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    hey! that’s so great to hear! I’m so happy for you!! like you said that’s really all anyone can ask for at this point.. so he moved to Florida? was it for work?

    starlight
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    lmboo that’s funny lol. CONGRATULATIONS! !! THAT’S AWESOME! I’ve been great like you said we were both stressing each other and this time apart is good. I’m just living each day and learning to be happy. that’s crazy that he now cares to ask if you blocked him still. that’s a great friend showing him that he can’t keep using you as a safety net! he should stop lookin for gf and just focus on himself and figuring himself out. there’ll always be a right time to be in a relationship.. there’s always girls to date when he figures himself out whether it be you or anyone. Karma is a B. lol

    starlight
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    That’s a very very deep and awesome saying!!! I love it!! I’m glad that you’re doing fine! Sounds like he might not be moving which is, he can’t run away from his problems!

    haha I understand what you saying.. I’ve gone on a few and I’m talking to ppl but I wouldn’t say I’m fully putin my self out there.. I haven’t found the right amount of unavailable but available lol… I’m getting a PT so I can start saving for a trip and the summer lol so I’ll meet some new ppl.. I don’t meet ppl in my job lol so it’ll be good to do that and make/save money lol

    starlight
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    hey sry for getting bak late.. But I’m same as you. enjoying the ride and just living life lol I’m actually happy and in a good place you know. life is what it is. I can only control my reactions and that’s all I do. and I won’t give the power to someone else by letting them control my life through pain. I moved forward and just you know living my life.. Happiness is a choice I feel. and Im choosing to be happy wit myself and if I find someone else to share that wit then cool and I will. sides I’m enjoying meeting new ppl, talking, flirting going on dates and not having that attachment

    starlight
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    Lol yea never say never right but I hear you.. that’s good that you’re feeling better and thinking this way! yea you definitely dnt want someone who is confused.. that’s what I say… relationships suck tho lol that’s been my thoughts recently I love being in them but the pain when it doesn’t wrk idk lol makes mii questions if it’s worth it… your cam feel like it’s going good and then the break up with you. or the say the best thing ever and nxt day end it

    in reply to: Things were going well but now I'm confused all over again #60200
    starlight
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    ohh ok I was wondering if they knew anything. . how have you been

    starlight
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    have you been talkin with his friends

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    I completely feel you.. he wasn’t gonna tell her.. she found out I don’t know exactly what she knows but at this point I told myself it’s none of my business anymore I’m moving on and thankful I don’t have to deal with all of that. that’s not wat I want from my significant other and I was being foolish so Im glad he gave mii the slap I needed to open my eyes cause he clearly isn’t well to treat someone you say you love like that and have that kinds situation going on like we are kids.. I want to grow and learn and I didn’t I knew wat was right and now I suffering the consequences but I not gonna mope and make bad decisions anymore.. I don’t think either of our exs understand that. they don’t seem to deal with stress and failures like an adult. it’s sad cause they are causing more pain and hurt to these poor girls and I guess I can’t blame the girls for believing the lies I did.. lol but I’m really glad you are doing a bit better! he definitely is running away sounds like alot happened in the past year for him and he is confused about alot of things but isn’t handling things properly like you said taking time to himself and figuring what steps to take and what to do to achieve his dream.. I dnt know of you agree but it sounds like he can’t be alone, he needs someone.. that’s how my ex is. he acts like he can but he doesnt want to be alone and needs to be with someone when that is his problem… but it’s funny cause being with someone doesn’t mean you stirrer lonely and he is. he pretty much told mii… but mm I know Its not to late for them to learn and see the truth. It’s great that his friends don’t like her and if they think that, then there’s a reason and he’ll see it soon too guess they are both using each other…

    starlight
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    exactly… he needs to start new take some time away from everything… that’s wat I said with my ex that any relationship right now will most likely fail but I was like is it cause he didn’t stay wit mii . she found out the lies but clearly is still stay wit him so who knows they could make it. either way I just force myself to move on and stop playing out scenarios… it doesn’t help cause its not certain.. wats certain is now and what’s happening and how I can just live day by day and get my life back on track…. so just be strong go back to doing you. take as long as you need to get the energy to carry on. and when you find that strength just hold on to it.. everything happens for. reason..

    starlight
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    well she is an ex so it could b serious.. this could b their getting back together they were together for a while.. they are probably giving them a try it could or could not work which is the same with you guys. . I honestly think he just needs to be by himself and figure his life out then see who he still has feelings for and choose.. he was playing both of you.. that’s why I say don’t have expectations . but wish him well. . she might end up saying no then you find someone else and he losses who kn I was just focus on you tho. I kno the feeling but because of my job I don’t. . I only do that on weekends. Im thinking of going to a puppy barn… heard it makes ppl feel better lol

    in reply to: Why did she change so drastically after the breakup #60061
    starlight
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    you’re frontal lobe isn’t fully developed till age 25. you can changed drastically till then.. however I think she is just living her life she is 19.. still a teenager she is having fun.. getting it out of her system.. you just gotta let her and hopefully she comes back

    in reply to: Things were going well but now I'm confused all over again #60056
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    I know… wat you said thinking that she might have the life with him that you wanted.. mm couldn’t have said it better because that’s honestly the worst thought. and everytime I think that I regress and I’m crying again. don’t think that once that’s happening think of something else that can block that. I think of the fact that I love him and want him happy so if she is that then okay. I think of the fact that I want to be happy too and if he can’t make mii happy then I can’t be sad. I think of my future with kids a good life and my amazing half whoever he is and how Ill still b happy. I know I’ll move forward. I can’t stay down. you can’t stay down. I gave myself one night and cried my freaking heart out. never have I done that and before I fell asleep I said to myself no more tears or crying on this subject none. that’s it lol happy thoughts.. and I tear up from time to time but I try to distract myself.. I have my low times but I try to distract myself but I do not cry at all no more. I go on dates.. I chat with ppl and dress up lol be strong laur.. I know how hard if you have email or what’app we can talk and keep each other focused and rely on each other.. it’s hard to talk to my friends.. I figured they are tired of hearing it and I don’t want to keep bringing them down

    in reply to: Things were going well but now I'm confused all over again #60046
    starlight
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    you don’t have too. take your time I can definitely empathize.. b strong that’s all I can tell you. .. it hurts but as time goes by it will get better.. if you guys are meant to b it will happen but don’t give up on finding someone and sharing your happiness with that special someone

    in reply to: Should I ignore messages from my ex saying they miss me? #60021
    starlight
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    how long were you guys together for. . if you don’t want to go on a date then don’t. but just make decisions that are good for you not for anyone else.. who broke up with who? if he does I wouldn’t text bak but if he texts again I would just tell him to give mii some space and if the feeling is mutual then say the felony is mutual but still need space

    starlight
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    honestly I’ve asked my myself so many questions on why he would do this and do that and say this and say that. and I can’t come up wit anything. in my case I think he is confused and I think that might be the case for you too… and they are in a funk trying to get their life bak on track… but I told myself I have to move forward. I hate not being part of his life ND he not being part of mine and not being there for him but honestly it seems like it’s what I have to do.. what’s right for both of us.. if Thera ever gonna b a chance then I have to let go it’s soooooo hard but whether or not I beg if we won’t b we won’t b. so I’d rather let go now while I don’t hate him than keep being and trying till we hate each other.. I also have to live for mii . you know so I know how hard it is. but just try to let go and move forward. I decided to date and see what I would want if we ever try again and I sometimes more wat I will tell him and expect from him before I even consider a friendship.. I know they are trying to keep us for the end for when they are ready to settle down but I’m not gonna wait for anyone who can’t pik mii. if he ever wants a chance then he has to prove his loves mii.. like you said if you loved someone then it nothing else would stop you and it would b easy.. don’t pik mii for the future pik mii for today, tomorrow and forever. . and if you can’t I know for a fact there’s someone else who will. I love him more than any of my other exs but before him I never thought I could love anyone like I loved my other ex. so it’s hard to imagine I can loveb anyone else more but maybe I can. . maybe I can’t and so then we’ll make it bak. if there’s something he can do while we aren’t together then I didn’t unconditionally love him and he didn’t love mii unconditionally either to not hurt min in such a way which still means we just weren’t meant to b you know.. it’s hard tho move forward. I’m just waiting till I completely move forward just wanna fast forward 5 yrs.. wish you lived in my state so we can chill and just hang abs sometimes lol cry about shitty ex wit issues lol although I don’t know if you actually do lol cause I don’t know where you live you mentioned ny for his ex. I live in the tri state area tho lol

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