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Dear LaBound,

Hope you are doing well ! you seem to be a very confident person 🙂 I wonder if I can ever be that way ! I would like to. My ex and i are both 24, and I guess somehow immature. your advice helped me a lot. i was really depressed when i last commented. now i am better. happier. in the last few days, i have been trying to keep myself busy and happy. meanwhile in 3 days of not talking my ex came to meet me at 2 in the night and said he cannot stay without me, i ended up crying and punching him like a stupid 3 year old. he was laughing and trying to contain me all at once. wen we were both relaxed, i asked for some time. to be honest, i am not sure i can trust him anymore. you can love a person like anything, yet a broken trust is so hard to mend. i am taking that time out.last 2-3 days, he has been trying too. we both falter a lot. we both fail. we both are a lot impatient. but i guess he is starting to try to make time, and i am trying to be less aggressive in approaching the issue. lets see how it turns up. if it works out, i will be a lucky girl. if not, i will be very sad but in time learn to be happy again. your story is an inspiration 🙂 thanks !

I need some advice. My ex and I didn’t have a long affair but a beautiful one. He was the most amazing guy I met. And he told me he had never felt this way about anyone in his entire life and wanted to marry me someday. We were best friends, and soulmates and passionate lovers. Suddenly his workload increased, I guess but more than anything, his interest in me took a down curve. I cared the same way, and needed some support and affection in the period I lost my job and he felt i was needy and clingy i felt terrible because he never seemed to be emotionally available for me,rarely tested or called and never seemed to want hang out. after a lot of fights, we are in an on and off stage. he confesses he loves me and cannot cut off ties with me, and must at least be my friend, and i told him that wouldnt be possible. i love him too much to be friends. ever since things have been turbulant. when i love him he is nonchalant and wen i try to drift, he does stupid boyish things to get me to talk. lately i decided i was done with this. our fights have always been about him never having time for me but having time for all else. after our last fight yesterday, i have started no contact with him. i dont take his calls or reply to his messages. being highly egoistic he doesnt do either much. today he tried talking to me in an event where we both were present, thrice. i politely reminded him of his word yesterday and told him i didnt want to speak to him. this has pissed him off. am i doing the right thing?

Frankly, sometimes I think people should deal with each others problems instead of our own 🙁 would be simpler without the emotional involvement. I want to advice something which is going to sound selfish . Was he thinking of your problems and what you would be going through when he broke up with you? He should have thought of the transportation thing beforehand ! and rest of the things ! and he should not be expecting you to step up and help on those after he hurt you … everything has repercussions. I know you are hurting a lot. I can’t tell you it will be okay, because I am suffering more everyday, all I can say is, you will get used to it after a while. NC is a good idea here. If he has genuine feelings for you, I pray and hope he finds his way back to you . Keep the chin up 🙂 Keep believing !