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Lee brads I hope you feel better soon man!

Thanks Seth I fully understand what you are saying. She is looking for attention and validation, I keep having ups and downs, but I’m staying strong.

I’m so pleased I’ve managed o not contact for this long, it’s been tough but I realise this is the only way to get her back if I ever have a chance. The hardest thing is not knowing whatbshe is thinking but that isn’t something I can control. Trying my best to continue moving forward!

Also, if you say she may be waiting for me to chase…should I? What if we are both waiting for each other to get in touch first. I suppose because I was the last to message and she has ignored that she needs to be the one to initiate?

I hope she does start to miss me. It’s obviously not enough to contact me yet. My message is still unread and ignored. It’s been over 4 weeks now. I wonder about her everyday, I can feel her drifting away now, and my feelings lessening but I can still hope one day she will get in touch. I may eventually myself send her a message but when I feel I have nothing to lose and know my feelings won’t get hurt. And if I also know she isn’t seeing someone else. It’s coming up to three months since we broke now.
The dog picture may well be a reminder for her. It’s funny how it was kinky that one and the dog is the spitting image of mine.
I’m not angry at her for this but I do feel a little bit disrespected that she has blatantly ignored me a month. I know o certainly wouldn’t do that for her. I think she lost all respect and feelings for me in the end.

Thanks Seth and I appreciate all your help. She definitely knows where to find me. I’m going to post things, I have a business page which she sees and she can see I have grown that. I still think maybe is another guy but I don’t have any proof so I can’t say she is. I guess sometimes you just get a feeling. Of course I understand my feelings are all over the place right now. I’m just going to continue doing what I’m doing. She knows how I feel/ felt and she has to come to me, I’m content with not speaking to her again now. I agree people can’t just walk away. Three years is a long time and we shared lots of memeories together.
I understand now from doing a lot of reading up and videos etc that usually what you think is right ( trying to talk to them, tell them you’ve changed etc) just falls on deaf ears. You do the opposite which has been your advice from the start so thanks.

Well I think she is seeing someone. I can’t believe it and I’m so upset I’ll be honest. I’m absolutely heartbroken 😭 imagining them together is just horrible. I don’t know what to do!
Anxiety is through the roof right now. I’ve been walking for hours and it’s not helping.

Thanks, I’m proud of myself by not trying to talk to her. Beleive me I’ve had moments I want nothing more. but then I try to think..she has ignored me for three weeks so why should I message her again.
Deep down I know other girls are out there and ones that won’t ignore me but I need to get over the love for my ex first. It would be unfair on another girl if I am still longing for my ex. I certainly wouldn’t like it. I need to find myself first. Unfortunately I’ve come to admit to myself I don’t think she’s coming back. At least I’m not going to try anyway. I’ve done enough, she knows where I am. And no contact will help me hopefully get I’ve really her to the point I feel nothing.
I’d love to get to a point where I feel balanced out and no longer waking in the middle of the night, dreaming about her, anxiety feelings all day every day, feeling like rubbish, wok define what she is doing. All this is not healthy for me.

Thanks Seth. I don’t have any prof she is seeing someone..just a hunch. Her big event is today. I’m really pleased with myself I have stayed away and wished her luck. Today will be difficult for me because I was going to be involved too. But I have other plans.
With you saying a rebound may help my chances. What if she mentally left the relationship months before we broke up? As in she mightnof been completely over me before we broke anyway?

Thanks. I’m concentrating a lot on my work now, something I failed to do when we were together. I post that online on and when we last spoke she said it looks like you’re doing well, so she obviously sees them. Even if she doe still like anything lol. I’d say she’s done a few things out of character but the hardest part is not knowing what she is truly thinking. It will be just time now I guess. Sometimes I get the urge to just message her and make things right again but I know that just doesn’t help. I won’t be contacting now. Like you say she has to feel loss. I’m visiting new places, walking etc and posting the odd pics on social media. I’m not doing too much because I don’t want it to look out of the ordinary.