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That is a tricky question I personally don;t think you can ever truly be trapped there, if you feel it’s gone to far and there is no sort of relastionship development then maybe be clear, say you can’t handle being just friends and the time oyu spent together as friends has made realise that. That’s all I can really think of, then maybe do NC, if you really were good friends she will miss you and maybe come reconsider the relationship.
And yea I think it is up to your better judgement to determin all this stuff, give it time and if you have relastionship rewind follow the steps in that it is 3 seperate PDF documents which I used combined with this, just be careful about how you obtain it.
I honestly don’t know how long it should last or anything. But the point of it is that you tell you that you accept her/his choice, say something like you agree that it was the right thing to do in the long run and that you respect the fact it was a ahrd choice. Establish a false friendship so your ex can let their guard down and not worry about feeling emtoionally attachted to you essentially.
i got to day 6 and broke it but Im back on track so it’s still a ways off for me I can’t imagine the pressure frankly, just act confident and that you’re happy without her and that you’re all new! LA 2.0
Ahahaha! I was thinking that! I have an aftershave I used to use for the first 2 years we were dating and in bliss, I stopped wearing it because i got new ones but i just ordered a new bottle for after NC ends thinking that it would be a good trigger.
Yes i got my e-mail today as well about not giving up, big help I’m looking forward to the rest
What a few people have done is mixed that with the advice from this website and i think combined you’re going to end up in a much better place regardless.
It is three steps broken down into four stages of the relationship during breakup, Bliss, Switch, Drift and deaths Doors, it runs through what to do at each stage, so if you’re in Bliss the best part, it will tell you how to keep it there or even how to improve it and tells you how to get from Death’s Door to and earlier stage or even back to Bliss.
If you look around you can find free samples of it on the web which I found useful as well. It tells you what to say, how to act and how to best go about making her/him feel close to you again. I wouldn’t call it a miracal book or anything and I frankly find Kevin a better choice for all this and the people on this site but if you can, it is good to try and find a preview you so you get a better idea and see if it’s for you.
Best tip I got so far was how to treat her like any other friend aespecially in groups and how it should effect her as she would of been used to years of me treating her special or paying extra attention to her. It seems simple looking at it now but in break up mode all I wanted to do was plead and beg and hope it worked. So all of this stuff is just something new and better to try and it does involve putting a lot of faith in these techniques
I didn’t get mine yesterday on the 06/07/14 where it was meant to tell me something special about my self. Made me sad man. They have been REALLY helpful actually and combining them with Rewind, I am just waiting to get to writing the letter, my ex loves hand written letters and in all those 5 years, I never sent her one : /
The way I see it is that nothing else has worked, you got nothing to lose by trying a method many seemed to of found helpful
As for number 8 I am going to get relationship rewind, my worry was the No contact rule where it suggests that NC isn’t the way to go. Kevin stated that relationship rewind it is recommended you use NC when you’re at something called deaths door but Kevin suggests it at all stages, I suppose it’s just different methods or ways of dealing with it, I am at day 3 of NC and it is starting to help me think better.
Although I am no expert. I haven’t got it yet as I don’t have my pay check yet hahaha
