Advice please?

thanks for the reply. 🙂 I posted another question, lol. 🙂 yes I do think you have a high chance of getting her back.:-) my name is Aida. nice to meet you as well. 🙂

its ok your fine. it’s good you have your mom there for you, my mom is a different story. :-/ its normal to feel the way you do. cry if you have to do what you have to so you can get through this phase. your doing really well, so keep it up. this is like a roller coaster ride unfortunately. :-/ I suggest you fill your day up with activities you enjoy. when ever your not at work and you feel really bad either go to the gym or go for a jog, it’d make you feel better. you can do this, you been doing it already. 🙂 I guess a lot of us feel that same way so what your feeling is normal. also do you like your job? if you dont then maybe you could try looking for something you like to do. if you do like your job then do what you can to enjoy the time your there. keep your mind distracted so you wont think much of her. you got this. 🙂

then you know that no matter what you tried your hardest and you should be happy that you never gave up. honestly theres probably nothing you can say to make her change her mine. the plan actually says that the more change the better because it attracts them to you and you have a better chance at attracting them because they were attracted to you before. I think you should finish you nc and follow the plan. I know you feel desperate but you need to calm down and take a deep breath.

I think that your parents and you are different people. what works for one some times doesnt work for another, but then again some times it would. are you ready to be disappointed and not get her back at all if she tells you no? if you dont want to do no contact anymore its really up to you, but if she says no to you anyways your gonna find yourself having to do “nc” anyways and end up having to still work on yourself to be able to move on. in reality its a difficult situation. you know your situation better then any of us and you know how her reaction would be if you were to do that. now no matter what, are you willing to deal with the consequence that follow it being either good or bad. lets say yes you get back together and then you havent worked on yourself and then you break up again. im pretty sure you wouldnt want that. I cant tell you what to do but I think you should think everything through after analyzing your situation and then act upon what you think you should do. me I wouldnt do it because I know how my husband is and how everything is going on top of the fact that I knew how he was gonna act after the fact that I gave him the letter I wrote him telling him how I felt, which is why im on round 2 of no contact, im trying to be patient and im praying a lot. Its very hard for me and I miss him like crazy, but I have to have faith,patience,and work on my self for me,my children, and if we do get back together not have to deal with my old self which was what pushed him away, and if not hopefully not lol at least I’ve become a better person and then on to the next(like I said hopefully not) lol. ultimately the decision is your and only yours to make. good luck and keep us posted with whatever it is you decide to do. 🙂