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Hi!!
This happens to me all the time because my ex and I are on the same group of friends. Just be you. There’s this saying that goes: “Be the one they met, not the one they left.” Let him see all the things you’ve changed, and how you’re not all those bad things they last saw. However try not to engage him that much, instead see if he approaches you.
By not approaching him you are also showing him that you’re not paying that much attention to the fact that he’s there, which will make him think you’re moving on and that you’re in a better place (which, technically, you are!)
Best of luck!
Hello!
I think what you’re doing is amazing, cause you’re not only showing her that you’ve changed, and that you could handle the relationship in a very mature way, but you’re also showing that you’re not desperate or anything like that. You know your place and your worth and you are making a stand for what you want. I think you’re amazing and this woman would be a fool not to take you back. If she doesn’t, then it’s probably for the best, because that means that even though you are now more mature and changed, she’s not. And maybe you wouldn’t repeat history, but she could. Just keep that in mind in case she doesn’t reach back.
I’d love to assure you that she will come back, because honestly in my opinion it’s the most logical thing to do, but we can’t know how she feels and what she thinks right now, and if she really is in a better place and mindset than before. But stay strong! You’ve done the best you could.
Good luck!
Hi Sallys!
I just read your post and caught up on updates in the comments. I think you’ve been really strong, and I admire a lot how honest you are about your feelings towards your ex. I feel like you are definitely doing the right thing! You are taking a step back (which is really really hard) and you’re dedicating this time to work on yourself and become stronger and happier. Trust me, I’m pretty sure that when he gets a chance to see how much you’ve changed for the best, he’ll realize he’s dumb for losing you. Exes sometimes tend to hold on to the negative aspects we have so they can feel more confident about their decision of breaking up, but if you constantly show him that you are bettering yourself and improving, there will be no negative aspect to hold on to!
And about you contacting him and the petty text- don’t stress. It was a mistake, but you can always start NC over and eventually prove to him that he’s missing on an amazing person.
Good luck! 🙂
