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Thanks dude. I’ll go slow and see what happens. I’ve been very patient with her. She has been contacting me by phone call for the past few months. I haven’t initiated any form of contact for a while. Were you at any time speaking to your ex by phone or in person?
Ok. We went out for dinner at a pub . Had some food and a few drinks. The meet up went very smoothly we talked for a few hours and it felt very natural. It nearly felt the same as if we were still together. The emotional stuff she wanted to talk about never come up in conversation. Maybe an excuse to meet up with me? Anyway she ssaid she had a lovely night. Not sure how to play this out. I haven’t heard from her since then 4 days ago. Should I organise another meet up or should I wait for her. One more thing I should add was when we left the pub she sought of followed me to my car thinking she was coming home with me. Lol. She looked confused for a second. Someone pls respond..
I agree thats why i have been working out really hard. i havent seen her for about a month but when i see her in the future she will be shocked how fit i look. improving myself is the best chance ive got
thanks az. if things were completely gone between myself and her she would have no intention to contact me at all?
thanks rihanna. i totally understand what you are saying. to be honest with you my break up with my ex has been the hardest thing ive gone through in my life. it has taught me that drugs are a terrible thing to get into and i no longer want anything to dobwith them. since the break up ive been clean and seeking help to get over my addiction. drugs arent even a factor in my life now. they have cost me to much. had to experience this pain and hurt to finally realise that i want to be drug free. and to not let them affect my relationships in the future. it has been a hard lesson to learn.
the one thing you need to accept its hard but its true. that you may not get back together. when u accept that things will get easier. but make sure u go out and improve yourself . this will make u feel better
Feel for you brother. im going through the same shit with my ex gf. its bloody hardcore man. but chin up mate . it does get easier. i was with my missus for 5 years. then she dumped me for various reasons. its been 6 weeks since we broke up. i begged and pleaded for nearly a month to try get her back but with no luck. so now im on NC been 2 weeks and its very hard im sure you know what its like. the worst thing is when you see your ex on FB and she is in photos with other guys:( ive seen this on a number of times with my ex and it totally rips my heart apart. anyway all you can do is try better yourself. me personally ive been hitting the gym 5 times a week doing weights , changed jobs and trying to live a healthy lifestyle. all this has helped. ive tried to forget about her for the moment and just concentrating on myself because that what really matters. my happiness and sanity. i suggest u do the same man because there is no guarantee u will get back with her. so forget her and worry bout yourself. man up . power up and power on.
thanks notevensure its good to here it from a gf point of view. i hope your ex can sought himself out. i will post to keep everyone up to date with my progress. i will never give up.
Thanks a.z for your time. its hard trying to control my thoughts my head is all over the place. i just find it weird when she come to grab some of her stuff its like she couldnt get out of here quick enough. would this be because she is still hurting? also i wrote her a letter basically saying thank you for breaking up with me it was the best thing u could of done for me to beat my addiction and i said sorry for all the hurt i created. but so far she has not responded to this letter. maybe its freaked her out i dont know. anyway i just gonna keep doing what im doing and try concentrate on myself for a while. cheers a.z
hey i have an idea what your ex bf is going through. i myself was a drug addicted and suffered depression. i only recently broke up with my gf because of my drug use. she was very caring towards me and i took her for granted. she helped me through my addiction for 12 months but she had enough eventually . so she broke up with me. when your on drugs you are off in your own little world and dont seem to care whats going on around you. i know this must be extremely hard for u to see your ex boyfriend destroy himself with drugs. but the only one who can help him is himself. if he wants to sought his life out and get clean he must do it for himself. no one else. i came to this conclusion when my ex broke up with me because i had lost so much and suffered so much pain. im now on the straight and narrow and trying to rebuild my life. my advise to you would be maybe go no contact and worry about yourself for a change. im sure that is what my ex would be doing. if you see no improvement from him i would suggest to move on. if u want you should read my post from earlier today. its titled how do i get my ex gf back with drug and trust issues. i hope this helps. peace out mate and hang in there
Hey i was wondering is there any approximate timeline for her to get over this sought of thing? also she just dropped in to grab some of her stuff i kept cool and calm but its was difficult. she didnt stay very long just collected some of her stuff and left. would you agree if things were completely over she would of grabbed all her stuff from the beginning so she wouldnt have to see me everytime she comes to get her stuff. one other thing my granddad died yesterday and she text me to see if i was ok. would this mean she still cares or is she just trying to be nice? to me it seems like she is happy and wants to move on but she hasnt totally removed me from her life? confused and frustrated
