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Well me and my ex gf of 2yrs broke up a couple months ago. I did NC at start but then broke most the rules. She got jealous of pictures I had on FB and blocked me and had her friends/family unfriend me but still was friends with my entire family. I found out she started dating a week after our breakup with some guy. So After i heard that I sent her a long text (nothing about the guy, or ripping him in any way), just about how I don’t know who she is if she can move on that fast and was tired of her saying it’s my fault about the breakup. She responded but I refused to after that text as I felt I needed NC. I stayed away for about a month now, made great changes in my life, got a new job and started a new business, got my first tattoo and got back into shape which I started to build some relationship weight I needed to lose. I went on a couple dates, nothing that really had a strong connection. So anyways this past monday I had someone in my family ask me about her and saw on FB she was on a date with this guy (same guy as before). I told them we can each do what we want, and if you could please unfriend her because I don’t feel she needs to know what my family business is and I don’t want to know hers. I also asked the rest of my family just to unfriend her as I just think it’s for the best. I was getting ready to write the letter, I realize a lot and made changes and I’m not a mess about it at all like I was at first. Just needed some help on writing this letter because my version sounds like I’m rubbing it in and that I’m doing better and good thing we broke, and if I even should do letter now, I know I pass the checklist but should I wait a while. Any help would be nice, thanks!
Hey,
Don’t say anything about that guy and if she ever mentions that,play it cool.
I suggest you to continue NC for another month.Yea, I’m in no rush to send letter, I figure another 2-3 weeks, and if I still feel I want her back I’ll send.. Also, just so it’s not around same time as all the unfriending etc… But how can u write the letter and not come off as a “hey look at me I’m doing awesome after breakup, what a great idea” and coming off a bit cocky and kind of rubbing it in… I worded it basically like… hope all is well, and you’re getting life in order, took a minute for me to accept breakup but i know it was for the best, we both needed to get our ducks in a row. I apologize if I came off immature after breakup. Things have been really good right now, made some exciting changes, life getting back on track. love to talk about it, maybe sometime in near future we can catchup… Not exactly like that but in basic terms… I feel like it’s more of rubbing it in than actually coming off as I have accepted the breakup, apologizing for in between and leaving something her to think about…
And do I put any bliss moments in there… Like before I say that I accept the breakup should I say anything like it took me a minute because I kept thinking about the good times… And name a couple bliss moments…. then say but i know the break was for the best an accept it…
I am clearly not ready to send this letter, the news I got Monday is still bothering me, and just totally knocked me down a peg, and has me questioning so much, like does she even think about me anymore, how can she go on a date and tag this guy when for 2 years she never did that with me, and did I screw this up by being needy after breakup…. it’s been 30days NC, I made a lot of positive changes and been on dates but still miss her and know we were meant to be. I figure I’ll save copy of letter I planned writing and see how I feel in a couple weeks… But from my post above, do I add bliss moments in there? Before I say how it’s for best and I accept the breakup?
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