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I have been in no contact for 2 weeks, more like 1 week since my ex contacted me because of a picture i liked on facebook so i set up a meeting at the end of the month
She messaged me today to ask me when i was free because we will have to meet up sooner
And now she sent me another message saying “honnestly its not my problem if your dont answer lol”
I still didnt respond
1 of 3 things pops to my mind
-shes dating someone new
-shes going on a trip
-she going nuts overthinking and wants to get things over withSounds like she’s just trying to get a reaction out of you.. which is probably a good thing for you.
Don’t ignore her completely. Tell her you need time and space right now and she shouldn’t contact you for a while, then continue with no contact.
But i did tell her i needed space before she ever sent me that and now she says that this is all very imature and wishes me a good life.. Im continuing no contact as she could read the messages i sent her and see that i say word for word i need time right now and we will talk at the end of the month
@lin91
My ex messaged me today to tell me she will be deleting me off facebook because im not responding to her.. I dont want to break no contact.. Because ive read and herad that you shouldnt break it under no circumstances!
No contact is more for you to make improvements in the areas you know contributed to a break up. She might be reaching out to you to try and resolve the issues together in an adult manner. If you continue to ignore her, you might be ruining a chance to at least talk about how you could both improve to make each other happier in a possible future relationship. Or she might just want to be friends, but you won’t know unless you reply to her. The longer you ignore her, the more hurt and angry she will become. If she doesn’t want to mend the relationship or make amends, you could try no contact again.
PS: Are you aware that you’ve started 36 posts? It’s confusing to know if this is the same girl you mentioned 1 1/2 years ago or not. It’s also hard to keep up with the original problem and questions when you start new posts. You might consider starting a subject and then just continue on the same one so people can keep up with what’s happening.
@patricia12 fair enough but this account existed for another ex.. Thought i could come back and post again for another.. And ive viewed a video from brad browning that says “under no circumstances should no contact be broken,no matter the cost” ive got a week left to this no contact thing.. And still trying to see myself if its what i want or not..
So i broke my no contact.. And she keeps insisting we should meet up before the end pf the month because its important i asked why still no answer since shes at work but shouldnt be long
There is no magic number of days to no contact as it depends on each individual situation. So why not meet up with her and hear what she has to say..
@patricia12 its what im doing she asked to meet up tomorow
@patricia12 she came to see at my car in the parking of the meet up, then we went in the restaurant. When we sat down she started crying because she saw me, then we catched up on things; she hasnt been doing much lately.. Not going on dates, staying in bed, not going out, barely seeing friends pretty much not good news, her important msg is that she gave me an STD that was easily cured so no worries she pretty much had it for a long time or i had it and when i got cheked bad results came back (but im still sketchy on the situation,but i am in disbelief that she cheated on me).. I told her how everything is going good for me, i made her laugh the entire time, we somewhat re organised another date although i dont know if it will happen more news on that tmrw.
Her and i hd hands at the begining for a little bit as i calmed her down, then we laughed alot, then we went to walk, she kept bumping into me, and i showed her a video and she was verry close to me to watch the video. When we parted ways i only said goodbye tale care of yourself and later on after that she texted me saying “you left pretty quick when we said goodbye to eachother” think she wanted me to hold her hand the entire time and at the end for me to hug her and maybe more.
The meet up was good but i tagged her on something yesterday and she didnt like it; it was a post of puppies for sale as she wants to buy one and i msg her mom to ask what the “imposed folow up” that she said her daughter would be doing last monday.. Her mom opened it but left it there no answer..
Oh and also she was twizling her hair like the first date a girl has with a boy that she likes
Sorry to hear about the STD, but glad it can be cured. I guess you’re not much of an affectionate guy. Geez, at least a big hug would’ve been nice after your time together! Stop posting silly stuff on social media. And don’t ask her mom about stuff either. The hair thing could just mean she was nervous. Stop reading into things. Just go out together, talk together, have fun and give her a hug or kiss.
If she agrees to seeing me again @patricia12 trust me all i wanted was to bring her close to me but they say that the 1st meet up must be short and light hearted.
Its her birthday tomorow and ill be sending her a happy birthday text from which i use to see if she has anything planned and if its the case ill simply ask if she is free on tuesday or wensday to fo wall climbing like we talked about the last time we saw each other
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