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@leidy1000 & @Patricia12 I didn’t delete it. Im not sure what happened lol, i will post ot again once i get home! You guys are great! Thanks for the support. I hope you’re both doing well.
You are both right @patricia12 and @leidy1000. In all honesty this was on average a mediocre relationship but is not like i can say that I have had any one that was really worth it and while i know this is i guess a good for experience i most of the time wonder if it’s something im doing wrong but i can’t think of anything, all relationships I have put 110% from my side, expecting the other person to do the same of course and I have yet to find a person that is gonna go all in for me and it might sound crazy cause Im only 23, but I just wonder what in the world is it that Makes me look like im not long term material. Last two guys I dated basically both said I was great and deserved someone as unconditional as myself and i call bullshit on that cause who the hell wants to let go of something so great? But you know this is the kind of thing that makes me wonder what is so wrong with me?
My dad has being diagnosed with prostate cancer and this, along with some school decisions I was making were the things this guy decided to break up with me for, stating that he really didn’t want to be in such a serious relationship and it hurts me to think that if it was the other way around I would’ve stuck by him regardless of these facts.
Thank you both for your time, I really approciate both of you!
You’ve been amazing! @patricia12 . After seeing a post on social media that sort of suggested he might be dating someone else already, I have blocked him. I have a lot other things to worry about like school and my father being sick, I still think about him unfortunately and creating scenarios in my head that I seem not to be able to stop.
This is kind if odd… please don’t panick, your ex might need some time to also deal with the break up and gain some perspective. Give it a little time, wait for them to reply and I guess if that doesn’t happen you know where you stand. Be patient. Good luck!
Oh so you didn’t break it?
Proceed with caution. I think maybe not giving this person all your attention right away, show them that the time away made you find yourself, and if you decide to get together and talk take it slow. Make sure that this is really what you want.
How long were you NC? Either way I think finishing your NC and gaining yourself back and then considering talking to her might be a better bet
I have started to freak out a bit about him unfriending me, it looks as if the reason he did it was me ignoring his msg asking whether or not I got my things but posting pictures with my friends in snapchat. We had a similar situation before and he didn’t address it by deleting me from his friend list. I have not reacted, that he knows of, to any of it. I sure don’t feel good about it and it’s really messing with me.
Realized now that He had messaged me asking if i got my things back a few days ago but I never replied.
Update: Had a busy weekend. Got dolled up, went to the party, posted pictures with my friends got a little drunk. Sunday I had dinner with one of my closest friends and her SO, also had a great time, posted a few pictures on Snapchat. My ex saw everything a posted, including someonthing I posted this morning. He proceeded to delete me from all his social meadia. Im unsure of how I feel about it, im not sad about it… a little shocked… im not sure how to describe it?
That is true!
Also I have noticed he has been posting a lot more on snapchat than he usually did, so I muted him so that his story would not pop up every time he posted something. Is the his being more active on social media tied to his own healing process or is henposting thinking I would react to something he posts?
Definitely go NC, remember, however, that this is a period for you to work on yourself thats should be your priotity, NOT getting him back. Good luck! What I did was also deactivate some my social media or simply reduced the usage. Try something else to invest your time and energy on! Smile! Again, Good luck!
Thank you so much you have great advice! I decided to go watch a movie with a coworker tonight as well.
It’s hard because I am who I am and that’s not something that I could change, it makes me feel so small, however, that people could simply judge based on where one comes from and not on things one has done to improve their life. This is something that has deeply messed me up and probably a big downfall for this relationship since we for the most part had the very similar views on many subjects, just different upbringings.
Thank you for your time btw @patricia12, Im planning not to bug my friends with this anymore bc one of my closest friends has a very “get-over-it attitude” that makes me feel like I really have no right to feel the way I feel or something.
@Patricia12, thank you for your reply I believe your right and I think that’s what’s going to happen but it has been hard for me not to picture my future with this guy. I was planning to block him on social media, and instead I reduce my usage of it because I don’t want him to think that Im doing it out of anger or because he has that power over me. Also since I asked him for my things back, I got a box with everything yesterday.
It’s been about three weeks now from the day we broke up and I’m still really depressed about it, i have kind of isolated myself and spend most of my free time alone in my apartament. Im going out for the first time tomorrow to a coworker’s birthday party. Do you guys have any tips on how to get out there?
