Things were going well but now I'm confused all over again

Well, a huge update, but it’s still confusing. Apparently the reason he wanted me to have my ring back was because he is moving to Florida for a job. According to him he just has to pick which one and it’s a done deal, but some things he says doesn’t make sense. These are: he says he won’t move for a couple of months (those who have moved for work tell me it’s much quicker than that), and our mutual friend asked him “So I hear you’re moving, should we be planning a going away party?” and he responded, “Well, I’m PLANNING on moving.”

So, after finding out about his potential move yesterday afternoon, I did respond to him. He had told our mutual friend that my ignoring him was driving him insane and he texted me what he knew would get a response. Which is another thing that makes me think this move isn’t a done deal. But in case it was, I decided I would lay my cards out and tell him how I feel about him and why he shouldn’t move.

So I met up with our mutual friend and ended up with all of his group of friends. We had a fun evening, but it got late and I was ready to leave. It’s funny, we actually ended up parking our cars beside each other on a very busy night here. Out of all the places, we ended up beside each other. So I got in his car and did it. I really gave it to him about everything he had done to me, but I also told him I love him, including all the bad stuff, and that I want to be with him. I told him to seriously think about it, and to let me know if he wants me too. I told him that we’ll make it work, even if he moves. I did end up crying, and because it was so late I went back to his place and slept there. He held me and comforted me the whole time I cried. We kissed and made out several times (he initiated it each time), but that was it. I don’t regret it, and I’m glad that I was able to say my piece, tell him how I feel, and at least spend one last night with him. Many would have advised against this, but I didn’t feel it was wrong.

It could go either way at this point. Literally in the last 36 hours he wanted to bump into me, then he didn’t, and then he did again. He clearly still has feelings for me. Now it’s up to him to act on them. I’m not planning on contacting him.

Yeah, I think it was definitely closure for me if it doesn’t work out. All the signs are still there of him still having feelings for me (constantly wanting to see me, trying to show off the results of his gym visits [he seemed jealous that I lost 20 pounds since our breakup in May], said my ignoring him that ONE TIME drove him insane and deliberately said something that he knew would get a response). Like I said, it’s just a matter of him actually getting his s*** together and acting on it

I have not heard from him since this all happened. I don’t even know if we will meet up to be honest, because I just found out he blocked me on Facebook. How adorable. He’s being so immature. I get it if he’s offended, but at this point it’s getting a little ridiculous. The animosity is just perplexing. I find it amusing but I’m also a little upset about it. I get it if I did something unforgivable to you, but I literally did nothing except treat him like a king.

Well, that’s okay @starlight because I just found out he is in Florida on this trip for over a week with the ex from New York. So I am done. As far as I am concerned, I am going to block out all positive thoughts I ever had of him. He doesn’t exist anymore, and in my mind he never truly cared for me. If he were to ever come back and want to be with me, he would have to be a completely different person. He is not capable of a healthy relationship right now. Not only did he play me, but he is playing her, too. If he truly cared for her or me, he wouldn’t have done what he has done these last few weeks. And he wouldn’t have jeopardized potential with her for a night with me. But perhaps I’m naive.

I am devastated and heartbroken and crying, but I also realize I have cried enough over him. It is to the point where all of his friends, even the one who is the hugest player out of all of them, all of his friends say I’m wife material and don’t get why he is doing what he is doing and say he doesn’t really realize what he is doing. They say he doesn’t know what he wants, that he doesn’t have this whole relationship thing figured out yet, but in all honesty it’s too painful for me to wait around for him to figure it out. So from this moment on, I am going to do my best to pretend he doesn’t exist.

He never truly gave me a decision, and I believe he didn’t really actually make one, but his actions in taking this girl to Florida for a week-long vacation tell me all I need to know.

And for our ages, he and I are both 26. But he is acting like he’s 17.