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I am absolutely with you. I am going to wrap things up in the next few days – he has some of my things. I am sorry it went this way, but better now than 5 years from now! I am actually relieved in some ways because I no longer need to cling to all of the responsibility for the break up that I was holding on to. I did, however, learn some things about myself during the end of the relationship that I am still going to work on to become a better person. So in the end, this was a tremendous learning experience and will help me grow as a person!
I messaged him a bit ago and asked him to drop my stuff off at my place of employment. After he reads and hopefully responds its blocks ville for him!
OK, new info. This “rebound” is actually a girl he was “friends” with for a long time. When we first started hanging out he told me all about it and said she was just a friend but was having a hard time understanding it. I just saw on fb that she posted how wonderful her boyfriend is, and blah blah blah.
So. I can imagine this is why he broke it off with me. This is not the person I thought he was – guess I was wrong!
Im not going to be contacting him about any of this.
I don’t know. Fairly sure right now he is on a rebound which I don’t understand since #1 he broke up with me and #2 hecsaid he didn’t want a relationship. So why, less than 5 days later…is he seeing someone? Dudes are complicated.
Holy bonanza batman! Hold the phone! Something just hit me… And maybe I will feel differently tomorrow. But I am maybe NOT crazy. I was maybe being Gaslighted by a narcissist! Maybe doing this 30 day no contact was the smarted thing I have ever done (in this situation).
We will see what I think over the next few days. I could be totally wrong.
Thanks Paul! Funny story… he made contact today. First off, he contacted my best friend just to say “hi”. My friend was instructed to not meddle, btw. Then he messaged me and told me he moved some stuff over to his garage so I could pick it up. I saw the message but have not opened it.
BUT! Here comes the kicker! We had a concert we were supposed to go to tonight, and since we are now split, I knew he would be there. He knew I would be there. He brought a date! They were touchy feelie, and he made sure to do it when he knew I could see them. I did not react, and I will not. Its been five days since he told me he didnt want a relationship and I walked away. He is rebounding. I find it slightly hilarious.
I may not want this guy back after the 30 days.
