To Facebook or not to Facebook?? Help please

I thought about and actually deleted my facebook today. I think it will create Some mystery and If hè is curious about YOU hè might reach out.
But most important it was to help me stop looking at her page zo i can improve myself easier

If you want to be on Facebook then be on it. Never mind what he is doing.

You’re not ready to reach out if these things are worrying you to be honest.

I wouldn’t put photos up just to make sure he sees them. Put them up because you want to put them up.

This seems to be a constant theme on this site. People have to learn to live for themselves and not for someone else.

i really agree with patrick. i don’t think theres really any way to get an ex back, but your best chance is to live life for YOU be, be happy, and when youre feeling confident and strong and like you don’t NEED your ex to be happy, you can reach out to see how he is.

i don’t think youre ready yet if youre still asking questions about your chances and how to increase them. i think you need to let go and live life. hold onto hope and love for him, but until youre happy on you own, i don’t think a reconciliation can happen. worry about you and what you can do to make yourself feel better. if deactivating your Facebook, is helping your healing then great! if youre bored without it, get it back. you wont be able to let go until you start putting yourself before your ex.

im all for reaching out and giving it your all – i just don’t think its productive until you are emotionally more removed from the situation. i definitely think once enough time has passed its perfectly ok to make contact. but i think the contact has been made only after you’ve at least found happiness on your own. if you haven’t and your ex rejects you again, you will have to start the grieving process all over again.

i think you saying “i don’t think ill ever not need him”, is a huge red flag at this point in time. in any relationship, we need to recognize that we don’t NEED the other person. its not healthy to rely on someone else for your own happiness. i really feel for you because I’m also in a place where i don’t want to date anyone else, where i don’t think anyone will replicate the connection my ex and i had, but at a certain point we can only do what we can do. i know you probably wont take my advice, but it is extremely difficult to “fake” being friends with someone who you are in love with. he will see right through it. of course you wont blurt it out of the blue that youre in love with him still and you’ll have some casual conversations to gauge the conversation, but i really think you should wait until youre feeling happier. i have been where you are. i was severely depressed, has obsessive thoughts and i couldn’t even fake a smile.

I think you really need to try to put yourself before him right now and your own health. LAbound’s story is a perfect example. his ex only came back once he started to love and take care of himself. I’m not saying you should never try again – i think you absolutely should. when you love someone this much you should always do all you can. but don’t worry about how much time has passed or if he’ll forget you. you need to make sure you are ok and you are happy and healthy regardless of what happens. he will know if youre really confident of if youre faking it.

just be patient. its only been a couple months since you’ve been out of a 5 year relationship. its normal to not have enjoyed dating yet – its still very early! just because you didnt meet anyone right now doesnt mean you are doomed forever. it was probably too soon for you.

if you and your ex are truly soul mates then it will work itself out. i felt like my ex and i knew each other inside and out and he knew me better than anyone in the world. them leaving or coming back is out of our control. all you can do is control your own life and actions. try to focus on the positives you still have and not what you don’t have. if its meant to be it will work out in the end.