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What I noticed was when I asked her try again and she had/ has ignored me. The day after she liked one of my posts then she went into posting overload. She even put up videos of her sounding very cheery and upbeat, extremely happy. I hope you are right about patience. I’ll be honest I feel lost. I know there is nothing I can do but I am definitely not going to message her again. Some of her pictures or status updates are of things that we used to talk or joke about etc BUT of course my mind is in a state of overthinking so it could be and probably is nothing!
That’s comforting to think she at least might be thinking of me.
It’s funny you should say about posting pictures, she yesterday posted a lot up on her profile about what she has been doing this week/ places she’s been too.
I think I am that emotionally tired now nothing phases me. I still miss her and get anxiety of wanting her back quite a lot. But I’m used to it now.If I knew what I have learnt since we have broken up I definitely would of gone about things differently, but that’s life I guess.
One thing I have noticed and I could all be coincidence of course, is that when I come ‘online’ a lot of the time she goes ‘offline’ I’m not sure why this would be probably nothing at all just something I have noticed.
I also fear that the longer this goes on the les likely she is to reach out? Like she would be embarrassed too or feel awkward after so much time has gone.
Thanks. I hope she does think about me from time to time, but who knows.
We had a great relationship ..it just fell away at the end. I tired to fix it but she didn’t seem keen. As usual after the break up you start to reflect on how you behaved. I definitely last year lost a bit of my confidence. I stopped being the ‘man’ I used to be. And when she started pulling away, I started to chase. All wrong things to do I realise now. Funny how emotions get hold of you, when you fear of losing something….I lost her anyway. Each day I feel better and better. I’m still not fully right and don’t think I will be for a while, but I’m getting out, concentrating on work and trying to keep myself occupied. I hope one day she will reach out. And I hope she starts to miss me. We planed a holiday this year and I even bought tickets for a weekend away. All of which I did in an attempt to get us going again.Thanks for your help Seth. I thought it is very quick to move on if she has, but I think she wanted out for a while just never told me..I don’t know…assuming. I have put my pic as just me. She appears to be just getting on, I honestly think she doesn’t really care. Maybe she can get on after two months. I certainly can’t but maybe I liked her more than she liked me at the end. When imasked tot ry again her saying she doesn’t know and can’t give an answer was a polite way of telling me to leave her alone…hence why she has ignored my message.
Thankyou. I do look at her page, but I’m trying not to read into things too much.
I just get a ‘gut feeling’ she has met someone else. I have no proof but I just feel it. Nothing I can obviously but I’d be gutted if she can move on after two months. I certainly need to find myself again.
My biggest ‘why?’ Is why she hasn’t read my last message. She has left it unopened for over two weeks. I know she in no way has to read it or open it, I just find it odd. And a little upsetting that I’ve almost been dismissed after everything we did together. I saw a future with this girl, but things got messy, communication was pooor and ulti think that is what caused our break up. When I tired to talk in person, she would tell to just ‘not to worry’.I hope you’re right in terms of she will get in touch. I had to tell her i care for her and wish we could try again. I won’t block her, couldn’t do that. She still has pic she of me on her profiles, as do I. She even posts pics still and gifts I bought her are in the background so it’s nice she hasn’t tossed them all away! When I asked to try again I told her I understand and told it’s no problem (that she doesn’t know) I’m not the type to message everyday begging. She hasn’t replied or even read my message for over two weeks now. I’m going to assume she has gone, carry on as best I can, after all she doesn’t know how I’m feeling deep down, the anxiety everyday of missing her, but she doesn’t need to know. In all honesty as much as I want her back and for us to re build what we had, if she is happy without me, then I am happy for her. I will always love her and I will prey one days she does get in touch.
Thanks for the replies. We were together for three years. A long time. We had really good times together. I haven’t text her since she has ignored my last message. Since breaking up I have contacted three times. She has contacted me also twice.
She has liked a couple of my social media posts. And I have liked a couple of hers.
She has an important event coming up soon, which I was going to be involved in but now obviously not. I was going to wish her luck with it. Not message her but through a status on social media. Should I?
I have been keeping quiet on social media and posting the odd picture of places I’ve been and what I’m up to.Do you think by telling her I care for her and I would like to try again has blown my chances? If their ever was any. Maybe she is keeping me on the hook. I won’t be taken for a mug though, I genuinely love this girl but if she is doing that then she’s not the person I thought she was.
