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Hey everyone,
So my ex actually initiated contact withe me. A friend of mine added him of facebook so he messaged me too tell me.. Which I thought was weird, like maybe he just wanted an excuse to talk to me? Anyways, I ended up asking him to meet up and he said he wanted too. Then the day comes and I text him what time would be best and he doesn’t reply. I only sent the one message but I know he saw it because he was on Facebook around the time I messaged him. Im just wondering what does this mean and what do I do now? I don’t want to come off needy and message him again, but I would like to see him.If he is hanging out with you weekly then I definitely think there is a connection. Even if small, there is something he is not willing to let go of yet. I don’t really know how to move the relationship to a romantic one because I am still trying to figure that out myself, I do hope he comes to you though! And I wouldn’t say it was amicable but it definitely wasn’t the worst break up.. I feel he may answer me but getting him to physically meet up with might be hard.
Your ex may be just talking himself up.. Lots of people like to do that when they are trying to impress someone or are unsure themselves.. He may be trying to convince himself he made the right choice. Im sure if you showed any interest in anyone else he would show signs of jealousy (not that im saying to do that), but too me there is obvious interest.Hey,
I’m almost through my 30 days of NC, I was wondering if you could share with me how you first reconnected with your ex? My ex also told me he wasn’t happy (among other things), and I could really use some insight on this issue.
You seem to be doing good though! From my experience I would say he’s testing the waters when he says things like that, some part of him still strongly cares for you or he wouldn’t be making an effort to have you in his life at all. Anytime I have ever broken up with an ex (I am a girl, so I dont know if it makes a difference cuz hes a guy) I never made the slightest effort to see them if I didn’t care about them anymore, sure I would answer texts every now and then and apologize for hurting them but I certainly wouldn’t meet up with them and I wouldn’t talk about how happy I am. Maybe part of him just wants you to think he is happy even if he’s not. Guys aren’t as good at showing emotion in my personal history.Hey,
I’ll admit that I was like this in one of my relationships and always expected an apology but rarely ever gave one. I never noticed it until the relationship was over. I definitely think you should do no contact for at least the 30 days, as time goes on she should start to remember the good things you did instead of focusing solely on the bad. You guys just sound like you’ve gotten stuck, and some time apart would probably help.
I dont know if this helps at all.. But for me time alone definitely opened my eyes and gave me some perspective.I dont think we broke up because we were comfortable. He got sick for a couple months and his grades suffered as well as everything else in his life, and then he became very distant. However before this we were really good. I do feel heart broken that he is gone, and I know I don’t need him to be happy, I can be on my own, he is just what I want.
We were together for a little over a year, and he is in computer science and I am in Nursing. I am planning to do the NC for the 30 days, and hoping in this time he does miss me.. We are not breaking up due to his video games (that is just one of his interests that I don’t share) but more so because he doesn’t feel he really has time for a relationship right, and that it will be easier to do better if he is alone.
Is this a common thing for guys? I am really hoping that it is just a phase, and in time I can show him that he can be successful with me..
