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Ok I only read your first post, so here it goes:
First of all what did you do that ended it?
Second: after only 8 days of NC you contact her and give her a message that basicly asks for reconciliation?? And tell her you suddenly see everything so clear, and wonderfull things are happening in your life? Dude… 8 days is nothing?? Nothing major can happend in 8 days, and she cannot get to miss you in 8 days…
Third: She asked you to go away. This clearly indicates she is NOT ready! (Like I just told you) And you basicly start begging her with your texts. Sorry dude but you were begging… But its ok. You did what is natual.
Your plan now
Go 100% No contact. No matter what she texts you, you do not reply. For your own good. Give her a chance to miss you. And dont ask for the ring back. You are an alpha-male now! You dont care about silly stuff like that. Besides: when you get to the re-attraction part it could be a good card to have on your hands.And for gods sake: use this NC wisely! Work your ass of to improve yourself. Many people forget this part. Improve yourself. Be happy!!!
I totally agree with what @creed said. Do NC properly. Which means you don’t even have to reply to her texts or calls. I know its tough but you have to do it if you want to win her back. 🙂
Exactly… I know it goes against everything that feels natural to you. But it HAS to be done….
thanks guys, it helps a lot having support! We were fighting a lot before this break up, weve broken up before but always got back together.. guess she didnt want to fight anymore.. i got emotionally abusive.. i used some things she was going through and twisted them to hurt her as i was very very very hurt by her seeing her ex right after we broke up. i wasnt in a right state of mind.. i know what i did was wrong..
things were moving in the right direction with my life, we were both getting things sorted. im close to having the career i want and i was just let known about hat. also my loan has been approved. so that means a credit history (we were gonna buy a house)
hey CreeD What do you mean about the ring?
What about if she says anything about the stuff she has of mine? Should i just ignore it?
wont she think im immature for not responding when i asked for my stuff back? who knows, it might not even happen.. maybe because i told her i need stuff for my interview, she wont give it to me or will wait til i message her.. do i just tell her ive been busy?
I know how tempting it is when you know passwords, but it really isn’t good for you emotionally. You usually only find out things you shouldn’t know. It is really best to just let it go. I know how hard that is. I do, but you really should concentrate on you right now. And not worry about her.
No contact is the way to go here.
Hi there!
I agree with everyone, she definitely needs some space to be able to calm her anger.
Even though it seems unfair to you that she is reacting this strongly because you did something terrible only once, I don’t think that she can think of anything else than what you did that night, especially if she was in an abusive relationship before, I guess it gives her some kind of trauma so you have to understand that this is all that she can feel/remember about you at this moment…
I am sure you are very sorry and regret everything you said/did but as everyone said, you should definetely give her time and space to heal and forget.
The fact that she is angry, for me, means that she is hurt which is not a bad thing for you.
No contact is definitely one of the hardest thing that exists, I am always tempted every second to write to my boyfriend and sometimes I feel fine and other times I feel like the whole world is upside down… It is a very strange things to go through all these feelings at once… But we have to be strong!
Good luck to you I hope things works out! 🙂thank you all. i guess these are the words i need to hear/read.. the support helps a lot..
Tell your mum thank you for that. Hows this going to work? I dont suppose youd give me my ring back? it did mean a lot to me. Its okay if you dont want to. it is yours after all.
I asumed you were engaged??? 🙂
oh yeah we were… but this ring was a little different.. we were engaged, we almost had a child together.. but decided we both werent in the right place for a family.
this ring was her dads dads.. she gave it to me, but i gave it back when we broke up. i gave her my dads wedding band too.. she still has it, dunno if she still wears it. they fit both of us perfectly, i always said it was a sign.
i miss the ring, i go to play with it on my finger but it isnt there anymore. i shouldnt ahve given it back -.- but then i shouldnt have done all the stuff i did after we broke up.
how do you think it would work in my favor? your input is greatly appreciated!
Ok… Let her keep it. oomeday in the future it can be used as a topic when trying to reattract her… 🙂
Then you can ask what she did with it… But not now… Now is time for NC…
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