-
Posts
-
Thanks a lot for your reply. Hope someone else would drop by to give some more comments on this theory. @TravelBug you here?
Yesterday
Yesterday went ok.
She send mass-snap of her getting ready for work out.
I did not reply.She send another mass-snap later on.
I did not reply.Then she send me a snap of her getting ready for job. The text was: This workclothes isn´t really me.
This one I think was send only to me, as her points only went up by 5. So I replied: “Yes, you cant see you butt implants anymore” (This is joke we had)
She replied with a picture of her smiling and some laaughing smiles…Later in the evening there was anohter mass-snap.
I did not reply…And one more thing:
I know she has plans with someone tonight, but I dont know with who! And last night at 3 AM she became friends with this single guy from her gym. Ofcause my mind is playing tricks on me now!Who is he?
Why are they up at 3 am? Was she at a club were they meet?
Who does she have plans with tonight?
Is it a date?But hey… Ive felt like this many times before these last 1,5 months. Everytime it has turned out to be nothing, so I got worked up over nothing. I keep teeling myself it is the same this time…
Hope to still get some replies to this theory:
She was sooo interrested in the fact that I was looking for job in her city and will soon move there… “When will you move, where will you work, how soon can you get here” ect… These were the topics that really got her talking…
Like I said in my first post she has started a new life. New school, 2 new jobs, sport at a high level. She is extreemly busy….
Could there still me some attraction, but she is somehow forcing herself not to feel anything as she cant see how we can make a realtionship work long distance anymore???She is very stressed, so perhaps our longdistance relationship became yet another stress factor
It’s hard to say but I can imagine it’s hard to maintain a long distance relationship and you have to plan all the time to meet each other. It’s becoming a lot easier when you live close to each other. How much did you two talk about this during your relationship? I think it’s a great indicator if you happen to talk about this issue in your relationship. It could be one of the reasons she was convinced it will not work out with you. Changing this might be helpful, but I don’t think this will change her feelings for you.
I had a similar situation. In my relationship I was always negative about my work and after the break-up I started to look for other jobs. She was very interested to hear about this. I didn’t change job as of yet, but it got her attention.
I wouldn’t read too much into her adding whoever on Facebook. In the grand scheme of things, that doesn’t matter. She still has lingering feelings for you, I think if she dates someone else, it’ll only remind her of how right you were and not who she’s with.
I think, you used the right amount of communication yesterday. Only reply if she only snapchats you. But I also don’t like that its always about her. Not, “hey, how are you.” So it makes me wonder if you should wait even longer…But just feel it out for now.
Todays update…
Not much new. There was 2 mass snaps today. I choose to let them be for 4 hours before opening them (you can see when peple opens your snap) and I did not reply 🙂 She didnt do any updates on facebook about her day, today. She normally does this, so I guess it was a busy day…I will still send her the text tomorrow morning about “have you seen our favorite tv show has returned”
I have been thinking a lot today about how she might feel. I do honestly believe my theory could be true. It would make better sence as why she wants to know so much about my new life, acts hot/cold and needs to make sure “were she has me”…
Dont know if I am just imagining things now.
I think that she still wants to have you in your life but not have you as a bf yet. To want you as a bf I think will take time of being friends and re-attracting her. You are on the right path though. Just hold back on your feelings, be cool, and don’t ever let her know you’re still in love with her.
Creed,
There is no “we” or “our” anymore. She’s gonna see that and cringe. I’m telling you that she just wants attention and she knows you’re still around waiting for her. Stop texting her.
I know what she’s doing. You need to disappear. Make her wonder where you went.Already did that… Went through 23 days NC. It worked (I thought) but I guess I blew it a bit by getting carried away when we texted…. Now she knows my situration…
Man, I so want to ask her about who she was with last nigtht…
I wish you were here so I could slap you. Forget everything! She doesn’t exist unless she text message or calls you personally. Forget snapchat. Attention hors use snapchat FOR ATTENTION.
I don’t think you’re in the right mindset right now. You need to be able to meet her face to face and understand that you may never be with her ever again…. And be ok with that. If you’re not at that place yet, than you’re not ready. Don’t F this up.Yes, creed, it doesn’t matter who she was with…she can do whatever she wants and you can’t control that. Don’t waste your time and energy into something you can’t control.
Take back your reigns a bit, and do nc for 3 days to a week. And and how she reacts.
NevergiveUp thanks for making me laugh at a horrible moment in my life. 🙂 but what you said was also true lol
Good one…I will keep repeating this to myself everytime I get an attention seeking snap… And reply shortly to real conversations, and not tell her everything I am doing.
I wish you were here so I could slap you. Forget everything! She doesn’t exist unless she text message or calls you personally.
I feel like I WAS in the right mindset after the NC. I was in control, and she clearly liked what she saw. But all it took was 2 days of texting for her screw with my mind haha 🙂
(Girls: This has to be your superpowers) 🙂
- You must be logged in to reply to this topic.