
I have never had an experience like yours, but I can list down some possibilities and its up to you to think about it(because you know him better).
There are some factors that would make a man says “I love you, but not in love with you”. Either he is frustrated with something( that you did or happened during the relationship that brought the breakup phase), he fell in love with someone else and starts comparing both of you if the girl shows interest on him( at this point he thinks that he can choose which he wants the most).
My dear you should not have let anything but your dignity as a woman to be toyed by him even if you love him. Right now let your anger helps you to regain your dignity as a woman and as a person. Yes in this situation, it’s the right question to ask, why would you look for him? He’s cheated on you, slept with you, compared you and her in front of you face, you should be angry!
Right now, its okay to be ashamed and pick up the pieces of your heart that he broke. Right now, it’s okay to cry and regret, because tomorrow, you will not cry even a drop of tear for him. You’ll focus on yourself, how to feel good, how to become an attractive, a better person and a woman that every man respect.
Have fun, hang out with your friends, find new friends, new hobby, new activity, make sure to look more pretty than before. If you were not concerned about your appearance or healthy diet, start doing it. Being clean, healthy and pretty boost up your confidence up to 110%. Trust me. He will eventually see the new you and probably want you back, but hey ask yourself. Does he deserves you? At that point, it’s up to you to decide. I hope you’ll find a man that will treat you right.
All the best.
@Mariamarie glad that you are doing great! I have stopped for years, I think this is the best time to do it again.
@timmybroke probably you can try something new like self defense. Trust me it will work. Boxing is kind of cool.If you trust him, know that he loves you, you shouldn’t be scared. What ever happened during the breakup, focus on improving it. That’s the purpose of NC.
All the best.
Probably he felt guilty. Eventually he will understands when the situation forces him to.
You know what’s best. All the best.
Well, if someone act negative towards you, you should not do the same. If you have tried to tell him that you’re going on NC, but he disrespects it, then the best you can do is cut off contact (block him, go silent etc). If he still reaches you, tell him that you need space, and if he love you, please give you the space.
You should also ask people close to both of you to help, like friends and family members in various ways, like to spend time together. For example, ask them to accompany him for distraction, or talk to him, to give you time. If you want this to work, make sure you go to the right person that you can trust. In the same time, take the opportunity to relax and enjoy your self.
All the best.
I wonder how’s your story going? Not sure how old is he, maybe he’s just was not ready for you yet. I don’t think your appearance is the main problem, but people rationale over things. There could be outside factors that made him feel that way, or he’s bored of the long distance things. My case is the other way around, he is way older than me.
All the best.
If you do love her, give her a space. There are chances that people found their love from a rebound. She’s just from a break up, so don’t push her. Show her that you are worth to be with. Make her feels safe with you.
It’s about healing her heart and gaining her trust. Think about it.
All the best.
Jupiter, try to focus on something else. My ex shared this quotes once: How can I miss you if you won’t go away?
I know it’s a contradiction to the song ‘If You Leave Me Now’, but if you love him, give him space to heal.I’m on my 3rd week of NC. Thinking of restarting because I broke the ground rules(being the one who text him first). I survived the first two weeks, but then it’s not totally because I miss him, but we are emotionally connected. I know he’s not feeling well and sad for some reasons. He replied politely, but I know we still need space from each other.
If you truly love him, learn to improve yourself, be confident and have a lot of patience. All the best.
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Focus on yourself, think what made he love you, and what did you do that made him wanted some space.
Find the quality in you that was attractive, get a hold of your self and change for a better person by loving your own self. Man loves woman who is independent, understanding and attractive; not a miserable girl who pout and cry over things that she can’t get. If you love him, relax, focus and get ready to fight.
You can go through the articles available in this site. It’ll help lighten up your mind a bit. Also don’t forget to subscribe for Kevin’s email. Very kind and inspiring.
Relax and take care.
