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You guys need to stop doing this “30 day No Contact” shit … it’s useless and makes you look weak.
You need to move on. If your ex contacts you, good, you just need to organise a date …. if they don’t, they won’t ever.
First of all: NEVER LISTEN TO FRIENDS ABOUT WHAT TO DO
You should cut contact with your ex ASAP and let her reach out to you. When she does, let us know.
You’re acting REALLY needy, REALLY desperate and REALLY clingy and the moment … even I can see that.
@Lolita … if he tells you “I really want to be with you” tell him … “Well then show me” and leave and never turn back. This will cause a stir within him psychologically, I promise you that. If he doesn’t come, then it was fake and game playing … if he comes and makes an effort, then it was truly genuine.
That’s the advice I’d give, and probably how I’d handle that.
Answer mine please?
If you go no contact now, I’m sure she will.
When she does contact you, you NEED to follow this guide
https://exbackpermanently.com/win-your-ex-girlfriend-back/
He’s a great, straight to the point relationship coach that I’ve been following since my ex broke up with me 2 weeks ago.
My ex contacted me after 2 weeks, and it already feels like the ball is in my court, not hers.
Yes, what @Kaila said. Death’s Door seems to me to be the moment when your ex is actively trying to remove you from his/her life. i.e blocking you.
Drift is a stage where you might be broken up, but you’re still in contact, or he/she is open to contacting you.
Hey guys and girls,
A lot has changed since my last post.
My ex and I hadnt spoken for 2 weeks (since the break up), and then yesterday she sent me a text hoping I was Ok and telling me she had transferred some money to me.
I told her when we broke up that “if you ever change your mind, you know where to find me”.
What should I do?
@Brokenhearted123 … haha thanks 🙂 I’m definitely taking this as a good sign. She must be thinking about me and possibly our relationship/break up.
I think you should follow what I’ve done, i.e keep no contact, deal with your anxieties and then possibly your ex will contact you.
I’m just going to keep cool now … do you think I should remain NC till the month is over?
OMG my ex contacted me …
“Hey, hope you’re OK! I just transferred you the tent money, so you should be £80 richer. Hope uni is going well and you’re enjoying the sun!”
😀 😀
Does this look good??
@Brokenhearted123 … according to many, NC removes the negative traits your ex assimilates you with: i.e neediness, insecurity, etc … so yeah, NC can only do you good 🙂
But it’s up to you to stop yourself being needy if you guys get back together, because if you don’t, it’s likely you’ll break up again.
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I’m not too sure when they start, but I know they end on the 16th May.
I wish we were psychic, or at least could mind read, so then we’d know exactly what our exes were intending. I always hope what exes are saying/thinking is “Why hasn’t she/he called yet, I expected him to beg if she/he ever cared about the relationship”.
I think that’s what goes through their heads early on during the period of No Contact, then it goes to “I wonder why …” and that’s when the missing stage begins!
I think she’ll realise the massive void in her life, she has to … she can’t be over it after 2 weeks.
You’ve got to tell yourself that … there’s no way, if you had a long relationship, your ex is going to over you so quickly, no matter what people tell you.
I got the email from Kevin telling about the different stages: Breakup Pain Healing >>>> Bad Memories Healing >>>> Missing You Badly >>>> Moving On
I think she’s still in the break up pain healing, and so am I. 2 weeks or so from now she’ll be somewhere between bad memories and missing me badly … I’ll wait a couple of weeks and then send the letter.
… I think my ex is in the
@Brokenhearted123 … that’s the main reason why I think she might not contact me, because she’s just fully focused on her exams. When her head is cleared up of all this mess, I think she’ll be more open to speaking.
@Brokehearted123 … Good to hear from you 🙂
It’ll be 2 weeks tomorrow, so half through NC. I haven’t heard from her as of yet, but to be honest I’m not bothered if she doesn’t. I’ve got a good idea of what I’m going to write, so I’ll make drafts of it sooner rather than later.
@Lolita … asking your mum to talk to him about the break up and getting back together is probably the stupidest thing you can do: not only will it come off as extremely desperate, but you’re driving your boyfriend away quicker than a F1 car.
My mum joked about her calling my ex, but as soon as I said no she said “I’m glad you think so”.
The break up is between you two, don’t get friends involved and DON’T get family involved. Both are there to support you!
You’re thinking too much about him, have you sat down and thought about yourself since the first day of NC?
Been 13 days of NC so far … haven’t heard from my ex. I went NC as soon as we broke up, but I did beg at least twice when she ended it with me (I don’t know if that’ll affect my chances).
I went out last night with some friends for the hell of it … I had a good time, but I almost tried to contact her – luckily I didn’t.
I still wonder about her all the time, I constantly ask whether she’s thinking about me, whether she still loves me and also if she misses me and still cares.
Her FaceBook hasn’t changed since, apparently, but she has deleted a photo of me.
I guess that’s probably in retaliation of be un-friending her on there …. she hasn’t blocked me (yet) … maybe she’s keeping contact lines open(?)
I’ve already decided that I’m going to send her a letter, because I know it’ll shock her and possibly shock her emotionally. I’ll follow Kevin’s recommendation and tell her that I accept the break up, etc …
The only think I’m not sure about is whether to send it when this month is over … OR to send it after her exams in 2 months time??
Help!
