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Hi everybody. I will keep this short as possible. My ex gf broke up with me about 10months ago. We’ve had limited contact during the first 6 months. I was keen to reconcile during this time but gave up because she didn’t seem interested. Anyway the last few months she has been calling every couple of weeks for general chit chat. Now she texted me the other day and wants to meet up to chat because she has some emotional baggage she needs to talk about between me and her. Not sure what this means.
I began no contact with her about xmas time and she has been the one who has maintained contact between then and now. Don’t want to get my hopes up but seems like she may want to reconnect. Help guys
Well from experience I know you’re going to think about every detail of what may happen on that day and after that day you two meet up. When you meet up be aware that females and males are different. As a woman I know we take a lot about our emotions. Let her Talk. While she’s talking listen to her perspective and try and put yourself in her shoes. If it helps write your thoughts down ( remember this is serious) and take it one step at a time. Perseverance is key.
Ok. We went out for dinner at a pub . Had some food and a few drinks. The meet up went very smoothly we talked for a few hours and it felt very natural. It nearly felt the same as if we were still together. The emotional stuff she wanted to talk about never come up in conversation. Maybe an excuse to meet up with me? Anyway she ssaid she had a lovely night. Not sure how to play this out. I haven’t heard from her since then 4 days ago. Should I organise another meet up or should I wait for her. One more thing I should add was when we left the pub she sought of followed me to my car thinking she was coming home with me. Lol. She looked confused for a second. Someone pls respond..
Take it very easy,let her take initatives but if she wont lets say aprpox 2 weeks,just text or email her with some excuse,dont ask her to go out,keep the communication lines open.
It will take some time for her to come back but you need lot of patience and it will be a ride of roller coaster.I am telling you from my experience and I have the same thing going on with my ex,infact we only communicate thru email and not even text,it will be year next month.But I started NC 2nd week of Jan this year.
So, keep the lines open,be funny,caring not cocky.OK ?
Thanks dude. I’ll go slow and see what happens. I’ve been very patient with her. She has been contacting me by phone call for the past few months. I haven’t initiated any form of contact for a while. Were you at any time speaking to your ex by phone or in person?
hmmmm, if you didnt let her come with you, she might have thought that you are not interested with her…at least i would think like that.
But of course this doesnt mean you should do whatever she wants and when she wants it….may be you could send her a funny message reminding your memories in a week or so….
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