DanielMc

Thank you, I try to be as well written as possible. I love to write and would love to do it as a hobby but I wouldn’t even know how to get started. Anyways, let us move on to your situation.

It seems to me, from what you say about his anger and the lashing out at you, that he may have some sort of anger problem. Or at least is constantly troubled by something that makes him stubborn when angered. Likely he doesn’t mean much of what he says. I’m similar in a way, if something came across to me the wrong way it built up inside of me and I let my pride overcome me. Even the stupidest little things. That is one of the biggest factors that I feel led to the downfall of my relationship. I was never an angry person but some things just lit a little fuse inside of me at times. I’m much better than that now, and I’m hoping that it will allow me to get my relationship back. But if he let his pride overwhelm him then as a guy it can be hard to come down from that. Sometimes going as far as to hurt the ones that we love, then immediately regretting it but not having the words to right the wrong. Thus, making you compensate by being extra kind when the situation has settled. It gives one a safe feeling as if what you did is no longer relevant. But even if you don’t think so, it can do long lasting damage to a relationship.

I was never abusive physically or verbally, I just let my silly temper and pride get in the way of the big picture at times. The same could go for him. But if you feel that it won’t get any better, then you would be trying to get back into an unhealthy relationship. He HAS to make a point to change or you shouldn’t even give him the time of day. Don’t shed a tear, don’t bring yourself down. But if he would change for you and become a better person just for you, and you really love him, fight for that relationship until it is fixed.

As for the extra phone number. That would make me feel sketchy and uncomfortable. As if he wanted a back up plan if you two didn’t work out. Or maybe he honestly meant no harm by still having it. There is no way to tell without digging deeper. If you two end up getting back together then that MUST go. If he deletes it and keeps it deleted then you know he is 100% focused on you and only you. Him getting rid of the extra phone number for good could be your sign that he has changed and wants only you in his life. If he does that along with treating you much better then I would say you two are on the right track.

I know a lot of what I say is for further down the road but just keep it in mind. For right now just be you and be successful in your life. Only contact him when you feel ready. And if the situation goes south then back up, take a breath, don’t lose your composure, and wait a little longer. Like I said previously, play off of what he gives you and use it to your advantage. Keep us updated too. I would love to hear of good things happening for you.