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I’m in love with him so much, and I know we ended on things we could’ve fixed. he suppressed whatever feelings he had for me by quickly getting a new girlfriend. I know him, he’d rather hide whatever feelings he has, stubbornly staying in denial for as long as needed, just to avoid getting hurt. I don’t want to lose him forever. we talked about marriage, even days before the stupid breakup. I’d love to have him back, so I can’t mess this up! every step to get him back needs to go well, or I might lose him.
it depends on the details of your relationship. now I’m not 100% sure, but it seems as if she does still have feelings for you, but the way you treated her is making her suppress it. give her time. definitely at least a month, if possible, a little longer. when the time is right and you do contact her, tread lightly, don’t get to deep, and just work slowly. most importantly, don’t ever take her for granted again. that’s why she feels she needs to suppress her feelings for you in the first place. I’m sure with the right timing and right planning, things will work out. you just need to be patient. love takes detours, and sometimes it takes a while to get back on track. don’t give up hope!
I know the “Hlad” makes me sound middle eastern lol I’m Slovakian actually, but I live next to New York, so EST. and yea, with his girlfriend, I’m hoping it’s just a rebound. although he did enjoy the physical aspect of our relationship, which was hard now because we were long distance for a bit, he’s also a really deep and sensitive person, and she doesn’t seem to be. I just hope it’s a rebound and when we talk he realizes you shouldn’t just hide your feelings so deeply and use another person. again, this is me just really hoping she’s a rebound, and I’m pretty sure she is.
1. 2 and a half years.
2. He brought it up and we kind of agreed it would be best to break it off for a while.
3. I didn’t beg or cry for him to come back, but I probably texted him a little too much.
4. I wish I knew. I truly do. I don’t understand how you could move on so quickly after such a long and loving relationship. Even after the breakup he said he’d love if later on down the road we could work it out again because he loved me. Then days later he’s with her and trying to tell me he never missed me, although to me it sounded more like he was trying to convince himself of that more than me.
5. I’m not so much showing off as much as I’m just trying to enjoy my life, even if the one I love isn’t in it. if I’m out with friends, I’ll snapchat it. if I take a good selfie, or make a good meal, or have a good picture of my pets or my friends and I, I’ll instagram it. if something made me laugh, I’ll Facebook it.yea, definitely pictures of you with attractive girls. also do completely new things, like pick up new hobbies or go out doing an activity, that she would never expect you to do. surprise her about how diverse you are. also, if there were any specific special places you went with her or things you did, definitely post that. for instance, my ex and i loved going out to eat sushi. it was our specific thing we did, our special bonding time. so of course, i posted a picture of me and another guy out to eat sushi. so stuff along those lines. best of luck!
I think the way she’s acting, and how she hid the cheating, and is now acting like this towards you, even though youre the one with the right to be mad, not her, shes not worth it. i personally think you should move on. but if you really want to try again, you need to start and commit to NC, no matter how hard it is.
of course! just realize it’s going to be hard and painful, but it’s for the best. always look towards the goal!
That makes sense, thank you! So showing that his new girlfriend doesn’t phase me will probably catch him off guard? I’ve also improved my physical appearance a lot since we last saw each other two months ago, working out and eating a lot healthier, so I look 10x better than when he last saw me. Since our breakup I had been updating my social media accounts a bit more frequently (always happy, never showing any signs of missing him at all), my favorite one being my snapchat story, because you can see who looks at it. He had looked at mine every single day, until one day I went to the city with a really close guy friend of mine. My friend is like a brother to me, we would never see each other romantically, but in my snapchat story it showed we were out to eat, shopping, and just walking around enjoying the city. After my ex looked at those snapchats, he hasn’t looked at them since. I’m guessing it made him jealous and he misses me? Or am I being hopeful? I mean, we dated for two and a half years, and he’s been with his new girlfriend for about a month, and he started hooking up with her only a few weeks after our breakup. it seemed to me that the entire relationship was built on physical pleasure last I talked to him (a month ago), but they’re still together, which has me a little worried and upset understandably. So i guess in a nutshell what I’m asking is, is his new relationship a rebound, and does he probably miss me? is NC working?
Wait to contact her for what I would think no less than at least 60 days. It was a long term relationship, and you never really gave any time between the breakup and you contacting her. She seems that she is really angry and confused and just needs time. I know it’s hard, it’s been hell for me, but you need to follow through with it. And whenever you do talk to her, don’t go into deep conversations about feelings and stuff. keep it lighthearted, as if you were just talking to a friend. Again, I know it’s really really hard, but you need to complete NC first, and then, and only then, contact her, lightheartedly, using the advice on this website. hopefully all will go well!
like what if he tries to bring up his new girlfriend to make me jealous or something? how should I respond?
that makes sense and makes me a little less nervous about this whole thing, thank you! but another big worry I have is what if he brings up his new girlfriend or our breakup? how should I handle it?
this is so encouraging! thank you! hopefully when we see each other I’ll be able to continue doing well, to further my progress. Hopefully I’m able to at least succeed in making him miss me more than he wants to be with his new rebound girl. Any ideas on how to make him miss me a little more when I see him?
I’m just guessing here, so don’t take it as fact, but I think he definitely does miss you. he’s just trying so hard not to, and he knows seeing you in person would make him miss you more. he probably is trying to make it where he can’t get back those feelings he once had for you, because he feels like he’d be weak or a pushover if he came back. that’s how guys are. don’t push him, just subtly and every so often pop back into his life to say hi or whatnot so he has no chance to forget you. but make sure you have a long enough period of no contact first.
