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Don’t break now. She’s reaching out because of her guilt of what she did. If you break, it makes it easier for her to move on.
Dinner yesterday, I am really proud of myself for going and stepping out of my bubble.
Today, I didn’t go get my hair done, but good thing I hadn’t because I found THE new hair I want. I was having a I’m staying in bed forever moment, and my friend said it’s okay for me to do that. I didn’t the whole day, just til lunch and then I went outside and did yard work. Played with the dogs.
Kind of a bit depressed now, wish I had some sign of hope that the ex missed me. Wish I could talk to him. And I’m exhausted from working in the yard and driving my mom at all hours of the night, so I really just want to do little to nothing. Trying to play a new video game, my heart isn’t in it though (we used to game together all the time).
I decided on a tattoo. I’m going to wait til my birthday to get it though, just to make sure it’s not something I will regret.
This is day five. When does it get easier, I wonder?
I’m at day 2, cuz he had to get his stuff on Thursday. Had to restart becuz of that, but was at like a full seven.
Has it gotten any easier as the days progressed? Are you doing 30 days?
I feel like I am kidding myself too, in thinking we will get back. Although he isn’t aware of my no contact yet.
Keeping busy is definitely helpful, but my brain always comes back to thinking about him.
I do things around the house, and its for me and for my enjoyment, but it feels like I am keeping the house how he likes it for when/if he comes back.
I find being around other people helps. Becuz you need to focus on them to focus on the conversation..
How long are you in no contact?
I personally have a couple friends who broke up and got together.
One broke up because he was interested in someone else. They were apart for a year. She got super awesome and he realized she was what he wanted. He begged and begged and she finally took him back. They are married now with a son and have great communication.
Another broke up and she moved across the country. She was insecure about him checking out different girls and he I don’t think was ready to settle down. They dated people here and there.. But they started talking again (he had their dog) and then did the long distance thing.. And she came back to visit and then stayed. They were apart for about six months. Now they are married with a son too.
So, I think there is hope.
It is disrespectful of him, for sure.
Don’t put out for him. Don’t even fall in that trap. You want him and only him and he needs to see the same values. He can’t do that if you give in.
Buut, what I would do is this.
Get him right going, make out but don’t sleep with him. Then ask him to leave, and stick to your guns. It gives you the power.Then go out with someone else, doesn’t have to be serious, but just make it look like you are going after other people. The combo of being rejected and the jealousy will drive him crazy. He will start trying to chase you.
And if he doesn’t, then he isn’t worth it.
