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It angers me so much because I feel like he was harbouring feelings for her throughout our entire relationship. I was loyal to him and we hung out all the time outside of school. He never hung out with her and he put up with her flirting with other guys for 8 months, and he broke up with me after 4 months because I was “always mad” when he knows damn well he cheated on me and he was immature. The day after we break up he goes running back to this girl I asked him not to talk to and he hadn’t talked to her for 3 months. What makes anyone thing he won’t cut me out of his life and do the same thing?
I don’t think he misses me though because he’s already talking to his ex that I asked him to stay away from because she was trying to meddle in our relationship. He was with this girl for 8 months, he left his previous girlfriend for her and was unhappy because she kept flirting with other guys among other things and he made it sound like he despised her, but now I feel like it’s always been her and he has wanted her instead of me. I don’t think I can stand seeing them together at school.
I’ve had 3 weeks NC so far and I’ve heard nothing. It’s becoming more frustrating now because I think about him every single day all the time and I get really angry at the way he treated me and how he acting now. I’m also angry at myself for letting myself be treated like crap for as long as I did.
I’m having to try harder now not to text him and tell him he has no right to be angry at me and go off on him on all the reasons why I’m so angry at him. Why am I getting so angry all of a sudden?
And I feel like NC is backfiring because it seems like he doesn’t miss me at all. He’s deleted my best friend and I off of Facebook and is hanging out with his friends a lot doing bad stuff and if he missed me wouldn’t he try to contact me?
I can’t really dress to impress because our school has uniforms but I can try!
Also my best friend told me that he deleted her off of Facebook today. I don’t understand because she never tried to contact him either. Her profile picture was the two of us, maybe that set him off, I don’t know but it’s been that for about a week and he’s just deleting her now.
I just have a hard time believing that he wants nothing to do with me when we were so close not too long ago. I don’t understand why he’s angry if he’s the one who wanted to end things.
I’ve basically cut him and anyone else that gives me negative feelings out of my life at least for now. I can block him on whatever I want but he still pops up somehow and he’s most likely still angry at me for whatever reason.
I’m taking the time I have before school to better myself, work out, talk to friends, etc. I don’t really miss him, I’m disappointed in how he’s changed. But school is going to be different because I’m going to be forced to see him everyday with this girl and his/our friends. I don’t want to be around him if he’s going to be angry and bitter, but I’m not ready to be nice yet. How am I going to handle this if we have so many mutual friends? Can somebody please give me advice?
Also why is he so angry at me if he initiated the break up? He hasn’t tried to speak to me at all and as far as I know he’s hanging out with his friends a lot and doing the things I was uncomfortable with him doing. I know that people say guys put on a show for their friends, and part of me wants to believe he misses me but it doesn’t seem like it. Could somebody please sort of tell me what he might be going through? Idk I just wanted some space I would have been willing to work things out but now I don’t want to right now because he’s handling the “post-breakup” fight in an immature way. I would appreciate any advice a lot. Thank you
Thanks for the advice. I’m just really disappointed in him that he’s chosen this lifestyle over someone who genuinely cared about him. I guess because he’s doing this it means I’m on his mind, but I think NC is making him angry and he’s not missing me at all even though he hasn’t tried to talk to me and is trying to show that he’s better off without me, when really he’s turned back into his old bad habits.
Also this girl/his ex and I as I said do not get along, so I try to avoid her at all costs. However my ex and her and I have a lot of mutual friends and honestly just seeing her name makes me so uncomfortable. Like she’s everywhere I go I feel like no matter what I do she’s always there. I’ve blocked her off of literally everything but both her and my ex are unavoidable because we go to school together and we have so many mutual friends. I know people say not to worry about that type of thing and use NC to better myself and that’s what I’m doing, I feel so much better now than I did after the breakup. I feel really confident, but whenever I think about school I get really anxious and scared and I feel like I’m not going to be able to handle it.
I know I sound really paranoid but honestly I just want this problem to go away. I try to be nice to everyone but there are certain people I cannot deal with. In a way he’s helped me understand that I deserve better and he’s immature because of his post-breakup actions. But I have a hard time understanding why he’s hurting and angry if he’s the one who initiated the breakup.
Okay thanks, and I have another question. I’m not stalking him or keeping tabs of what he’s doing on social media, but I don’t want to completely shut down on Facebook, Snapchat, etc. just because of him. I don’t want what he’s posting to pop up though so I don’t known if it’s best to just delete him? I don’t want him thinking I hate him enough to do that but I also want to use social media to my advantage so he knows I’m taking care of myself. Any advice?
