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What I feel that the right thing to do is forgetting him for real, cuz I know why hes sending me those messages just cuz he is so very curious about how and what I’m doing, did I settle here for good or find a job, meeting new people etc, its just his curiosity. And him wanting to visit me is just about that he wants a change, a get away its not about seeing me. I say these things and then the funny thing is that I still have deep feelings for him, this cant be love right? At the same time I hate him for how he behaved to me, how he didnt care at all, how he still acting selfishly and at the same time telling me he still has feeling for me…you know sometimes I’m so messed up in my mind when I come to think of all these, they all get mixed..
The question is how to forget him, how not to check his fb and other things(just this passed sunday a girl has tagged him riding bcycles together with one another girl after sending me those blaming messages), its really hard. How you managed ? I really do want to get over him for good eventhough I love him and want to share the rest of my life with :/ maybe I’m just obssessed with him, he turned me out to someone else yucky, I feel incomplete and as if somethings missing when I imagine and think hes never gonna be in my life anymore. How to deal with all these and get over with these thoughts..
I have told him a little about how he made me feel and he has said hes sorry and he didnt mean to do that do this but he did the same things over anyway, hes not mature enough sometimes but sometimes way so mature.
I dont want him to visit me all the way just like that you know, visiting me for what ? As a friend just like that.
And you giving your precious time to me is… just dont know what to say…not much people really do care about one another this sincerely @FinntogaIf its not happening, its just not going to happen and face with the fact other then pushing it right, we are not on the same page so how to accept it the bitter truth for real? I’m being overwhelming I guess :S
I just better do one day at a time right, with no ever checking anything about him, his fb etc..
I will try veeery hard this time to get over with him and move on with my life without him..Hi Malinda, Kevin said we are not allowed to post our emails here, you need to ask him for my email. I donthave problem him giving it to you but you need to ask it from him : ).
Well the thing for me is that my ex has no social media accounts i.e no fb etc so I had nothing to look and to be honest I did not have any interest every time I wondered I just tried to focused on something else and said to my self no this will not help you stop. So it is just about staying strong.
Ok so then it is clear I agree you should not meet with him so it is good decision. Now you just ned to work on the hardest part trying not to check his fb etc. I think you shoukd start slow like try setting small steps i.e try to focus your thoughts from him when they come and say okay toda I will try no to think of him so much or tomorrow I will not look at his fb at all. Then next day once or something on those linesand if you feel going towards his fb page or something walk away from pc for little while there are ways to do this little by little and I am happy to support you as much as I can because I do know from experience it is hard but listen you can and will do this and get back the control of your thoughts : ).
@Kevin hi, can I have @Finntoga s email address?
@Malinda, no sure how often Kevin reads these if at all so here it is even though it is against rules, he can block me if he wants. You can email me at [email protected]
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