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Struggling – day 7 NC

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  • January 31, 2015 at 3:54 am #27958
    Caz15
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    Hey @Libertine1 in wouldn’t worry about this other guy it won’t last!

    I know I can’t believe it, it’s day 18! I’m doing ok, how are you? 🙂

    January 31, 2015 at 4:06 am #27960
    Libertine1
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    I know, 18! I am doing good, thanks! Yesterday was an awful day ha. But it will be better today, as I have plenty of friends to see!

    What are your plans?

    January 31, 2015 at 4:19 am #27961
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    I’m happy your feeling better! We all have bad days but they do get better, keeping busy and being around friends who love you will make you feel so much better.

    I’m heading out to meet friends! trying to keep busy also. Just cannot believe we will make it to 3 weeks 🙂

    January 31, 2015 at 4:40 am #27967
    Libertine1
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    We will! I know, and 30 days soon! Please send your magic letter Caz 🙂 I am hoping to send mine in April, when I think I will be in an excellent place!

    January 31, 2015 at 6:11 am #27972
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    I can’t believe we will do 30 days.

    I’m still thinking about it.

    By April you will be in since a good place 🙂

    January 31, 2015 at 7:02 am #27986
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    I know! I never imagined myself doing it. I remember at the start, trying to give it two weeks, I just couldn’t do it! After 3 months of almost texting every day, this is an achievement.

    I messaged the girl I cheated on my ex with today. I apologised for the way I reacted afterwards, as I blamed her – and I also provoked conversations on whatsapp, so that I could send to my ex to prove I didn’t want that girl. My ex simply responded that it was good enough and that she was angry.

    I think you just have to clear your mind. After 30 days you may have different thoughts about him and the relationship. Then you can use that for when you eventually write your magic letter. Perspective is everything. Keep going, you have done so well. Do you think you would make the same mistakes if you entered into the relationship with him again?

    January 31, 2015 at 7:28 am #27992
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    I never thought I would get this far and it is a massive achievement.

    That was a lovely thing to do, get it off your mind and clear the air.

    I know I’ll see what ill do after that! no I would be completely different, I would not act how I did towards him with drink! I would be in a much happier place, but he needs to chase me

    January 31, 2015 at 7:41 am #28000
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    Hmmm, he does need to chase you, that is true. But you need to do some things first. Firstly, give him space to miss and chase you. Secondly, show him you have changed, space will also do this. Thirdly, show him you have changed again and show him that you care, the magic letter will do this. Hopefully he responds, if he doesn’t go no contact again. If he does, then use the lessons you have learnt from no contact (such as patience) to allow him to chase you.

    You have done so well!

    January 31, 2015 at 7:46 am #28003
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    I’ll send the letter but don’t think it will achieve anythibg!

    If he doesn’t respond which I know he won’t I’ll move on, there’s only so heartbreak you can go through.

    You have also done so well

    January 31, 2015 at 7:48 am #28005
    Libertine1
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    Caz, I believe he has the courtesy to respond. Approach it as wanting to be friends.

    January 31, 2015 at 7:50 am #28006
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    The thing is though I don’t want to be his friend, he lives an hour and a half away so don’t think I could do it, hearing about him with other people.

    January 31, 2015 at 8:22 am #28015
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    But that is how to get him back. Prove to him you have changed and be mysterious, so he will wonder if you have anyone!

    January 31, 2015 at 9:10 am #28024
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    That is true! Start of as false friends, can’t wait for the 30 days to be over 🙂

    January 31, 2015 at 9:23 am #28026
    Libertine1
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    Exactly, and no, me neither. Just to know it has been done. But still wait until April and keep Facebook on lockdown, so she will wonder.

    January 31, 2015 at 12:19 pm #28076
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    I’ll think I’ll go as far as April too to be honest, I’m not ready for rejection….he won’t respond! He’s moved on…

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