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It honestly helps so much to talk with someone that is going through almost the same situation, all of my friends are giving me wrong advices and really messing up with my head.. Is it any possible way I could contact you cassie if I need some urgent help as fast as possible? If a situation shows up or something.. Do you have “kik”?
Yeah, my friends and family as well.. They just dont get it and make me even more upset. Yeah sure, actually would be great in urgent situations. I have whatsapp
I just downloaded whatsapp my username is “clearitup” what’s yours? I don’t get whatsapp.. Am I supposed to give you my cellphone number or?
My stupid friends really made me so upset that I pushed her more and more away, it really broke me in half realizing that every time I contacted her things got worse..
I dont remember but will check on saturday when i have my phone back.. I think i’d probably need a number but im not sure.
Yes, same here! Everytime i contacted my ex things just got worse and now i really regret not starting the NC way before..
Same her… But judging from the songs she listens to and her twitter page it seems like she’s really trying to move on, I wish I could show you what I mean.. She listens to songs like “primadonna girl” “charlie xcx – you HA HA HA” etc.. And she also favorited this on her twitter page the same day I gave her the letter..
She just needs some time! Right now she’s so hurt that she’s trying all she can to move on but trust me, she won’t..
Isn’t it easy for a girl to move on if her friends are telling her each and everyday that I’m bad for her and that she can get someone better? I have absolutely no contact with her, no mutual friends or anything. Only contact is that I can see what she’s doing on twitter,facebook and instagram. I don’t know how girls think, and it’s so frustrating….
I don’t think so. No matter how much you’re told that something or someone isnt good for you, she’s the one whose missing you and ultimately she’s the one who loves/loved you. I might take longer for her to come back but she’ll be the one making the decision. Before I got with my now ex, my girlfriends kept telling me he was no good and i should find someone else but i ignored them because i had feelings for him..
Another thing, don’t chech her facebook etc. It will do you no good.. I deleted my ex from facebook and stuff.. it only makes things worse..
OK… I have been the girl who has been cheated on… I LOVED my guy so much and was shattered when he did it… I caught him in the act so at least you had the decency to be honest..tick no. 1:)
You have decided glared your love and apologised… Tick no. 2.
The next step is critical… You MUST let her come to you… My ex went overboard trying to convince me how sorry he was etc etc etc etc etc… All it did was push me away because he was trying so hard it made me feel like he was being fake…there is nothing more you can tell her that she doesn’t already know or that can change her mind… In this moment… She is hurt and angry and anything you say is only going to hold 20% weight because she’s not ready to hear it… So wait..and save what you want her to really know for when she IS ready.. Then its not wasted…
I think the best thing now is to nc and let her come to you… Dong initiate anything… On any platform! No Fb, no text, no I’m, twitter none of it. Radio silence.And I agree if you go to this party DO NOT even TALK to any girls if you can help it… Because I guarantee if she gets even a stiff that you are even looking at someone else all of her trust issues will have resurfaced….
Give her space to process… If my ex had have done that I would have taken him back…
If I delete her on facebook it will make things far worse.. Keep in mind that she’s still in a relationship with me on facebook, so that means that our relationship is still unofficial right? She’d think I have given up on her if I delete her on insta or facebook. After that letter I either sparked more hate into her and pushed her away more, or I made he realize how much I love her.. Girls are some seriously weird creatures.. What made you break up with your ex again? And do you still love him?
heartbroken80 WOW!!
That seriously gave me tons of hope! I’ll do exactly as you said! No more social media, just complete silence, and no more talking to girls or adding them anywhere!
BUT
Do you think this will still work? Even though I made her feel like complete shit for 2 months? In the letter I’ve apologized and everything. And just like a week or two ago she said that she wants me, but that she doesn’t trust me. I shouldn’t of pushed her after that.. But I did.. But yeah anyways, she doesn’t talk to me or anything anymore hah..
So don’t delete her but don’t stalk her, it’ll make you think about her even more. The NC is also for yourself to distance yourself from her and the relationship. You have great odds at having her come back 🙂 Otherwise she would have deleted the “in a relationship” a long time ago! In my case, my ex ended it with me so I need to win him back and there is nothing in the world I wont do.. love him more than life.
For sure NO adding girls on facebook or anywhere!!! Really, you have to stay far away from girls!!
Seriously haven’t felt this positive for a long time, there are a lot of signs that she doesn’t want to give up on me.. But I haven’t seen them before now, but I’m kinda afraid that she will tell her mom about this, that she and I are no longer together.. Because if her mother finds out, then basically all hell will be let loose and chances of me and her getting back together again will be 0%. IF she tells her the whole thing.. Like “he cheated on me and was a complete douche”.. But I won’t give up on hope yet.
Trust me.. Your ex is thinking of you and I’m sure you both will find your way together again, boys are stubborn a lot of times, just show him that you’re willing to love him more than everything and that’s it. I’m sure you’ll end up together again!
Cassie, I did add one girl yesterday………. But she’s nothing but a friend, and I’m not sure that my gf thinks that but.. Yeah from now on.. NO GIRLS whatsoever.
Its like a cat… You have to let her come to you… Even though its hard… Try it and see… It might take a little while for her to come out of her shell but just be patient… And yes, NO GIRLS!!! EVEN IF IT LOOKS LIKE SHE IS FLIRTING WITH GUYS… just be cool… Its OK to remove yourself from that situation but it isn’t OK to get angry, say anything to her about it or try and get her back… Just walk away… She probably will try and make you jealous if youre around, walking away sends a clear message that your not thrilled but it Alison doesn’t antagonise the situation or give her the response she’s expecting Either…which is probably lay flipping out… Stay cool…
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