No Contact Annoymous – Share your struggles with keeping NC

Hey guys,

Haven’t heard from you guys. Hope you’re all doing well!

It’s been a couple months since my break up. I can say I’m strong and have recovered from it. Today I stumbled on some pictures of my ex and I couldn’t recognize her. She was a stranger to me. Literally. She’s been out of my life that much that she’s only a memory. A memory that feels like it never happened.

It’s crazy when you look back. The person you were so close to, told everything to, never apart, and knew her like the palm of your hand…all of a sudden, you have no idea who she is. I’m sure she feels the same about me. We are strangers again.

I’ve been actively talking to girls. More like friends. I still don’t feel like I’m ready for a relationship but I will soon.

well, Its out after 5 years,

I have had a breakup with my (ex)girlfriend so its realy though, she says she has it difficult and dont want to speak until the end of oktober. Ok fair enough i think. I need some space too.

We had an incredible relationsship never made any fights just some opinion differences. 3 weeks after being on vacation what was realy beloving, she broke up she doesn’t feel anything for me. She just want me as a friend and a realy close friend. Ok i accept that but i still realy love you like the first day we began. if i say that i dont want to be friends she accepts that. So i wont it realy close to me. If she wants to be with me that would be very great. But if she don’t wants to be with me in a relation also good.

I just want her to be happy, but with me in her life not without her. It needs a realy long time to build up a good friendship and eventually to be togheter. My feeling says (after a month) she is ‘the one’ and I vowed to myself not to take any dates or gf any more. It gives me a comfortable feeling when i vowed that. I want your opinion we are all sharing the same experience.

I know what i did wrong, and im gonna make a positive change in that without change my personality. I am who I am. She didnt want that i change for her.

bguarino,

Yes I tried the five step plan. I can’t say it didn’t work becuase in a way it did work.

My situation was complex. My ex started seeing someone else after we broke up and I think she’s still seeing him.

Well after NC I sent her a letter. Shortly after that I ran into her at the gym. I could tell the letter worked becuase she was eager to talk to me.

What happened was that I realized that I didn’t want her back. She had changed and so had I. I actually found her annoying as she rambled on and on. Our life’s won’t be compatible with each other’s. So I decided to move on.

It’s hard something becuase I still picture the girl I fell in love with in my memories. But I’m learning to let go.

deedee!

It means that he is trying to avoid eye contacts! That’s all! It might have a lot of meanings!

Possibilities:

1-He is serious about the breakup and does not want to rekindle old flames by eye contact.

2-He is over but kind enough to know that eye contact may triggers some feelings in you!

3-He loves you and tries to hide it

4-He has become a shy person lately!

5-He is intimidated by you!
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Oh! There can be thousands of reasons!

Just apply NC for 1 month! If it works, that’s fine otherwise, don’t waste your time!! When relationships turn bad, it takes hell a lot of effort to make things work and it requires both side working hard on it!

Good luck deedee!!

I’m on day 2. The hardest thing about this NC rule is that starting in two days is college. This means Ill be seeing her everyday and sharing the same bed. She just texted me this morning saying she didn’t want me to wait for her. Saying she wants to focus on her and have a clean slate; no past promises and no worrying about me. Just yeaturday and the day she broke my heart though, she kissed me more than once on the lips. I’m just so hurt and sad I don’t know what to do. The only thing I’ve been doing after getting that text was going into my closet and punching the wall. I can’t stand this hurt and pain. I have no one to talk about this to. The whole story of our relationship is just hard to tell anyone because of how society is. I can’t sleep. I’ve already lost 5 pounds in two days. I just can’t keep it together. What am I supposed to do when school starts again? We have all the same classes. I’ve hit rock bottom before, but this is something totally different. I don’t know if I can do it.

Hi, it’s my first time to join the forum but already had time to read all the articles. I’m just so glad I came across this site coz it really help me a lot as I;m trying to move on and start doing my NC. I wished I had read those pripor to making those deadly mistakes. Anyway, I’m already on my 9th day NC and it was an everyday struggle. But I know this will benefit me in fact, I can say that I already know how to control my emotions. Before doing so, whenever I miss my ex, I can’t help myself texting him, telling how sorry I am, telling how much I miss and love him. I was very needy and desperate after the break up. I kept on sending him dramatic messages in fb which I guess pushed him further.
This NC is the first step for me. To re-assess and contemplate on things that led to our break up. I messed up a lot and I have a lot to work on myself. I already accept that I lost him and preparing myself for the worst, of him not coming back. I see potential for both of us because ours was so great, though we’re on LDR but we had a ery good communication. Our was not perfect but we made it so far despite distance.
So now, I’m doing my very best, I;m doing NC for an indefinite time, maybe until I’ve reached my goal- not being needy, desperate, jealous, controlling, I think too much sometimes. I have to be more confident first not for the sake of getting him back but to improve myself. I think 1 month NC for me is not enough. I was too focused on him as what he said and I agreed with that. I even thanked him for letting me see my mistakes, he was very patient with me and I guess break up would only be the best solution to work on thos things. I know he loved me, as much as I want for him to come back, I just have to deal with myself first. I’ve hurt him so much. I’m not yet ready if ever he’ll come back.
I’ve stopped liking his posts on fb, which I knew he found unusual for me, coz I am his # liker, as he is for me. He can’t unfriedn me coz he said I will always be special to him. What he had was wonderful, too bad he needs to set me free for me to grow and focus more on myself.
I understand now and realized the reason for the break up. So I guess I’m making progress, not having to text him or call him whenever I miss him. Not having to like his post or if I saw something that made me think too much, cause me to get jealous when there’s no reason, too. I unfollowed him on fb, so I wont get any updates on him. I did my very best not to visit his fb profile but sometimes, I failed. But then I maintained my poise and controlled my urge to confront him about things I found unsual for him.
I’m doing NC whether or not he’ll come back. Though I love him so much, but I also believe that God has made someone, someone thta’s really meant for us. I thanked him for seeing the good and bad in me, and for allowing me to work on the bad. In time, things will get better. 🙂

Today I was thinking.

Time has past since my break up. Whenever I think about it now it just feel like it never happened. If it was just a dream. I see her and we are only strangers.

About a month it more ago I wrote on here that I couldn’t engage with women anymore. Not becuase I don’t have game but becuase I didn’t have the desire to go after anyone even if I really wanted too.

Yesterday some friends and I met lots of new people and an event. Glad to say that I know have to ambition to go after girls. Unfortunately, the three girls I picked out all had bfs and I respect that so no numbers. However I did talk to them and introduced my self. I can’t wait for another time like this for me to get out there again.