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I know you are tempted to call her …however, chances are things will go back to where they were before you started your NC. I personally believe , this girl is confused about why you do not keep chasing her and since you don’t , she wants attention and hence she has started pursuing you.I repeat what I have already said to others – people do not change overnight and neither has she. I know this hurts but I would leave her alone and try to rebuild my life with a woman who deserves me.
Once again Thanks a lot Laura and thanks for being there always.
Yes you are right she chose to leave me for her personal interest being so selfish so let her be on her decision.
Just to update you started classes for my longest dream to play Guitar. Helping me a lot and not the least you as well.well done on fulfilling your dream of taking guitar classes! It sounds great. You are on the right track to building a new, stronger and more confident you! Stay strong and good luck!
30th day of following NC completed today. Dont feel am going for her ever now nor she contacted me ever that shows it wasnt love ever hard to accept n overcome with pain but if someone dont give a value doesnt mean we are worthless. Writing here to share my pain which makes me comfortable. Heartiest Thanks to all who supported me here and helped me to stand on my own. Love u all
well-done on completing 30 days of NO CONTACT. I can feel that you are now getting stronger and more confident about yourself. You are on the right track to recovery and I am sure that one day you will meet someone amazing who deserves you. Good luck!
Yesterday she called me from a new number again and asked me not to put down.
Then she asked me to send her all songs which I sent in the past and dedicated to her as she has lost her mobile. I simply replied I will see if I get time to send those as am busy right now.
Is that the right approach for her or I should call her back or text her not to try to catch me or call me again. Any help or suggestion will be most helpful to build myself.Hi
In reality, you do not owe her anything. Her request may be genuine or she may use this as a way to check what’s going on and why you have been silent (obviously, she is intrigued about it and cannot understand why you do not keep chasing her). Let’s give her the benefit of the doubt and say her request is real. So if you want to send her what she asked for, do it in your own time. If you make it a priority and do it NOW, she will take it as a sign that she continues to have enormous power over you. You should avoid giving out that message.
Your answer to her request was good, in my opinion. Take a few days or a week from now and then send her the stuff. But keep it polite and very short – and if she tries to make further conversation, you can choose to not respond anymore and just keep moving on. I remind you, you owe her nothing at this stage.
Good luck with your recovery! You are doing amazing!Laura
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