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Well, in my opinion it could just be usual contact to check out, or may be she is trying to initiate. I would suggest that if all going well with you and if you can handle it – just start being casual with her and you may reply with short messages without explaining too much, without talking about relationship and staying and looking positive. Do not share more details, stay friendly but more like acquaintances and let her take initiatives with times. I believe that could be best way for you as of now.

You are doing great in my opinion if you are working on yourself and improving things for self, and it is all working in your favor. I would suggest you to continue doing same, clearly she is confused – hot and cold which mean she wants to get back but will need time to be clear on this. Let her initiate things and stay as good friend for a while, without thinking much about relationship for the moment. This is called limited contact and it would be helpful for her to realize what she is missing, as long as you are happier for yourself and can look confident and positive. Have patience as it is worth of really and wait a while, it all going to be good for you. Hope this could help and post if you have further questions, good luck.

I am glad it helped, and you are doing great. This fear is normal too. It may sound weird but what I feel that once you let her go, let the thoughts of whether she will come or not should go along as well. Truth is, she will return but for now shouldn’t worry about it because purpose of NC is to focus on self and we are doing that to become much better than we have been during emotional breakdown, for benefit of all. Agreed, sometimes the sadness occur given possibility of she may won’t return (I highly doubt that, personally I have seen exes making contact at a point if we can do strict NC, always!!) but it’s us to deal with this thought or sadness, either to stick to it and drowning ourselves or let this thought go away by remembering the reason behind and getting the focus back on ourselves.

If we are thinking positive, doing best we can and feeling good about what we are doing, there is no reason it won’t turn out good. Yes, we don’t know by when – may be a month, may be more but meanwhile why shouldn’t we just keep improving ourselves, and love life as it is. Leave worries behind, you are gonna have best times ahead.

Hey, you did well and you should continue NC. IMO you should let her initiate things once she contacts you. Personally I did the mistake that as soon as I got her, I started discussing about relationship and how much it mean for me and all that, and it just made things worst again. So lesson learnt is, let her contact, let her initiate things, and take everything VERYY slowly. Initially, avoid talking about relationships, give vague answers and be friend from your side for few weeks, and let her realize and work on reconciliation. After seeing your posts, it seems you have great chances and just keep working on yourself, of course best is about to happen. 🙂
Cheers, good luck!

Awesome. Now whatever happens just don’t loose focus else you will only feel pain later. Consider this period as your test and you have to anyhow accomplish it for yourself, for your life, and became like what mentioned above. Be determined, best wishes.

Oh well, it happens as during breakup or intense relationships you become emotional mess and do things you regret later, part of human nature. As suggested on this website, the real reason being no contact is to improve, be positive and be better human being though it seems difficult and impossible initially.

I would suggest you not to regret much for what you have done, even it was mistake. We are human and may behave odd given worse circumstances and being in rough emotional state, and regretting too much or getting into it will be of no help. The best thing we should do in such case to help ourselves, keep being better and positive about ourselves and life ahead. Who knows if you are best version of yourself, a happier one, you may wont even remember this phase after 10 years. Cheers and keep doing great for yourself. Good luck. 🙂

You did a mistake while being too much into emotions and it happens, you can’t reverse that and regretting it won’t help anyways so better you should relax now and try to focus on yourself. The purpose of NC is to take lot of time, clear your own mind, and be a happier and confident person, otherwise you would not be able to handle relationship.

Follow strict NC and if you can do that – there is always chance, even after worst happened. Believe me, I have seen that happening so I am no longer worried. Only thing you can do now is to do complete strict NC while forgetting about relationship and focusing on your happiness. Once its over, just stay totally friendly and let her initiate things. Hope it may help, good luck.

Hey you should just continue NC with acknowledging the need that focus should completely be on you and your happiness, for which you are responsible. What matters most is your being back in own life for the duration of NC and of course you are doing that for yourself. Its difficult but you should think of making things better for yourself without giving much thought to relationship for the moment. Of course hers is rebound and just give it time, do complete NC and when you feel the happiness and confidence within you will be much clear mind to decide and think or talk to her. Just be happier, do what makes you feel good without harm and stay in NC. It’s going to be easier with days!! Relax. 🙂