Stayingstrong

Hey guys. I appreciate the feedback. She hasn’t been civil about it at all really. She’s been very cold and mean. There’s more to the story.

Besides sending a text back I wasn’t bugging her. And everything I said has been respectful. Ive accepted we aren’t going to get back together. Honestly because of her reaction made me accept that. I could never be with someone who is cold like that. Initially I was shocked it took her 3 days to finally get back and that was her response. I guess the passion I had made me not understand things. And I regret texting more about how I feel. But in the end would I regret it more if I didn’t say it? I mean it’s already over, what do I have to lose.

Thanks a lot for all the feedback. I wish the best for everyone out there. I’m excited for my new adventures in life!

Patricia- kids was not a reason at all. Was just distance, she wanted to have kids.

Thanks guys. I did a lot to improve myself and I did go on a date. I actually started a new company, ramped up my working out and eating and moving into a new place next month. I’ve never seen her so cold. I think that just shows me maybe I don’t know the girl I was dating that well. We winded up quick talking through text where I just left it as, “Wow, I guess I brought out the good in you, because I never realized how cold and mean you really are.” A little anger obviously, mostly towards the coldness. Idk what I’m going to do In the future. I know NC might be for good this time, I can’t see her trying to get ahold of me. It’s just sad

I am clearly not ready to send this letter, the news I got Monday is still bothering me, and just totally knocked me down a peg, and has me questioning so much, like does she even think about me anymore, how can she go on a date and tag this guy when for 2 years she never did that with me, and did I screw this up by being needy after breakup…. it’s been 30days NC, I made a lot of positive changes and been on dates but still miss her and know we were meant to be. I figure I’ll save copy of letter I planned writing and see how I feel in a couple weeks… But from my post above, do I add bliss moments in there? Before I say how it’s for best and I accept the breakup?

Yea, I’m in no rush to send letter, I figure another 2-3 weeks, and if I still feel I want her back I’ll send.. Also, just so it’s not around same time as all the unfriending etc… But how can u write the letter and not come off as a “hey look at me I’m doing awesome after breakup, what a great idea” and coming off a bit cocky and kind of rubbing it in… I worded it basically like… hope all is well, and you’re getting life in order, took a minute for me to accept breakup but i know it was for the best, we both needed to get our ducks in a row. I apologize if I came off immature after breakup. Things have been really good right now, made some exciting changes, life getting back on track. love to talk about it, maybe sometime in near future we can catchup… Not exactly like that but in basic terms… I feel like it’s more of rubbing it in than actually coming off as I have accepted the breakup, apologizing for in between and leaving something her to think about…