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@qazwsxedcrfv
That is really good advice!:) i really need my confidance back. And you are right about not puting up with no BS from anyone.
Thank you so much.:)Haha i know how you feel. After 3 months i am still hoping he will come back. No contact didnt really help me get him back to be honest. But i had emotional breakdown so i had to do it or else i would end up in some mental institution. Joke. I literally watched my phone every seconde for a month. I never did that when we were together. It wasnt healthy. I am not proud of it but this is the truth.
with every relationship is diferent. I was so confident we will get back together and was in shock when that wasnt the case. He was the most perfect boyfriend Ever. Told me i was the girl of his dreams, the One…. So he had me fooled for two years, so i went mental when he changed. There was no other option for me besides no contact. Maybe it is diferent for you and your ex.i think that no contact is ment for us, not our ex. it cant bring them back.
So if you feel you are ok with you two being friends for now it’s ok. Just be careful. You have to change how you act around him. Dont show any afection what so ever. Do NC every now and then for a few days. Dont always be there for him. dont be his safety net.:)i wish you all the best.:) good luck
@qazwsxedcrfv
Thank you for your reply.
you are so nice. Your comment really made me laugh.:)
No, even before my relationship i havent been on many dates. i am completely lost. I guess it would be easier for me to meet someone new, thats why i want to date in the first place. It sounds so easy when you say go talk to the cute guy. haha. i feel anxious just thinking about it. my ex really took my confidence away from me. i will try to do as you say And hopefully i will start dating soon. i really cant stand being so weak because of one person, i feel like i have to show him i am ok without him.🙂
@newhavennick
thank you for your reply.
yes i know what you mean. I just messaged him today. We talked for about an hour. It was casual. we didnt say anything mean. i told him why i was angry before. But it feels like he is avoiding the conversation about us. He just wont talk to me about us. He is not bothered by no contact at all. He is busy, he says. He just doesnt care anymore.Before no contact i tried everything to fix us. i told him everything. That i regret, i explained why i did it in the first place. I apologized. I did everything i could, and he was mean. he said i have to respect his decision. And that’s it. He is not bothered that we dont talk, i think he is fine. I told him numerous times that i care, that i love him, that i didnt really ment to breake up. he said that i dont have to say it over and over again, because he knows how i feel. So no, it is not that. I think he simply doesnt care.
he use to be so emotional with me. The thing he said, promised.
I remember what he said to me when we were still together., that when we break up he will be mean to me, because it will be easier for me to move on. And he really did everything he said he would. He told me he doesnt love me anymore.:(i lost all hope. i feel like i have to walk away for good. He is destroying me. when he broke up with me, he told me maybe we will have a chance 1 year from now or 5 years. he was so confident that he can win me back when he wishes. he was such a jerk about it. When we were in relationship he was never like that. he was so much more emotional than me. I feel like he closed his heart and doesnt feel anything anymore.:(
I cant live like this. This false hope and no contact… nothing really works. He has to be the one to come to me now. And he wont.thank you so much for your support. any advice is welcome.:)
Hi.:)
i felt exactly you do know. I was scared to do NC, because of the same reasons. I think there is no right or wrong here. He wont move on in just one month Of NC. my advice is to do exactly what you want to do. what feels right to you. you will feel better if you know you have done everything you could for your relationship. If that doesnt work do the NC.
But i am so sorry to tell you this, if someone breaks up with you it will never be the same. if he takes you back, you will feel different. you will always knew that he broke up with you and that he can do it again. this is what i have learned.In my opinion: If you are still in love with him and he is trying to move on, i think it is better to give him some space. Give yourself some space. i know with my ex, i was the only one that could persuade him into something. He is stubborn as hell. But when it came to us i couldnt do anything. When someone decides to break up it’s done in my opinion. There is nothing you can do about it.
If you want him back, he has to want it too. He has to come to this conclusion, not just you. i know it hurs. I know the waiting is so painfull. But it will get better.
so if you feel you are strong enough to be in contact with him, dont do the NC. If that means you will constantly wait by the phone for his text, call and get upset when he doesnt have time for you … you are not ready to see or talk to him. No good will come from it. You will be more and more upset.
I hope all the best for you. good luck. I hope all works out for you.
@qazwsxedcrfv
Thank you for your time.:) i am so happy when i see someone’s reply.Well i guess i dont know how to put myself out there. Haha. I should have known that by now. Most of the days i spend in school or at dance practice or hanging out with my friends. it’s not like i am anti-social, but i dont go out at night anymore. I dont like it anymore and also I am afraid i will saw my ex flirting with someone else. It’s still all about him.
I am at school that has 200 students in my year and only 10 girls. There and so many boys and none will ever ask me out. in 3 years none did. I dont know what the problem is. I honestly dont know how to date. like you said i dont feel confident and i am a bit shy. So yes i tried everything but dating, the hair the clothes. dating is just something i dont how to do. it’s embarrassing really.I was really inspired by your story with kyle. I hope that with time i will see that there are other people out there for me. I am happy for you.
@newheavennick
thank you so much for your feedback. yes i tried a few weeks ago. after 35 days of No contact. I added him back on fb. He didnt start conversation. I waited a few days then i started the conversation. It was bad. I wish i havent done that. he seemed nice, he was ill and he was the one to end the conversation after just a few minutes. I got really upset. after all this time and he didnt show any sign he wants to talk to me.
i wrote him a long message on fb. it wasnt a mean one, But he didnt like it. He wrote back and said some horrible things. He was angry. I didnt reply. i deleted him on fb again. after a while he wrote back that he is sorry for the mean words, and that he does care and it makes him angry that i think he doesnt. after a day or two he added me back on fb. We havent talked since.. I feel like he should be the one now. I dont want to be the crazy stalker girl who doesnt get the clue to move on. What do you think? did he move on? Is it hopeless? What else can i do, because everytime we talk he is angry and then i am angry and i’m tired of that. I dont want to be angry anymore.:(Thank you so much.:)
Thank you so much for your feedback!:)
The thing is that my ex has to work 10 to 12 hours per day at the moment so he can pay for college next year… he is tired all the time and probably doesnt even have time to miss me or think about me… im a bit sceptical that no contact will work in my case.
I wrote about my break up on the board: he is the one
Any comment what so ever is very welcome.:)Thank you, good luck to you too.:)
Oh last conversation was awful. We talked on the phone. He said to me that he doesnt know what to do about us. I was trying to convince him that he should give us a second chance. He said he loved me but that he feels that we cannot go back. Once it is done is done. He said he needs time and that he doesnt want to give me false hope and that i should just move on and we can be friends when im ready. At first he said he will call me the next day, but i got really upset by all his words and started to cry so he said he wount call me because he doesnt want to torture me like this anymore. And then i just hung up. 🙁
He still cares about me but i dont know… im afraid that he wont contact me again.
I really dont know what to do. I know i should give him time but im afraid we will just become more and more distant.:(
