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Hi madie! Congrats! I think you did superbly!
I don’t know what the theory says about what should follow at this point, but perhaps you ought to wait more than that before you try to reach him again, otherwise it sounds like you didn’t mean what you said in your last message (you ended with: “get in touch with me if you want”, not “I’ll get in touch if you don’t”).
I really feel the ball is on his court now and he should be the one to get in touch, otherwise you’d be just contradicting yourself. Show him, rather than tell him, that you’re perfectly capable of carrying on with your days without needing to text him. I think that if he cares, he will find a reason to contact you again. You have opened the doors of communication already, which is incredibly hard. But in your place, I’d let him be the one to walk through them. It requires a lot of self restraint and confidence, but it’s what you’re trying to prove, isn’t it? That you are more mature and capable of being on your own? And I think by not rushing things, you’ll show him just that. Good luck!:)
I didn’t read all of the posts – this is quite a big thread! – but you seem to be describing a slow burning romance that will last forever, regardless of what you choose to do in the future. You keep loving him after all these years and he obviously still has feelings for you and never forgot you.
The thing is, I don’t think he really knows, and considering your previous actions, he’s content in his current situation – the way he probably sees it, at least you’re on speaking terms and that is a good thing. You have to see that he’s tried for so long that he no longer believes you can possibly love him, so he sort of moved on with his life.
I’m usually very skeptic, but from the things you said, I honestly believe that if you put yourself out there and come clean about your feelings and why you acted the way you did all these years, you’d be pleasantly surprised with his response. I’m not 100% confident he’ll just drop everything in his life to be with you, but something will definitely change in him and his actions will be based on the truth you provided.
What can you possibly lose at this point? Do you think he’ll ever come around a throw himself at your feet when he thinks you don’t like him that way? So, I say: tell him!! I wish you all the courage, as it sounds really difficult. But it’s your happiness at stake and he seems to be worth it. 🙂
p.s. could someone reply to my silly thread? It’s rather ridiculous and I don’t see a reconciliation in sight, but I need some closure and some answers from strangers on this cold wide web could do the trick. 😛
