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But yes, we have our whole lives ahead of us! Uncertainty is not such a bad thing because all your options are open!
I think it would be helpful for me to move on if I knew that there was not a chance of us getting back together…But I won’t reach out to him to find out, EVER again.
I broke nc again. Yesterday, I saw my ex before my last ex and made me feel a bit nostalgic. I sent him a couple of funny pictures, and he responded. I didn’t say anything besides sending those pictures, but still I didn’t get the response I expected. He didn’t ask how I was or anything. Just said they were funny. I left it at that. Whatever! Maybe I needed to be reminded not to over romanticize what we had and get a reality check.
I’m still good and emotionally intact, thankfully.
dear TravelBug, how are you doing? I don’t think it’s terrible that you broke NC, you did it the right way, keeping it light and casual. I’m glad your ex responded immediately! Imagine how difficult it would have been if he hadn’t… now leave things at that, and see if he reaches out to you in a few days. He might. But, in the meanwhile, remind yourself that you are strong, and getting stronger every day, and that you know in your heart that you don’t want to be back with him, because you deserve better. I;m so glad you’re seeing someone new; just be honest and gentle with that new person, take things slow, and just enjoy yourself. It is hard to fall in love with someone new when you are still in love with – or trying to get over – someone else. So don’t force yourself to feel anything that you don’t. Just try to have fun, and enjoy yourself with the ne guy – don’t break his heart though!!!! – and if you ex writes to you, then great. If he doesn’t, even better. Stick to your NC and your resolve. But I think, all in all, it was good that you sent him those photos and got a response. It’s really odd that he didn’t ask how you are, but maybe he feels sad and guilty about having hurt you, and doesn’t want to give you any hope ? In which case, that means he’s a good guy, not trying to lead you on in any way. Just try to think that, and think that whatever he’s doing, he is doing it with the best of intentions.
I hope that helps you.
But, in the meanwhile, HAVE FUN with new guy, and check in here every time you’re feeling sad. You’re NOT alone…Hey TravelBug, just checking in here after some weeks off, and wondering how you’re doing. Hope all is well, and hope that you had a good christmas and a good start to the new year. Hope you’ve been having a fun time with the new guy, and not thinking about the ex AT ALL. I’m doing much better than I was, haven’t contacted my ex at all in about two months, and am being strong and positive and looking to my future, and feeling grateful that I’m where I am. But I still love him and miss him and think of him, almost every night and morning. Oh well. With time I hope that will stop. I’m finally ready / hoping to meet someone new… I think that will really help me in moving on. I think/hope that it’s helped you too!
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