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Reading about ex’s wanting each other back really hurts me at the moment, but I’m very happy for you LAbound.
You should tread carefully on this one because it seems like you have trust issues with her. I would be worried too in all honesty about her going off with the other guy in question, so you should be weary of what she gets up to and how close they are.
My situation is that my ex and I broke up a week ago. Since, we have had no contact whatsoever. I literally went off the radar as soon as I got home from being dumped. I took her details off my phone and deleted photos, and then I (rashly) unfriended her off FaceBook. It was a year relationship and we had been busy organising this bike trip together which we were both very excited about.
I’m worried she’s forgotten about me, I’m worried that she never actually cared about me and I’m wondering if I’ll ever hear from her again.
I begged her only once, and that was on the day of the break up. I didn’t blow up her phone with texts and calls, or her email/FaceBook. I just walked away.
She told me she was just too overwhelmed with her studies/exams and just couldn’t handle all the pressure. She has 8 exams in the next 2 months. She does Maths at University and is in her final year.
I feel sick to the stomach right now … How can she just walk away from a year relationship that was as serious as ours??
Why on Earth is Kevin telling us to begin No Contact if Ryan Rivers (the guy who made relationship rewind) is telling us to not. Aren’t they supposed to be best pals or something?? What the hell?
If what you say is right, if she’s thinking about me she must be thinking about the break up most of all. It’s been a week, so the negatives a still going to be there, which means it’s a horrible time to contact her.
I hope she still cares for me, and this period of NC helps her focus on the best parts of our relationship.
We were meant to go on a bike trip a few days after the end of her exams. It hurts me that it’s not happening any more because it was something we were both very looking forward to … But since that’s not happening, it means she has a gap before she goes on a 2 week holiday with her family (which I was invited to) :/ … I think I’ll be Ok, well I hope so at least.
@Brokenhearted123, I don’t know why Kevin would be asking us to use NC to get our exs back of it’ll backfire.
Can you copy paste the part of Relationship Rewing that suggests NC won’t work?
@tg7188 … I do hope you’re right.
I intend to send her the letter after all her exams, in 2 months time.
I intend to apologise about how I acted during the break up and the nasty things I said.
She told me I was a great boyfriend and that I made her a better person. She didn’t say anything like “don’t contact me again” or whatever, but she told me instead “we won’t be talking for a while”.
I don’t want to become delusional or obsessed about this all, but like any of us do, I do hope.
@Oshi … I’ve been speaking with a therapist/counsellor about the issues between me and my ex, she has 20 years of experience with stress, anxiety and relationships, so I felt my issues were in good hands.
I told her my story from the very beginning (the break up).
She told me that she was almost certain that my GF is making these decisions rashly and without thought due to how stressed she is. The fact that she has severe anxiety only strengthens this fact.
Of course you can never be too sure about these things, but it seems likely.
I remember we had sex before the break up argument, and it was good, passionate sex.
But anyway, the break up itself could be blamed on myself, let me explain:
After we had sex, something happened that made me feel both very embarrassed and very angry. I took the anger out on my ex, which I obviously regret. I asked her “what do you want? Shall we just break up?” I was so rude to her.
She said she didn’t want to, but after a while of crying, she said “I think it’d best for the both of us”.
Anyway, I’m doing this 2 NC for me and I hope she comes round with the letter.
@amy11 … I’m almost certain that it was out of retaliation. I think he was jealous you were having and then used something that he knew would hurt you.
I think he still has residual feelings for, and whatever those feelings are you need to play your cards right from now on. I would suggest you act unbothered by it and happy, he’s expecting you to be hurt show him you’re not.
My ex and I broke up about a week ago. It’s been really hard on me, but Ive been NC since she ended it. I haven’t heard anything from her just yet, but I expect because A) the break up is fairly recent B) She’s extremely busy and “overwhelmed” by her fast approaching exams. She studies maths at University, she’s in her final year and has 8 exams in 2 months.
I think it’s safe to say I should go No Contact for the 2 months and then send the letter.
Please tell me what you think.
If you want to know more, please let me know!
I’m really envious of how all your relationships are starting to turn around, but of course I’m very happy for you.
I’ve been in NC with my ex for a week now, it’s strict NC so there hasn’t been any texts, calls, letters or emails since she ended it.
I feel a lot better than then first few days, but I am still overthinking what happened when she ended and the things I could’ve done better.
She’s under a lot of stress now with her University finals exams. She studies maths and has always complained how stressful it is. She has 8 exams in 2 months.
Anyway, I think she wants the space and is obviously very determined to succeed.
If you guys want to know anything more, please do ask and I’ll let you know. I do need to people to talk to 🙂
Wow.
You really, really need to back off with all the texts and emails. The hard reality is that you’re creaping ever so near to “Death’s Door” which is the point where your ex is trying to get read you through dramatic means. You’ll get a restraining order or something if you keep going.
What both of you seriously need is time and space, possibly a couple of months.
