Torma

Hey, I’m in quite a similar situation. Our relationship lasted for 3 months, we were quite happy with each other, but things went wrong in our last week and she broke up. After that, I’ve been trying to keep in touch with her, hoping if we meet, chat, she’ll be reminded of the good sides of our relationship, and she would probably return. But this isn’t what happened. She knew I was hoping to get her back, and it annoyed her. I think I was needy, and it pushed her farther from me. Probably it would have been better if I did No Contact.

The other thing to consider, how much likely it is that she would get a new boyfriend while you’re on NC. My ex said she doesn’t want a relationship, so I find it unlikely that she would get someone else in my absence. If you also find it unlikely that your ex would find someone else, I think you have nothing to lose with No Contact.

Personally, I think 30 days is not too long, even if your relationship was short – I don’t think she would completely forget about you during that time, but it gives her quite enough time to miss you.